Can a completely sexual relationship become something more or will it eventually die down?

Question

In your opinion do you think relationships like 'no strings attached' or 'one night stands' etc can somehow eventually become an emotionally invested relationship? Or will the two people only stay sexual partners until it is no longer warranted? Why or why not?

broken_heart_at_48 · Accepted Answer

This isn't a math formula. You're talking about feelings emotions lust and love. It's going to be different for everyone because we're individuals. When I was young I had several no strings attached relationships and majority of the girls I messed with caught feelings even though they knew what the deal was from the beginning so I believe most people that enter into this type relationship go into it without being honest with themselves. But didn't really have any major emotional fallouts had a couple that told me they loved me and only wanted to be with me and I did my best to be sensitive to their feeling but basically told them that's not where I'm at so they can do their thing and I'll do my thing and if we do our thing together then cool if not then that was cool also which 9 times out of 10 they said they were ok with that but usually I had to ease up because they really caught feelings and I didn't want to be an asshole and most of the time we remained cool with each other and I'd bet if I ran into any of them now twenty something years later as long as they were single they would be cool with knocking boots again. So really there's no right or wrong answer to your question it is going to be different for everyone. Just try and remember there's no reason to be a jerk if things don't work out and be honest from the beginning. Best way is to end things before resentments are formed and remember not every relationship is gonna work and if someone doesn't want to be with you don't drag it out trying to make them want to be with you because it won't work just let them go and move on

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

It's not completely impossible, but it's VERY unlikely. When people have a relationship that's just about sex, they usually do so exclusively because of attraction, which means very little if any effort was put into determining compatibility or similar values and life goals. Even if feelings end up developing, it's rarely going to be between two people that are going to be compatible long-term.

And that gets us to the point: you should NEVER enter a casual-sex or sex-only relationship with ANY expectations of a long-term relationship EVER happening - in fact, you should expect the opposite. Sure, lighting strikes occasionally, but a few exceptions don't change the rule, and chances are, you (whoever reads this) won't be the exception, but the rule.

NamerOfStars · Answer

Based on my personal experience, I don't think human sexuality can remain completely devoid of emotional attachment for long- the sheer number of people who insist otherwise suggest that it's just me, but I remain dubious.

Jjpayne · Answer

It all depends on the people in it... Some do and some don't. It all depends on their connection and/or chemistry. I'd be inclined to say similar interests and beliefs but sometimes deeper relationships can start without those too and having things the other can teach you about can enrich the relationship between you

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I think the chance of those types of relationships becoming more is less than 10%.

jeremy_09 · Answer

it can, but it will usually die down (or just stop suddenly). don't get your hopes up until things happen

Wise4myage · Answer

It will stay purely sexual and then end.

Tztop2006 · Answer

I mean it can happen but usually it’s very one-sided so it doesn’t work out like one person will be ready for a relationship and the other ones still just wanting to have fun so if you go into a friends with benefits relationship try not to expect anything more than sex and friendship but it may naturally happen to.

COMMODOREII · Answer

You would need to get to know each other first and build a friendship first. Then maybe over time if you do like each other a lot it can get more serious. But it is rare.