What does it mean when my boyfriend constantly dreams about a 3 way relationship?

I'm in a monogamous committed relationship with a man. I'm a bisexual woman and he is a straight man. Although I am bisexual I don't feel the need to be with women as I don't feel the need to be with other men, I am pretty satisfied with my relationship on all levels. We discussed the idea of having a threesome with another woman as a sexual experience that could be fun for everyone involved. With the current pandemic of course it doesn't feel safe to carry on with this plan until further notice but my boyfriend constantly tells me about his dreams where we have a 3 way relationship - not a sexual experience but an actual relationship - with another woman. He asks me if I would like that because I'm bisexual and I could be happier if I could have a relationship with a man and a woman. Truth is, I don't think I would. I consider myself monogamous and I'm not interested in having a polygamous relationship at all. I've told him this every time he asked but his dreams continue. I thought it could be just a fantasy or that somehow he believes that a bisexual person will never feel complete in a monogamous relationship with just one person from one gender which in my case is a wrong assumption. I've always had monogamous relationships with both genders and I never felt like I was missing out on anything, not more than people who are heterosexual or homosexual in happy monogamous relationships. But there's a third option and that's that having a 3 way relationship with me and another woman is what he really wants and he is the one who is not satisfied with just me. Any thoughts on this? I know the best way to know is to ask him directly and frankly but I would like to have some options from other people on the subject before doing so. Thank you!
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  • The gods send nuts to those who have no teeth, many bisexual women would be happy to get such offer, it's called polyamorous throuple, and are you sure that you fully satisfied in a monogamous relationship? and that's not one of the reasons that you previous relationships didn't lasted? you know serial monogamy is not true monogamy, also you said that you discussed the idea of having a threesome with another woman, and you was okay with that idea, yea so far for monogamy, and think that a three way relationship make more sense than a one time threesome, if you going for something like that then why not go all the way? I think that a one time thing is pretty pointless, and it technically would be more licentiousness, because one-night stands are licentiousness by default, that said yea it he likely didn't want a FFM threesome and a FFM relationship purely to help out his bisexual girlfriend, he is a man, and like many men he find girl on girl hot, and yea he want to be with two women because he got greedy, but I don't know if you would had acted the same if he was dating a straight woman, but it's likely that he start dating you in the first place because he is hoping for a lot of FFM action, straight women are much less likely to agree for FFM action. As for if he is satisfied with just you, it depends on how often you have sex with him, men are usually more sexual than women, if you having sex with him often and he still want to be with other woman than he is just greedy and/or he trying to benefit from the fact that you are bisexual. But technically a woman is a woman, but you sure that you are not missing the feeling of being with a woman? you feel exactly the same being with a man and a woman? it's hard to believe that, and the fact that you already agreed to a FFM threesome don't support your claim. :)

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  • Okay this is coming from a bisexual man. That was in the same shoes that your in.

    But my ex-wife was the one that wanted a three way relationship.

    So we tried it for like a year maybe a little more. Anyway long story short.

    It started out as this perfect thing 3s company thing going on. Two guys one chick thing you know.

    Till she started to only started to only be with the other guy and favoritism showed its ugliness.

    I started to feel left out and unwanted in the group.

    So it started out great but ended horrible

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  • Has he ever previously had a threesome?

    • No, never and he is both excited and terrified of it

    • Which of these is more likely: 1. He wants to have a threesome to fulfill his fantasy of having two naked girls in his bed, or 2. He is afraid that he is not satisfying you and this is the best way that he can think of to fulfill "your need?"

  • guys love that, not a threat to you at all

  • He's dropping hints about wanting one.

  • Almost every guy dreams of being with multiple women. Most of us are fully happy with monogamous relationships though.

  • You have figured it out correctly

  • I'm fine with three way sex but wouldn't want Three Way relationship