How do you cut ties with someone you knew for a long amount of time politely?

[just_a_potato]

Here's the context: Back in sophomore year being the horny teenager I am I got a steamy with a hot Venazulan junior that I voluntarily tutored in English. After a summer of hooking up I broke it off because what we were doing wasn't enough for us and I didn't want to have my first time with someone I wasn't in love with. Fast forward and we've talked on and off the past 2 years, I can tell he has ulterior motives everytime but I'm not the type to hook up on random anymore. I think he graduated this year and he called me recently saying we don't talk anymore, he wants to get to know me better again and I really really really really don't want that lol. He could be trying to be nice but I would rather we go our separate ways, how do I get rid of this fling once and for all? TLDR: Guy I almost banged wants to stay in my life but I think the opposite, help?

[Makeushiver]

The two biggest questions then are these
1) Just how good was the sex when you guys were hooking up?
2) Just how much do you think that would make him something a bit more responsible. Tell him the job for for your daily daily fuck toy has been filled and uses batteries.

If you let this guy back into your life we both know that it would end for exactly the same reasons as before
with you having to physically move him out, it will need to get physical and I'd call the cops so they could either take care of getting him out of there on a 5150. That only holds him for 72 hours & he will likely be pissed when he does. I'd notify the cops as soon as you hear that he's out. Keep a journal to have a record of his behavior and the steps you've a;ready taken because you feel like he might be violent- has he ever been?
That at least will start a paper trial underscoring how dangerous this guy is. The cops will then have a record of his behavior if it ever gets to finger pointing. Please, start a journal- not on your Google calendar but a written journal in a moleskin type calendar/notepad.. Call the local cops if you're rural, call the Sheriff. you can het a restraining oeder that will prohibit him from being within a set distance from where you live, where you work etc. That could be the fill in data if this escalates legally.

[just_a_potato]

Wait what

[Jjpayne]

Gently... I'd say to continue to be friends is how I would want to be told. Because I would not want to loose them from my life completely. But saying it very straight forward and reacting to the emotion that follows as best as possible

[zollo]

Easy, just don't respond. This is the best case scenario because you don't actually see him in person so if the only type of communication you have is over the phone then just ignore him. And if he keeps being persistent and calls you then block his number.

[just_a_potato]

I don't think it'll go this far but he's been to my house before

[zollo]

Does he seem like the type of person to go to your house? Does he have a more shy personality? Because I know some shy/ nerdy guys who finally have a girl friend or first relationship they have a hard time letting that stuff go but wouldn't actually do anything crazy.

[just_a_potato]

I don't know he isn't very bold but I also wanted to be polite as I stated because I'm too nice for my own good

[socksguy]

I think we're in two different places right now. Good luck in your future... please don't contact me anymore, but I really hope you find happiness.

[Jamie05rhs]

I'm confused. How did you both a) already hooked up, and yet B) not had your first time? That doesn't compute.

[just_a_potato]

I probably used the wrong terminology, we've done many things together but we hadn't had penetrative sex. Then again that isn't the point you should be focusing on I need advice

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay. I get it now. Thanks for the clarification.

[Jamie05rhs]

by the way, that emoji was supposed to be a capital B; sorry.

[Jamie05rhs]

So let me ask you a question: why don't you want to rekindle the relationship? You ended it because you were scared it was getting out of control and you were getting in too deep; correct? So is it just the fact that you're afraid of your emotions and you're afraid of falling in love with him all over again?

[just_a_potato]

Ah no no no I may have had a thing for him but I know he could never like me on a romantic level. He seems to have a fire in his pants which is unceasing. Also I'm already talking with someone I'm thinking of being exclusive with. But I guess I wouldn't mind trying to create a friendship, I'm not very good at making friends with others let alone people who've already seen my naked body so what's your verdict 😂

[Jamie05rhs]

Ohh. Okay, then. Cut him off. If you don't like him, you don't like him. It's unfortunate, but it is what it is. Just curious, though: Why do you think he could never like you on a romantic level? Does this go back to your insecurity about your looks? (I've been reading your posts on here for a while now.)

[Tztop2006]

Fuck them then say we can’t be friends anymore

[just_a_potato]

I'd rather not fuck him

[Tztop2006]

But that’s the most polite thing you can do

[COMMODOREII]

Sorry to say but you might have to ghost him potato.

[just_a_potato]

Ughhh i knowwww it just isn't in my nature

[COMMODOREII]

I know. You have such a big heart. But its best my friend.

[TallAnon]

Just be honest and follow through :)

[asshole_]

You move

[just_a_potato]

😳😳😳

[OddBeMe]

Just let things go quiet. Maybe occasionally talk to them to keep up the relationship.

[Nayyr]

Tell him to fuck off, but put a sorry infront of it

[just_a_potato]

I don't know if that's polite like it sounds low key meannnn