Cause the past is meaningful for the present and the future...
No it isn't. The past is the past. It's done with and over. Maybe if they hurt someone, killed someone, was in prison, was in any way violent or drug-addicted or a deadbeat parent. Because then you know they're someone to avoid for your own safety. But sex partners?That has literally no impact on anyone's present or future.
It does:STDsAttitude towards relationships Chance of commitment HPV and cancer
If you're concerned about STIs then ask them to get tested. How is learning how many partners they've had before you going to affect that? Either way, you won't know for sure until they get tested. Number of sex partners shows nothing about their attitude towards relationships or their ability to commit. They could have had sex with 50 people and been intensely committed to five of them. Just because someone has fun and fools around that doesn't mean that they aren't likely to commit or have a good attitude towards relationships. And what the hell does number of sexual partners tell you about cancer?And even if it did tell you anything, why would cancer affect your opinion of them?All the things you just listed can be found out by simply talking to them. Knowing the number of people they've had sex with at best tells you little about any of them, at worst tells you nothing. Sounds like something you're just insecure about.
The higher the number of partners, the higher the risk of STDs, HPVs (which is linked to cancer). As far as I'm concerned, I doubt promiscuous people enjoy committing in relationship. Why would they be promiscuous otherwise?Anyway, I would see a major values issue here which mean "incompatibility" to me.
Mathematically sure. But someone who sleeps with a lot of people is also more likely to practice safe sex. So if you're worried about STIs, and for some dumb reason refuse to ask them to get tested, you should ask them if they practice safe sex instead of the number of previous partners. And just because you *think* someone who has had many problems can't commit, that doesn't mean they won't. That's your own, inaccurate, assumption. Which, by the way, you're making a lot of. And again, your compatibility issues are your issues. Just because you have a hangup about sex partners doesn't mean someone who's had multiple partners has poor values. That's arrogant, ignorant, and insulting of you to say. And it has nothing to do with the question you asked. You asked what we thought. I told you what I think. If you're asking for opinions, don't be surprised when people disagree.
Do you have a high number of sex partners?
I do. And so does my boyfriend. And hey! Guess what?Neither of us have any STIs, nor do we have cancer, we've been together going on three years, plan on getting married when I'm done with college, and have looked at buying a house. I also volunteer regularly, help my mother teach self defense classes for women, and advocate for human rights. My boyfriend gives money every month to St. Jude's Children's hospital. So, what about our health, attitude towards relationships, or values do you take issue with?
I do understand why you're so defensive then 🙃.
Yeah I'm defensive. Because I'm proof that you're just straight up wrong.
I'm not.You're just in denial.
well 5 or 10 or 20 seems sort of normal, 50 seems like a huge number
I guess it really depends on people. I would definitely not be OK with more than 50 but 20 is still a lot in my view.
yah it says up to 20 so. plus you can't really control what other people have already done, you can only decide whether you want to be with them now
Sure, but to me, it's meaningful for other parts of the relationship so...
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Why such a precise number?
Because I would be ok with that many. It’s a random number to represent the approximate range
8 years, 6 partners a year ~ 47
Are you speaking for yourself lol?
No my number is lower. Just thinking if a hot girl had fun starting as a teenager that’s how many.
I’m probably mid 30s
That's very open-minded lol
How many would you allow for your so
Oh ok. I guess you have a high number then.
At my age yes i qit counting a long time ago
To answer your question, I'm way less "open-minded" lol.
Yes, besides you.
maybe like three
Have you had many partners?
no, only 6