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Is it transphobic not to want to sleep with a trans person?

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  • I won't turn down a person qualified for a job because they're trans. I have an old college friend who came out as trans a few years back and did the whole procedure thing. I still talk with them over social media, cuz I live in another country now. But I have zero interest in having sex with them, nor would I find them attractive. Call it a sexual preference or my orientation, but I prefer straight females. Even between straight women and straight men, there are preferences. Some like the other big, or skinny, or of a certain skin colour or hair colour. Some preferences are big and others are trivial, but it's each of our own rights to have those preferences. If some trans person came onto me, I turned them down and told them why, and they then trash me out as being transphobic for not wanting a relationship or to have sex with them, I'd tell them straight up to go get fk'd elsewhere with their ignorant guilt tripping. I completely get that for trans it can be very difficult to get into a relationship and can be pretty stressful, considering everything they went through to be happy with who they finally are... But I'm not on this planet for people's pity fuck and I don't owe anybody anything. If I don't want to have sex with anybody, then that's my and everyone else's right. And I also get it can be hard to put yourself out there and approach people, but don't fling your crap my way because I shot you down and finger me as some transphobic simply because you didn't get the answer you wanted. Is it any different than a straight girl approaching a straight guy, but the guy isn't interested, so she says he must be gay for not wanting to sleep with her, as if all guys should flip their wangs out at her beck and call? Grow up. That attitude and attacking others isn't going to improve your position or get what you want.

  • No, not in the slightest, just like it's not homophobic that I wouldn't go out with a gay person

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  • It's pretty transphobic to want to fuck the idea of a person, but then discredit them for what theyre packing.

    At what point is it okay for a girl to laugh at a guy for having a micropenis and at what point is it okay for a guy to be weirded out by the size of some girls clit? It is understandable to want a certain "sexual experience" but it is also ridiculously closed minded to negate an entire person based on the size and shape of what they have down there.

    You are not even giving someone the chance to pleasure you, you have no interest in pleasuring another person. I guess as a society we see sex as this very straightforward p to v thing and that is sad.

    Sex is about sexual pleasure. Sex is about sexual communication. Sex is about emotional intimacy. Sex is about showing someone you care about them but I guess based on everyone else's opinions, it's okay to throw an entire relationship down the drain because you dont like how something looks.

    • no its not you hippie. if it has a penis its a man and we don't want to fuck it

  • I think that's like saying gay men are misogynistic for not wanting to sleep with women, or lesbians are misandrist for not wanting to sleep with men.
    People can't control their sexuality. If a person doesn't want to have sex with someone, then they don't want to have sex with them. As long as they're not bigoted and prejudiced to the person, that doesn't mean they're misogynist, misandrist, or transphobic.

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  • What? No!!

    Who you sleep with is a preference...
    If it sexist cuz I don't wear tampons?
    No...

    I can't believe people actually voted yes... That dosent show fear or hate...

    If someone tries to tell you your a bad person cuz you won't have seen with them then there a fucking creep...

    Sorry for my language... But still...

    I'm not attracted to dudes... I've got gay friends, I've worked with gay men... Some were really fun to be around... But I'm not into men...

    That dosent make me homophobic... That mean I'm not attracted to men...

    If your over there shit posting trans... Then yes, your transphobic... But just not wanting to fuck one dissent mean anything other then it's just not what your into...

  • I am not going to get in the same bedroom with a transphobic, whether it is to sleep or have sex. Hell no!

    The word "transphobic" is applied to this behavior so that the left can insidiously suggest that anyone who chooses to not have sex with an XY "girl" has some aberrant condition. The reality is that these transgender quasi-women are not real women. They have XY chromosomes in every cell of their body, they began life as a male, they do not have real female genitalia, and they require a constant supply of hormones to maintain their quasi-female appearance.

    I refuse to associate with such people and I don't really give a damn whether you call me transphobic, bigoted, prejudiced, an old fool, or godzilla. The more the left call us names, the more they expose their hypocrisy: they will chastise anyone who calls a girl or guy slut or fat, but they don't mind calling us names when we disagree with their agenda. If it looks like I GAF, it's an optical illusion!

  • The dirty little secret about discrimination is that it's not all bad. I found a woman I was attracted to, shared values with me, wanted a future with me and has some of the same interests as me. I discriminated against everyone else who didn't have those qualities. Discrimination on immutable characteristics is one thing, but sexual preference and partner qualities are another.

    Don't sleep with a a trans person because they're bullying you and calling you transphobic if you don't. That's sexual harassment.

  • If it is considered transphobic to refuse sleeping with a trans gender , then all guys and girls could have civil suit cases against People who turned them down for gender bias

  • Not at all. Everyone is entitled to their own preferences. Ur only transphobic if you treat someone badly because they are trans. & you don’t need to have sex with someone to show you are tolerant and accepting of them

  • If you say transphobic is not to want to sleep with a trans person than if you drive a trans person does that make you a transporter?

    • Autobots! Roll Out!

  • No, its only a preference

  • no, it isn't transphobic... same way it wouldn't be homophobic if a guy or woman didn't want to have sex with someone their own gender...
    or not racist if you dont want to have sex with someone who isn't the same ethnicity as you...

    but i can guarantee a lot of people who are pushing for this to be the case will argue that people are... while ignoring personal preference and everyone's right to choose...

    after all can't have free speech, free will and have the right to refuse sex with someone who you are not interested in

  • No more than it's racist to not want to date a Jewish person, or not buy Chinese goods.

    The "phobic" aspect in law, is pretty clear that there must be a pattern and prejudice behind the words. Not simply preference.

    A trans is just a mentally ill person who has been convinced they are something they are not, and conned out their money to physically be made that thing. You should be caring and kind towards such a person, not hating on them.

  • Sure, but who says being transphobic is a bad thing anyway?

  • Lol no.

  • Your logic has transcended my understanding.

    • just because you won't date or hookup with a trans-person. does not make you transphobic.
    • so long as you don't try to shame them. for doing their own thing in life.

  • Please don’t think we all think that.

  • No since everyone can decide this on his/her own. I don't wanna sleep with a trans. But I usually like them. Most of them are really interesting persons and they have every right to be here. At least I can also tell a giel that I don't wanna sleep with her. It doesn't matter if trans or not. It's a matter of if you want or not or if you feel any attraction

  • Nope

  • Some people will say yes because if you are refusing to date them for being trans it means you don't see them as real women. That being said if someone thinks it is transphobic I'm not going to let them shame me into sleeping with a trans person. I'm ok with calling them their preferred pronouns but at the end of the day they can't force me to perceive them the way they wish to be perceived and I do NOT perceive them as real women and if that makes me transphobic I don't care.

  • No. In same way as not wanting to sleep with someone of your same gender isn't homophobic. People can have their preferences

  • No everyone has a preference, but if ya find the person attractive and you won't sleep with them only because they transgender than ya kinda in the closet.

    It's transphobic to hate someone only because they are transgender.

    • that makes no sense, they spend all their time trying to look female and if they can fool someone then that person is "in the closet?" doesn't that mean you're admitting trans women aren't real women?

  • Transphobia is an imaginary thing that was created by the Communists as another part of their larger plan to undermine Western Civilisation by normalising mental illness and sexual perversion.
    There is no 'phobia' involved in the fact that I do not want to arse fuck a man in a dress.
    I am not gay. End of story.
    Karl Marx wrote in the Communist Manifesto (1854) that it was essential to destroy the family and the social contract between men and women (that is where Feminism comes in) before a Communist "workers' paradise" could be created.

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