Guys, You Want Women To Initiate Sex More, Right?

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So instead of posts asking why women don't (even though some do) how about talk about why it's important for you and ways they could initiate that would really turn you on, make you feel wanted and desired. .

And ladies, please chime in if you do and perhaps helpful tips for men or women to improve this issue...
Or reasons why you don't (fear of rejection, too shy or scared etc.)

Lliam · Accepted Answer

Absolutely. I love it. All she has to do is signal that she's interested and I'm ready. There are many ways to send signals.
Clothes are obvious. Short skirts, lots of cleavage, side or underboob shots, nipple bumps that reveal no bra beneath a shirt.
Certain poses send clear signals.
Dropping to her knees before me and gazing up into my eyes like a supplicant is pretty obvious.
Running her hands over herself, especially her breasts, with a look of passion and desire on her face.
Even when wearing normal clothes, she can put her hands on top of my shoulders, press her boobs against me, and look up into my eyes with a mischievous smile. Or come up behind me, wrap her arms around my waist and press herself against me. Pretty much any body contact like that works.
She can turn her back, walk away while swaying her hips, and then turn her head to look over her shoulder with a twinkle in her eye. Or lean partially over a counter and subtly wag her butt as she glances toward me. Most any "come hither" look works.
Bending invitingly over anything while wearing a short skirt gives me ideas.
Lying languidly on the bed, or obviously naked beneath the sheet, with an expression that says "What are you waiting for?"
Dressing provocatively, of course. That could mean coming out of the bathroom wearing nothing but a towel and an "Oh. Does this interest you?" expression. Or appearing in something sexy. I'm not a fan of tight bra and pantie sets, body suits, and things like that. But those would appeal to some guys and definitely send a signal. I prefer see through lingerie and short, diaphanous robes. Soft, sexy and easy to access.
Slowly stripping is a sure fire way to initiate sex.
So body language and clothing are ways to initiate something. But I noticed that I mentioned facial expressions a lot.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Most men tend to be some degree of dominant and tend to take the initiative most of the time, and most of us are fine with that, but there isn't a man on the planet that doesn't want to know that he is desirable and that his woman desires him, and so it's important that women initiate sex (or just sexual behavior, though that's often going to lead to sex) at least sometimes.

But you don't necessarily need to use words to do so (though that can be hot too, for sure!). In my own relationships, I'd say that most of my girls, MOST of the time, did not use words to initiate, but actions. Sometimes they'd dress skimpy and walk around in front of me until I noticed. Sometimes I'd get "the look" (that kind of longing, "puppy dog eyes" look, often along with biting her bottom lip) that says "I need it BAD!" Sometimes she'd just come and cuddle with me and start kissing me, with those kisses quickly becoming forceful and insistent. Sometimes she'd come in for a hug and kiss, and while kissing, would grab my hand and put in on her boob (or, if she was really horny, her pussy), and sometimes she'd turn around in my arms and put BOTH of my hands on her boobs, with hers on top of mine, and turn her head back for more kissing.

Of course, some women are quite bold and direct too. I've had a few who would shuck their clothes and go right down on their knees the minute I walk through the door.

The point is, there's plenty of ways a woman can tell her man she wants him, and if you're a girl who has trouble saying the words, that's really no problem. There's lots of other ways to get the message across, and most of them will be crystal clear even to the thickest, most clueless guy.

JosyJosy · Accepted Answer

Ya I have no problem initiating sex, we both do. I just love caressing him and messing around when he's like gaming or something until he just can't resist anymore, and chooses to let his online team die for me. I feel like a villain x)

Morning sex is also a good one, best to let him know that you're open to it, that he's open to it. Don't want to like startle him or anything.
He can never say no to that wake up call, and neither can I

Both are nice. It makes you feel desired and sexy when he initiates it, the hunger he's got for you, so to speak.
Then again, initiating it yourself and seeing him go from Occupied to 'Ready For Action' just like that is also fantastic, I don't know, I like it to be a balanced, it's good

MrsJaximus-Lion · Accepted Answer

i used to be very moody and didn't initiate it as much it needed but i learned and jax told me about how it feels for him when i deny him and it does the same to me when he denied me too and we both learned that we dont need to be horny to have sex but we can have sex to get horny and it worked like a miracle and now we want each other a lot more. he initiate sex a lot and more than i could handle but we both learned from each other and we found the balance that works for us and we discovered that role playing and some toys are so helpful and fun and we learned to manage our time plus we dont have kids and am very good with my pills so no worries there

AustinMan · Answer

I'm a bit more a fan of the obvious: dress in a trashy little nothing and stiletto pumps. Try to interfere with me watching something on TV. Be mischievous so I'll spank you.

Yads_Is_Back · Answer

I have NO problem initiating sex with my man 😏 I like to! ❤️❤️❤️
Surprising him, pulling him into it, teasing him, just seeing how he falls for it all... one of the best things about being a woman 😊😊😊

1Sophisticatedme · Answer

Hell, the way i am... i would be the one grabbing my man first and get him all excited bc there's so much to do with him and so little time... lol. My man better love sex bc i am one woman with a very high libido...

