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Is it reasonable to ask a guy to stop having sex once he's started?

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So I asked a question regarding a concern I had with my boyfriend, which I've quoted below the page break. Most replies supported my concern but I did have a few who told me that since I agreed, I really didn't have a right to tell him to stop and that I should've just let him done what he wanted. On one hand, I kinda agree with them - as shitty as that might sound. I can't imagine it's too easy for a guy to stop once he's gotten into it but I obviously don't know what it's like to be a dude. Then again, I guess I could just be being naive.

I guess I'm more-so interested in hearing from a guy's perspective on this, but I'm definitely open to hearing from other girls too.
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"So last night my boyfriend wanted to have sex and I didn’t but gave in after some persistence but I ended up telling him to stop a little bit in because he was being too rough and it was hurting.

He kept ignoring me so I tried scooting out from under him, but then he grabbed me and kinda held me down, telling me to stop being a b*tch. I didn’t really know how to react and just sorta gave up after that. We didn’t talk at all after he finished.

This morning he apologized and said he just got caught up in the moment but I still feel a little weird about it. I just... I don’t know. I’m torn between the fact that I agreed to it and that he didn’t stop when I asked him to. He’s never done anything like this before so I don’t know if he was just trying something different or what."

TLDR; I didn't want to have sex but eventually gave in after he kept persisting. It hurt though and I couldn't push through it so I asked him to stop multiple times and even tried pushing him off, which lead to him pinning me down. I gave up after that and just let him finish. He apologized the morning after and said he "just got caught up in the moment".
Is it reasonable to ask a guy to stop having sex once he's started?
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