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How do I reassure boyfriend after we had a couple swap orgy?

We had an orgy with another other couples and let's just say my boyfriend's performance and lack size let him down compared to the other guy. My boyfriend came rather quickly with the other woman meanwhile the other guy went on for forever with me making me cum multiple times and giving me pleasure like my boyfriend never has, he also had sex with his girlfriend when he was done with me and I touched myself watching this goliath of a man and his girlfriend. The guys took a break and got a sandwich and watched us girls fooling around, the other guy was ready to go again and made love to both us girls at thd same time but my boyfriend failed to get an erection. Since then he's been rather bitter though it was his idea, I only went along with it to make him happy, my boyfriendis the only guy I've beenwith i didn't realise that his penis was so small and other guys had penises that big outside of porn. How do I reassure him that he's enough for me and that he can't compare his performance and size to this guy. The other girl suggested that we do it again but without my boyfriend as he wasn't up to much and it was weird the way he was glaring at us while we did it and I might take her up on the offer.
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  • Well that is funny as as it was his idea and he wasn't up to the task you poor lady now you know what a real cock can do you will soon be craving it as your fella just isn't up to the task. youse are over he will never be the same with you and up to you if you join again it would be cheating but you need to get satisfaction yourself now you have tasted it you will want it again and again. talk with him if you don't want to lose him and be open and honest maybe give your fella a Viagra (which possible the other fella had taken ) next time so he can perform a bit better but really if he is that much smaller then the other chick won't want to maybe find another couple or let him have another girl for sex on the nights you want to go see the couple you have meet that way it's both cheating at same time. but I do think it is over and out for you two and you can try for as long as you can to say it was nothing but you will want a big cock again and to can multiple times again and he just cannot do that for you. the other option is you could be a hot wife where you can fuck other men and he knows and approves or cuckold where he actually is present and watches but that's for the two of you to work out. its not your fault or his so don't blame the experience but accept you need more then he can give to you but your still want his baby then on the side you need another man with a bigger cock and who knows how to use it..

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  • "I might take her up on the offer" - Without your boyfriend's consent that would be cheating.
    The way you tell that story does not sound as if you actually want to reassure your boyfriend. If only for the sentence I quoted, you appear as if you would only keep your boyfriend around until a better option is in sight.
    Good luck hedging your bets that way - does not speak in your favour though that you would rather cheat on your boyfriend than simply drop him (which would be the honourable way).

Most Helpful Girl

  • It will never end well if it continues this open relationship sh*t. Just make it a twosome, you and your man. You may end up losing your own guy and making the other girl mad and then be left alone at home.

    • I've never met anyone that had had a relationship survive after bringing in other people into the bedroom.

    • @hbg84 Right on!!! xx

    • Thanks, Gag. xx

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  • Meh, he played the game and lost.

    It's his loss as he played a stupid game, and won a stupid prize.

  • Relationships don't usually survive these things. At your age you are supposed to be experimenting but having sex with others and expecting a relationship to last rarely works. It cuts against human nature. I'm not saying don't have these experiences-just realize that it is not conducive to a lasting relationship

  • You can't reassure him so don't try.

    after what he saw he won't listen to and or believe anything you try to say to reasssure him

  • You can't. your relationship is over. Doing what you did was a bad idea

  • You can’t reassure him

    • I agree you can't reassure him

  • Sounds like you've moved into a lifestyle that even though he may have suggested it he's not comfortable with maybe seeing you with another man killed it for him... You're wanting to know how to reassure him but you're thinking about doing a threesome behind his back I think that you've lost interest and you should move on and let him move on but that's just an opinion

  • And this is why I don't recommend multiples in a relationship. I've never had a relationship survive a multiple sex session. Truth is that you can't. It was a bad move and now it just has to play out.

  • Boyfriend shouldn't set swap up if he not able to perform
    Baby you sure you still want him after you done had a big cock and many orgasms
    could be wrong but I think if that couple ask you to join them you would be there
    now be honest you really want to fuck that guy again

  • Who's idea was it to get involved in this? If it was your boyfriend, then he deserves to feel the way he does.

  • You are considering cheating on your boyfriend with this other woman? You know, that sex with her was a one time deal. That one night doesn't give you permission to. mess around anytime you want. I feel sorry for your boyfriend.

  • Well... If that was me, I really wouldn't live it down... Ever.
    Unless I had a Surgery, I'd never recover. This is why we shouldn't pair up with other people... It's damaging.

  • It's gonna take him a while to clear his head of that experience. There really nothing you can say to him that won't make things worse. Every time you try to reassure him, he's just going to re-live his failure and know that you are thinking about it too.

  • Are you ready to lose your boyfriend?

  • Everything seems ruined now

  • "Only went along to make him happy"... now that is funny. You were happy to have strange cock.

  • Not good, not good

  • Ahh... the trouble with orgies.

  • Weak Troll

  • He took a beating, lost a lot of confidence. Is he a good partner

    • Do you want to keep him

  • This sounds fake. 1985 penthouse forum called and said they want their story back.

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