Single ladies and gents: How do you cope with the lonely nights?

Question

I've never really been in any long-term relationships.. just some quick dates or convos that never turned into the real thing. I have nights where I just feel so lonely. I have a few good friends and decent family/upbringing, but I just long for that special partner. It often either ends with a heavy dose of ZZquil or melatonin or it leads me down the spiral of feeling like I'll never find that person as a dark skin black young woman. I don't mean to bring race into it, but when you look at the stats, we're the last of the bunch to get picked. That's not really the point of the question though.

I guess in summary I ask all the single guys and gals on GAG, how do you deal with these ridiculously lonely nights? All I want is a warm cuddle... which is too much/personal to ask of a friend and not part of the arrangement of a friends with benefits.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It’s human nature to want to find love. As humans we crave human touch and attention from those we love. I’ve been single my whole life and at almost 27 I definitely have my nights I feel like that. Surround yourself with the people you love and enjoy them. 9/10 guys will do just about anything for sex so finding a guy that won’t want a friends with benefits situation will be harder yet not possible. Best wishes!

P. S. I have a thing for black girls. There are more guys like me out there.

Truthatanycost · Accepted Answer

I don't feel lonely because I enjoy my own company. You mentioned friends with benefits... if you've taken part in that, then your chances are even less.

rachel776 · Accepted Answer

i like chatting with rando guys when i don't have a boyfriend. you'll have to send nudes at some point or they lose interest, but if i like the guy i don't mind

RenWalker101 · Answer

Beer, pizza, play guitar then I do laundry and watch a movie until I fall asleep.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Same way I always have. Just try not to think about it. Pet/sleep with my cat. Hang out with friends. Stay to busy and to tired to be lonely.

AmeerX · Answer

Even black women can easily find companionship

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Maybe you can try chatting with people. Even if it's just as friends, at least it will help you not feel as lonely.

FriendlyEnigma · Answer

I just hug my pillow when i sleep, it helps for some reason

Daylight7550 · Answer

I have multiple fans blowing air on me to feel a sensation. I remember fond memories of the past that I would love to go back to.

Twalli · Answer

My dog helped me

GreenGold1992 · Answer

I watch a romantic movie or I watch porn, both of which only temporarily fills the void.

Bigggylicker · Answer

Whats wrong with your race? I like the sound of you.. there's many ways and would love to share them with you.

allenwants2 · Answer

Don't let it get you down I know the feeling of needing a compassionate hug the overwhelming feeling of being left behind tomorrow's a new day get out there and keep a positive outlook and you will find what your looking for

jirwin7979 · Answer

yank my crank then zzz

Nayyr · Answer

I cry

B2281 · Answer

In some ways you can get very used to it, it becomes routine. But there are times that it's nice to break things up, however with the covid it's been more difficult. So just talking to people on places like this.

boyfriend1915 · Answer

Masturbate or talk to hot online female friend

QuietRunner · Answer

masturbation

flashgrandad · Answer

I tend to spend time online, hopefully in the hopes of finding someone to chat to. I would love to give someone a warm cuddle but nobody here to do it with.

Anonymous · Answer

You get used to it the longer it goes on. Yes there are still some nights that are worse than others, but you just push through it and try to focus on something else. It passes eventually lol.