Should I ever admit this to a b/f or husband?

[Anonymous]

I've done a few things sexually that some might find bad or wrong (multiple guys, gang bangs, orgies, etc.). Is this a part of my life I should ever admit to or just keep it a secret.

[Anonymous]

If it was me I wouldn't bring it up not because I'm ashamed, but because the past is the past and you should focus only on the present and future. I think it is best to admit it if the conversation comes up. So you can feel free and not have to worry about him finding out himself later on. And if he ever leaves you for that, just let him go. He's definitely not the one. There are a lot of guys who don't pay that much attention to things like this as they have done the same, interpret it as you having experience and knowing tricks or they are just cool with it.

[pleasestopthis]

It's better to come clean regarding things that could be a major turn off even if it's from the past. A mature partner will probably understand if "the past is in the past", I think he has the right to know and decide if he wants to go further with the relationship. If a guy leaves then he wasn't the right one for you.

[Anonymous]

You don't need to tell anything. Just admit what you are comfortable with. I hardly learned anything about the sexual past of the exclusive partners I had so far and it never bothered me.
In case you still need several partners (etc.) to be satisfied you may want to look for a man who is into the same thing. It is not exactly a common preference with males but also not exceedingly rare, so no need to compromise on this one (yet).

[wondering_guy]

Don't tell him, he might not like it or he might ask if you want to do it again or other kinky stuff if he thinks your that sexually open but I wouldn't, that way if he doesn't bring up a kink and you don't mind doing it, you can act the innocent or surprise and say you will try it and he will be more turned on

[laPrincesitaRoxi]

Keep it to yourself unless you Forsure know your husband won’t overthink ait and end up upset or leaving you for it.

[doyouwannacumhard]

Bad choice in the long run for sure

[laPrincesitaRoxi]

How?

[doyouwannacumhard]

Cause, u telling her to hide things from the one person who is supposed to be the most intimate partner of hers.. I agree she should bring it up gently, but hiding is definitely not the way is all m saying

[laPrincesitaRoxi]

Hide it? I said keep it to herself because it’s her personal business she isn’t required to tell him at all. You DONT need to know your partners sexual past the only thing that should matter in any relationship Is getting tested together and that’s it but beyond that it’s not something that matters in any way.

[doyouwannacumhard]

Well although I agree to not being open about things does work out oky, for some people... I don't really think u should be with someone with whome u can't really comfortably share such a niche thing.. u say the the past shouldn't matter is more of reason as to why it should out on the table just like any other normal thing is all... It's, just hiding if u r not comfortable to confront things...

[Asker]

I agree with you Roxi, thanks

[Katie1964]

Best not to keep secrets in a committed relationship.

[JackSmy]

Personally, I would rather you said it, as we were first starting to date, and I would be fine, as long as you didn't get a disease!! If I accidentally found out later, from one of your girlfriend's it would be like a lie, or betrayal!

[Berethor]

Yes, you are hide a lot of dark things from him, and he might find out about it himself.

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/7n73Tmy1NgI

[iambae]

Honestly is the best policy. Give them the chance to decide yea or nay

[jshm2]

Depends, are you not over it, and maybe going back to that lifestyle? Is your partner into that sort of thing?

If it's "no" then it's not something you need to bother them about. Plenty of hookers, escorts and porn stars leave for better jobs and climates in better industries.

In fact there was a children show presenter who was a former porn actress. Forget her name though. But it was a story and half, with lots of comedians latching onto it.

[SarahP080102]

You should just admit to it. Those might be things he is also interested in.

Don't ever be ashamed of your past

[doyouwannacumhard]

Yup!

[theycallmedirt]

I would want to know my partners history.
I can't speak for other guys. We all are different.
He might not want to know. Then again he might be like me and want to know what he is getting himself into.

[Tobi_Lerone]

Usually I would say that you can tell because at least you tried yourself put abd so on. But according to society it's a complete no-go and this is sad. So better keep before they call names and worse things...

[girls_need_luv_2]

only share if you’re comfortable and trust that person 100% and know they won’t use it against you or tell anyone.

[Coolj]

You don't owe anyone anything, do whatever pleases you because at the end of the day your all you've got.

[Drumlin2001]

I wouldn't lie about it. If they ask a direct question then be honest. But its the past. They dont need to know

[KilledByBees]

You did that stuff, own it.

[perineum]

Why do they need to know? Just tell them you have had two lovers unless they know you have had more. Like with their buddy or something. No use to show and tell. Trust me on this one.

[AmeerX]

Don't worry if you admit it here it means you should admit it to anyone. You habe nothing to hide

[oncpl]

Keep it secret unless you are sure that your boyfriend/husband is open to accept it.

[jeremy_09]

best to keep it to yourself, trust me on this one

[Wise4myage]

Id wait to reveal any of that or perhaps never at all, because its really nobody's business what you did in the past.

[Gedaria]

I would keep it to yourself