In your opinion, Why's sex important in your relationships?

[JackieJaii]

[TemptedTerry]

Compatibility is vital for a relationship, and that includes sexual compatibility. Investing time in a relationship, to find out you have completely different sexual tastes, really is a waste.

As a guy, the act of sex itself is important for several reasons. I am claiming ownership. The mental charge that brings is fulfilling. Secondly, I damn well want to pleasure her, and do it at a high level. And I want her to associate that pleasure with me. Thirdly, you know that she is at her most vulnerable when deciding to have sex, and that level of trust she instills in you, mentally cements the relationship. Fourthly, you get an intimate and emotional connection that is higher than what most other parts of the relationship can bring.

And lastly, the aim of most relationships is to get to the end. Like get married, start a family etc. Virility is an important trait that a woman looks for, and a man wants to demonstrate. You want her to know you are able to perform at a high level, so that is a boxed ticked for her.

Sexual chemistry needs to be important. I like my girls sexually submissive. It wouldn't work for me if a lady likes to take charge, and ride me so she can dictate the pace. As a one off, possibly, but not as a preference. Then there is IQ and sex, but that is a completely different topic ;)

[JackieJaii]

Damn. I agree with you

[DavidFox]

Because it’s an important expression of love and creates a stronger intimate connection. When we make love we submit to each other and can feel physically and spiritually a part of each other and be safe together. That escape from the world is helpful in that it strengthens the relationship.

[JackieJaii]

Damn man. That's intimate

[DavidFox]

Exactly, it’s important

[JackieJaii]

How do you feel about the comments saying it's not important?

[DavidFox]

Those who say it isn’t important haven’t yet experienced real love and intimacy. Those who think they have may feel bitter or upset and if that is their mindset it wasn’t real love at the time. I believe anyone who has authentically felt love and made love to someone special wants that feeling again in their lives. They feel it’s so important in a successful relationship it’s gotta happen before marriage because you can risk vowing to be with one person and after marriage when you try to make love never feeling that again.

[JackieJaii]

You're very wise on this subject for your age. I respect that.

[DavidFox]

Thank you very much. That is kind.

[PrudentGuy]

Before I share my Opinion, I like to state, that there are many types of relationships.

Typical are platonic relationship like business partnering; or an amateur band / choir relationship; or two persons just enjoy example religious discussion together.

The above "relationships" obviously don't involve sex.

But I know you're talking about "romantic relationship". And in this case, sex is a must because otherwise why make it "romantic"? Why "intimate"?

Got my point?

Hence in my personal life, I have many business associates and a few business partners. These relationships are all platonic. I used to have a quintet and we enjoyed playing Classical together. Again this has no sex.

But even at the beginning, when I met my SO, I knew she's different. She's the "One". I knew I'll have sex with her.

And I "knew", if she says no to sex, I'll try a few more times, and if she persists, I'll eventually leave.

Fortunately she set a date and we looked forward to it. And a "relationship" was formed since, with sex as a cornerstone.

[Mikelaughs]

1 reason. sex is important is because it is a gift of intense pleasure you give each other

[JackieJaii]

Could you be in a sexless relationship?

[Mikelaughs]

for how long? Like, if she wants to wait a while, I understand. But not forever

[JackieJaii]

Like long term, maybe until marriage

[Mikelaughs]

It really depends on the person. Are you in that situation now?

[JackieJaii]

Oh not at all. I'm just curious as to other other people. And I'm surprised men here are mood into sex either for the womans pleasure or for a soul connection

[Kaneki05]

It's not.

[Angelo75]

Well I'm horny a lot.
Without sex in a relationship I'd just go crazy and maybe even get tempted to look elsewhere for sex. Which is even worse. :(
Both me and my lifemate should get everything we need from the relationship.
A friend, a mate, someone to rely to and a sexbeast

[RobM89]

When I have sex it feels like me and her are complete whole feels right

[JackieJaii]

So you look for the more intimate attraction than physical?

[RobM89]

Yes I’m looking for an intimate attraction

[genericname85]

because it is the ultimate validation and sign of acceptance as well as expression of intimacy and connection. without that, i'd feel there's something missing.

[nikbow]

Brings the energy up and creates chemistry and passion I think which is massive I think

[Gedaria]

It's a way of getting close and show your partner how much you love them...

[JackieJaii]

Agreed

[Gedaria]

So happy you agree 😀

[GreenGold1992]

Still a virgin, but I imagine sex would be important to maintain intimacy

[Bigggylicker]

To feel close and really express the want for each other. The pleasure you Give ro your partner is the feeling they can take deeply and Hold onto.

[hotguy281995]

Intimacy

[Anonymous]

Its not. Because we haven’t done it yet