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My boyfriend fantasizes about me drugging him (sleeping pills or similar) and taking advantage of him. Wouldn't it be raped?

I've been with my boyfriend for around a year now and things are going very well. We're very much complimentary, we love to spend time with each other, have a lot of similar interests. Things are great sexually as well. My only concern is that he brought out this fantasy. Basically, he wants me to put some drug without him knowing when and how and use him as I want. I can't see how this can be consensual if one is unconscious. As much as I enjoy taking the lead and being dominant, I think it looks abusive. I'm also concerned he may feel violated afterwards. I'm also concerned he may have been through trauma for wanting that kind of stuff...
What do you guys think?
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  • I don't think this request of his may come from trauma but rather is just a fetish of his. I don't think this comes as news to most people but the "rape" category does indeed exist in many form of pornography, so there is a decent amount of people who fantasize about it (whether performing or receiving it) and some are lucky enough to actually find a partner with which they can do these kind of plays (consentually, of course, otherwise it is actual rape)
    But I should point out that he COULD technically take advantage of you legally if you decide to proceed with this without signing some sort of "aknowledgement contract" that states you are both OK in doing this... You know your guy so you should decide whether to trust him or not (like he is doing in wanting to do this with you), but I'm still giving you a heads up ^^

  • I would have him sign an agreement to consent and make it look authentic it's all for the role it will have him so excited knowing he's about to get his fantasie and you don't have to use drugs maybe have him drink some Nyquil 30 minutes after he drinks it he's out like a light make sure he doesn't get but half the normal dose and

    l had a girlfriend that would somehow take my pants off and get my dick hard and fuck me in my sleep I would sometimes wake up to her riding the hell out me and I would be so close to cumming there's no way I could stop even if I wanted to and I would wake up to her giving me the best blowjobs ever she didn't use any kind of drugs and I never told her to do it but it was fantastic

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  • There is no reason that you guys shouldn't be able to roll-play it.

    Tell him to drink some water and then pretend like there were pills in it that knocked him out and then do what you want to him for his and your pleasure.

    It seems like this would be even better because then he can feel what you are doing.

    Have fun! :)

    My boyfriend fantasizes about me drugging him (sleeping pills or similar) and taking advantage of him. Wouldn't it be raped?

  • Have you talked to him about your concerns? Maybe you could compromise. I mean the use of sleeping pills isn't necessary to feel powerless. You could "take advantage of him" when he's sleeping for instance (after having his consent ofc).

    • Thanks for MHO 😊

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  • if he gives you his consent first, then it's not rape, it's a fantasy role play.

  • This depends on if he brings it back on you and calls it rape. Technically it isn't because he is asking for it, but I don't understand. I get having a fantasy of pretending to be knocked out, but he wouldn't even feel anything lol

    • That's why he also want me to videotaped it and to make things that may be "acknowledgable" lol.

    • Weird, so he basically wants to watch a porn of himself. Well I'd say don't do it, it really isn't worth it.

    • I find the idea exciting. I just don't want it to be abusive or anything harmful.

  • Drugs are bad, why didn't you tie him instead, are your boyfriend is a junky or something?

    https://www.youtube.com/embed/Uh7l8dx-h8M

    • No, he's not a junkie. Haven't you heard about sleeping pills?

    • I did but I don't use them, I still think that tying him would make more sense, could he get an erection while he is asleep? I doubt that sleeping sex works with guys. As for the rape concern, well he was asking for it, literally, and people tend to be more forgiving for a female on male rape.

      tvtropes.org/.../DoubleStandardRapeFemaleOnMale

    • Honestly PIV doesn't have to be involved.

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  • No as its somthing he wants you to do which in itself is concent equal to him being handcuffed just more extreme

  • If he was drugged would he still be able to get it up or would you have to give him viagra also?

    • It's not necessary. There are other ways to have fun with him lol.

  • ? So he would be unconscious and wouldn't see, feel, smell, tasted, experience anything?
    What would enjoyable about that? Sounds horribly lame.

  • Not if he wants it. It's rape if you do it and he wouldn't know about. But since he demands it, it isn't rape, right?

    • But he wants me to drugged him without me knowing when I'm going to do it so... Is it really consensual here?

    • In my opinion yes. I once had a girlfriend and she wanted to know how it feels if she sleeps and I start things without waking her up before. I asked more then once if she is sure and she said yes. So I tried and it was totally ok. You can try new things, even things that. Often it's just a fantasy and if you have done it once that's it

  • Nope. It’s called CNC play, it’s a fetish and is consensual.

  • It wouldn't be if he voluntarily took them I'd already get that recorded just in case... I mean it did sort of bite America's finest father in the butt... adult women came to this hotel room he offered them drugs they took on they had fun 30 years later he does a little bit of time for it... so for both of your safeties may be hard to enter into contract if you're going to do that in each of you have it hidden somewhere else... but there's nothing that says that he can't take a sleeping pill and you can't have sex with him... If I trusted someone enough that sounds like it would be a fun thing for me and I guess if a woman wanted to try a date drug under you know situation with me I would probably do it

  • When he gives you consent to drug him, no, that would not be rape. He consented to it. Not rape.
    I would suggest though, you get that written down first, just to be sure...

  • Why would he need to be drugged?

  • That would be rape, yes.

  • its a form of consentual nonconsent

  • As long as both of you are above the age of consent it wouldn't be rape in any state I've ever lived in. Rape hinges on lack of consent. If he gave prior consent than that would disqualify it. Why does he want to be drugged?

  • it's not rape, if he consents. but i don't get how he's supposed to enjoy, when he's unconscious.

    also: be careful with illegal drugs. if you agree to administer them, you're committing a crime.

  • What does he want you to do to him once he’s been drugged out

    • It's up to me

    • My ex girlfriend drugged me one time I think she used her sex toy on my ass cause my butt was sore waking up

    • Oh my... This is rape 😶

  • Girls and guys have certain rape fantasy, I do t think it's wise to drug him even with sleeping pills unless it's all on tape to the moment he consense to after you finish with him

    but in the end you don't have to do anything, you could just wait till he falls sleep at night, pull his pants down, you get naked and go sleep, in the morning he will think you did it

    • No, it's not what he wants. He'd like me to videotape it.

    • Well that's good he likes to video tape it but make sure he consents to it on tape first

  • So give him sleeping pills when he wakes up say you did all sorts of kinky shit to him and leave it at that if he wants to do again stick a dido up his arse and leave it there. but he will do same to you thats the whole plan drug you out cold and do bad things to you i would advise to tread carefully

    • My boyfriend isn't into reversing our roles. You would probably never guess when you look at him but he's very very submissive lol.

    • Ok but that maybe why he wants you to be knocked out to do what he ain't got the nuts to do while your unconsious. But no not rape he was willing participant so really do nothing but say you did as his dick won't work will he knock out anyway

    • If you do him he will do you i guarantee it he has a fantasy to do to you as what pleasure will he get when unconscious but if you do him only fair he does you think about it

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  • He would be asleep so hows that fun? Next time he wakes up next to you ask if it was good for him. Too funny. Leave him wondering for a bit.

    You could just get him drunk and have your way. He will likely fake being more drunk than he is and actually enjoy it.

    • Basically, he likes the idea of being completely powerless and be treated like a sex toy. He wants me to videotaped it so he could watch after lol.

    • Ahh, just tie him down like many other people. I guess he would like that.

    • We already do that on a regular basis 😉

  • I think he wants to please you and has a dominatrix fantasy. SUCCUBUS 😈

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