Katie1964 · Answer

I will initiate sex with Hubby because I know its important to him, but I really prefer him to do the initiation.

JSmith925 · Answer

Great question. I am also a fan of the obvious, As in, introduce yourself and start talking or ask a question. I am always drawn in by interesting, funny, honest conversation. If I am attracted to you as a person, chances are I will barely notice what you are wearing. On the other hand, I am still a guy so I may start to wonder what is beneath your clothes. But that comes later.
~JSmith

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Oh, so you want guys to take a problem-solving approach rather than simply whining like bratty little kids!

DSimus · Answer

Women should initiate more. One of my only real complaints about my relationship now is that instead of initiating sex... she'll just kiss me deeply and then smile. That's my cue to initiate for her.

Fucking infuriating. Grab my basketball shorts, rip them down to my ankles and suck me off til I'm hard and pulling your hair and slapping your ass.

Don't half ass anything, whole ass one thing. And that's initiating sex.

Pasiton5 · Answer

We need to get off this kick about who does what who supposed to do this stop it if s woman wants to start it if fine she wants to ask me it before I do so what I'm good with it who ask who first man get off that if s woman is into a dude who the hell would she wait for this dude to notice her he might see her but is shy or afraid to approach her out if fear if her screaming sexual harassment 30 years later, just saying, it don't matter who makes first moves, damn life is simple we screw it up with stuff like this, so speak up say what's on your mind closed mouth don't get feed

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Yes I like it. It shows that the woman enjoys it and wants to enjoy it with YOU.

JackSmy · Answer

I ASSUME she is my equal, and of course, when she wants it, I ASSUME she is going to say so, and I LOVE THAT!!
Sadly, so many women I have known, just don't seem to think they can, that initiating, and wanting sex, is somehow 'un-ladylike'!!
Wanting "EQUALITY" but not knowing, or able to act like an equal!! VERY DISAPPOINTING, too often!

spartan55 · Answer

Is the Pope Catholic?

Berethor · Answer

It's not an issue, unless the man suspect that his woman initiate it as easily with other men. :)

sammy1537 · Answer

For the first 10 years of marriage, I thought I initiated all sex. Then I realized it was my wife the whole time. With a smile, with an "accidental" brushing by, by playing "little lady needs big strong man to open a jar of pickles", simple stuff.

My advice: be a woman. Most men like that. Women tend to overthink men. We are basic creatures when it comes to sex. Show some skin, smile at us, rub against us and we are ready to go.

Jjpayne · Answer

I want her to enjoy it and have it not be a burden to her. But at the same time there is a balance. I think I would like cuddle and movie time too. So while it might not need to be said, the other way of wanting sex too much might take away from the pleasure and desire to have sex by feeling forced to do it. It has to of course be a fair balance for both of us. But again it's something that should not feel like a burden or chore to either of us. The last thing I want to do is have sex if she is not in the mood or has a headache

jshm2 · Answer

Nope. Quite the opposite, in fact.

There is a little saying: "there is no good sex or bad sex, just wanted sex or wanted by one party only, sex."

Among the problems people in relationships face are mainly around understanding body language and language. To the point you have to add fvcking emoji's and beat people over the head to get them to read the signs. Often when dealing with sexual matters. It's the most common among my circles, and most of my friends are high flyers.

There is just no helping some people when it comes to intimacy. People can be educated and trained, but sex and relationships are things you've either got the talent for, or haven't. Hence rich people tend to have fertility issues, and highly educated tend to have relationship and intimacy issues.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Of course. That's the best part about sex if she does that. There is a reason why women can use there body to gain money and power because when they initiate in flirting and sexual behavior it riles up the guy tons. So why a girl wouldn't want to rile up the guy there wanting sex from is just weird when it's been proven to work on most guys with very good results.

Avicenna · Answer

The more sex with her, the merrier. Its better when both of us initiate.

Citizenkirk · Answer

Hey, I'm just happy too be a participant.

Reaperbot666 · Answer

it is nice when a female sparks sexual intimacy. in a relationship once in a while. because unless the male is super tired. he will almost never turn down her offer to fool around. but over time as people cohabitate/live together. the slowly start having less and less sexual interaction together. because their sex life together becomes mundane or boring. to always do the same positions, same places, etc. people need to be willing to have an open mind to trying new things with their partner. when they bring up a new idea for their sex life together. since who knows you might end up liking it once you try it. yes traditionally males more dominate during sex. where as traditionally females are more submissive during sex. but that does not mean you can't switch it up a bit once in a while.

Samoht_Sirrom1 · Answer

I would love to walk down a street a sexy thing reach for my hand and say you are just too damn cute, want to go get something to eat with me... And end up in a relationship...

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