Girls, do you consider this cheating?

[Anonymous]

ladies, what would be your reaction if you find out that your boyfriend is sending his dick pic to people online, is it gonna bother you? do you consider it cheating?

[ZiZi_Bell]

I personally would not consider it cheating because that's just the relationship I have. I'm poly so both myself and my partners are free to do things like that, as long as we don't hide it from each other.

However, if you're in a monogamous relationship, I would definitely consider that sleazy at best, cheating at worst.

[Asker]

what is it like to be in a poly relationship?

[ZiZi_Bell]

For me it's great. Open communication, less stress to try and be everything for one person, different people to satisfy different needs, and a sense of community with your lovers. But, I'm also not really too prone to jealousy or possessiveness. If you have a tendency to feel either, poly is not for you.

[Asker]

no actually I'm not at all jealous about knowing that my so is sleeping with others, it honestly even turns me on, but I don't know how she feels about it

[ZiZi_Bell]

Well poly is about more than just sleeping with other people. That's an open relationship. Poly is having full relationships with more than one person. I don't just sleep with multiple people, I date multiple people. I love multiple people.

[Asker]

okay I see, I just believe that you can separate the sexual and emotional aspects of relationship, means you can be in open relationship sexually but exclusive one emotionally.

[ZiZi_Bell]

Oh I'm not saying you can't. I'm just saying that's not what poly is. My partner's and I will occasionally just go out for a hookup or something, but we're poly because we all are actually emotionally invested.

[Asker]

I understand you, thanks for you valuable opinion, relationships are complicated after all.

[ZiZi_Bell]

No problem! Thank you for being open minded about it. That's a lot more than I usually get from guys on here. Lol

[Asker]

really? I'm surprised by what you are saying now, I thought all guys here are horny all the time :D, didn't think they'd be close minded about anything :P

[ZiZi_Bell]

I've had so many guys on here call me names for being poly. Pretty sure they're just insecure about the fact that a woman is owning her sexuality and emotions, and realizing she doesn't need one person to make her happy. Lol

[Asker]

yeah I can't understand guys who think that because they are guys it's okay for them to be free sexually and do what they want while it's not okay for girls to do the same just because they are girls, it's double standards, this goes for a lot of issues including going topless in public for example, if we are allowed to do it, girls should be allowed to do it too.

[ZiZi_Bell]

I agree. Lol Everyone should have the same sexual freedoms. I literally had a guy tell me once that it's not appropriate for me to be with more than one guy because "It's not fair to him that he has to share you when girls don't even enjoy sex to begin with". I felt so bad for any girls unlucky enough to end up in bed with him...

[Asker]

how he came to that conclusion that girls don't enjoy sex, off-course they do, he should've though of a better excuse why he doesn''t like sharing his girl with other guys

[ZiZi_Bell]

I'm guessing it's because he's so bad at sex that any girl he's with clearly doesn't enjoy it. So because his ego can't stand the fact that he's inadequate he tells himself that that's how all girls are so he can protect his fragile ego.

[Asker]

good point, maybe he is, but still I don't think it's a valid reason for him, to put the blame on girls for his inadequacy, I mean I've had bad experiences before just like I did have good ones, but I've never blamed anyone for anything, I just work hard and try to compensate

[ZiZi_Bell]

Lol that's because you are a mature individual. Most guys are too obsessed with the idea of being the big powerful man that they don't even consider that they have to compensate for anything.

[Asker]

you are right, it's their toxic masculinity to be blamed for that, they think that they don't fail or they don't do wrong just because they have dick and balls :D

[ZiZi_Bell]

Exactly. Lol

[Asker]

and those specifically are the men who have insecurities regarding their male parts, on one hand you see them proud of possessing a dick and on other hand you find them very insecure of their size.

[ZiZi_Bell]

True enough. Lol

[Asker]

it was good talking to you, thanks again :)

[ZiZi_Bell]

Same. You're welcome. Lol