Guys, why do I seem to attract I don't know... unsavory... people when I dress & act decently?

[Anonymous]

I'm not bad looking & attract a lot of attention. Most guys are pretty good. They give me no guff. Treat me with respect. Etc. Cause I dress/act decently, I'm a friendly person, etc.

But every now & again I'll come across rather unsavory guys. Two guys, as example, both don't necessarily have a good reputation about women - disrespectful & players. These reputations are not by any means a town secret and yet neither necessarily took well to not interested.

For the record I'm actually 32, the profile year got messed up.

[SjE78]

unfortunately the narcissists and players are to be found doing what they do, preying on those who want a genuine realationship, they tend to snag on to some more than others and attempt to change the ones who they get hold of... creating self doubt in them and making them feel self consious about their worth this is to ensure they never have the mental energy to walk away or defy them.

have met a fair few of those types in my years, and have friends who have had the misfortune to be entangled with them and it takes a lot to get rid of them, Player's not so much but the narcissists are the ones who can seriously damage your self esteem and create severe trust issues

[Asker]

Thanks for the description. I get that - having friends who get tangled with such people. But when I am rather confident, etc. I don't see, if you would, how I would fit in with their typical "target" (usually women of low self-esteem, issues, etc. anyway).

[SjE78]

you're welcome :) some players and narcissists tend to run dry on potential marks and become desperate enough to aim higher than the ones they are guaranteed to be successful with, which usually means that when they are working outside their own comfort zone of intended prey they often underestimate the one they are going for chances are you normally wouldn't have been looked at by the narcissists if they were able to find someone better fitting what they go for, as for players they tend to go for any woman they can get their way with, and sometimes stumble upon someone confident and see that as a challenge... the fact that many of these cases end in failure for them is why one group doesn't pursue it unless they crave to control someone and the well is running dry of suitable candidates... newer less experienced players will always try their luck regardless,

[Asker]

Thanks again. Makes sense. Particularly when this guy moved back to the area & his reputation is not the best by any stretch. So, in essence, there's little to no interest from the local gals.

[SjE78]

you're welcome, and yeah sometimes those types are like fish out of water tbf

[DSimus]

You're a woman. They're men. They will be attracted to you if you're attractive regardless of how you dress.

Unfortunately it's up to you to weed out this undesirable element.

[AustinMan]

We all encounter people like that. Ignore them.