How would you react if you found out your new partner had a promiscuous past (many one night stands, friends with benefits,...) ?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Honestly I don't care as long as they are clean lol. The guy I'm with had many more sexual partners than I have had, but he was clean and so therefore who the f cares. I mean I know some people care a lot but it's just ridiculous. You can't change the past.

[Asker]

Of course, you can't. That's what makes the past interesting to know about someone.

[Pasiton5]

That she did before I met her is no concern of mine long as they is no std involved but from the day we are together in does matter the past is dead why hood it against her I didn't know her then I'm not here to pass judgment on in anyone for how they live their lives their life they can live in any way they want it's my decision if I want to be a part of it respect for others not passing judgment

[high_kyle]

Depends, if I find out about it on my own without her telling me first it shows dishonesty and thats not good for a relationship, if I'm told about it on the other hand it would be a bit more chilled, you can't live a life without any fun

[Asker]

Are you expecting her to tell you :"Just so you know, I used to have sex with hell lot of persons before. Are we good?" lol

[AustinMan]

When it comes to sexual history, don't ask, don't tell.

[iambae]

You asking for an STD

[AustinMan]

@iambae Don't ask doesn't mean not getting tested first by both parties, something I insist on.

[RenWalker101]

I try not to talk about past sexual experiences with with women.
I've got my own party past and it never helps a relationship to go into detail about it.
I try to start fresh with everyone I meet.

[MrCommodore]

Generally speaking, I wouldn't care anymore if I really liked the girl. 10 years ago it would have been enough to put me off a girl.

Now I understand its unfair to judge a girl like that, we all do stuff we regret in our 20's.

[summiter]

No big deal. Our past is the past. I would use a condom every time however.

[Berethor]

I would not like that, and it would likely be a deal-breaker for me.

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/MyGirlIsNotASlut

[Asker]

You're very sexist 🙃

[Berethor]

And you are a slut, why you asking those questions if you have problem hearing the truth?

[Asker]

Problem is:I'm not. But I guess you are 😉.

[iambae]

I would put her on the corner and demand she have my money each night

[Asker]

You would treat her like a prostitute?

[iambae]

She's already committed the acts of a whore might as well get paid for it.

[Asker]

What's your number of sexual partners?

[iambae]

That's private

[iambae]

The question is what's your body county

[iambae]

Count*

[Asker]

Mine is zero. I'm not ashamed about it 😉.

[Tobi_Lerone]

No problem since I had too... so I cannot blame anyone for it

[Dargil]

A Friends With Benefits is not promiscuous if it is exclusive as many are.
ONS and Hookups suggest sociopathy and poor self worth. And I'm not a therapist. So have a nice day.

[Asker]

friends with benefits is pretty promiscuous. People aren't supposed to remain exclusive...

[Dargil]

I was in an exclusive "friends with benefits" for over a year. Neither of us could sustain a "dating" relationship. "People aren't supposed to remain exclusive..." Speak for yourself.

[Asker]

I guess you're speaking for yourself lol

[Dargil]

Don't we all?

[Asker]

Not everyone

[Dargil]

You did in the title question alone.

[Asker]

friends with benefits relationships aren't about exclusivity by definition. Can be or not...

[Dargil]

I am, thanks. Every mature friends with benefits I have seen, including mine, was exclusive. What you describe is a "booty call", casual sex. A friends with benefits is neither.

[Asker]

Depends on what you expect, I think.

[Dargil]

And it is covered when the union is formed. Yes.

[Asker]

I've heard about people having several friends with benefits so...

[Dargil]

They really aren't friends. They just have meaningless casual sex.

[Asker]

You can have several friends. Friendship isn't about exclusivity.

[Dargil]

A friends with benefits is a voluntary relationship where partners agree on the rules. I would not be anyone's stable and I would want to have one myself. I can be exclusive. You can be as promiscuous as you want to be. But you set rules and stay with them.

[magiusX26]

barring some major issue coming from that, incurable std or some such) not an issue

[Makeushiver]

Since I have a promiscuous past and wouldn't change it even if I could there isn't really anything I could complain about, A good lover has learned through experience so I would hope she would have learned a few things to teach me,

[Asker]

You don't learn with ONS and casual experiences in general more than in a long term relationship...

[genericname85]

if she's clean, good for her.

[LoganJayce]

Not a problem, having sex is very healthy. Just make sure they are clean. Stay safe!

[AmeerX]

I might be fearful she might leave me for the next best thing

[oncpl]

Keep quiet. Don't show any negative reaction.

[jeremy_09]

i'm ok with it, many guys are not

[Asker]

Why are you OK with it?

[jeremy_09]

it was before me and none of my business, and i've done it too

[Asker]

You've had many partners in the past?

[jeremy_09]

well several if you count sex and blowjobs and handjobs

[Asker]

I see. I've noticed promiscuous people tend to be more ok with their SO being promiscuous as well than non promiscuous ones.

[jeremy_09]

yeah that makes sense

[Quidthonian]

I would be sceptical of her. I would withhold sex for a long time. This will tell me if she truly loves me or if she is only after another point in her body count.

[Asker]

How many partners did you have?

[Syrian_survivor]

Promiscuous past should be discussed before the relationship even starts, otherwise, you're bad at relationships and you need some common sense

[Shamalien]

I’d probs be able to tell early on tbh it’s generally obvious and I am not attracted to such women in a romantic way.

[Asker]

Some people hide it...

[Shamalien]

not from me... and if they will straight up lie to my face then fuck them I hate them

[Asker]

How do you know for sure? What are the "signs"?

[Shamalien]

Why would I tell you, sounds like you are just gunna use the knowledge to be dishonest with people

[Asker]

I'm not promiscuous so no.

[Shamalien]

I can usually tell by the way they act around men and how they act when sexual topics are brought up. It's not 100% accurate but the more I talk to em the better I can tell. Give me a 10 minute conversation with a girl and I can be 90% sure if she's slept with more than a few guys or not

[Asker]

What do you ask? Are there any specific clues you look for?

[Shamalien]

I just use my intuition. I mainly observe how they act around me and other guys though, like how often they bring up sexual topics and how they talk about em, how they react to sexual topics being brought up around em, just intuitive stuff like how their expression is when looking at me or other guys, I mean to be fair most girls I meet they are such obvious sluts it's not hard to tell. With some girls maybe it could be harder to tell, but yeah I live on the west coast so it's all sluts out here

[Asker]

What about you?

[Shamalien]

What about me?

[Asker]

You're not promiscuous at all, right?

[Shamalien]

No, not at all.

[Asker]

Good

[jasco]

I be ok with it

[asshole_]

Yikes