Why does my friends with benefits want me to sleepover?

[Anonymous]

Friends with benefits: an sexual relationship with no strings attached. Right? or wrong? Lately, I've been noticing that my friends with benefits seems to act more like a boy friend than a fwb. And correct me if I'm wrong but, here's why I think so... 1. He tells me all these wonderful compliments 2. He never wants me to just leave when we are done. He enjoys it when I fall asleep next to him in his bed and he always holds me whether its my hand, body, or just being really close in bed. 3. He rubs my body when we fall asleep. (Not even wanting sex) 4. He was upset when me and his friend were hanging out. He felt as though we were even talking about him. Not too sure why, but he was upset. Why would he care if I was just his f*** buddy? 5. We have long intellectual conversations when we hangout. 6. He cares about me and is ALWAYS interested in my life. 7. He may only want sex, but there's a connection between us that is so strong, I find it hard to believe he doesn't feel it too. So, what do you think? I would love to hear your opinions and experiences too! Thanks:)

[stercor]

He cares, deeply, but can't tell you because you two are officially FWB.

Why don't you take the initiative (only if you feel the same way) and ask him what he thinks/feels about your current relationship.

The answer may surprise/annoy/delight you.

[Asker]

Thanks, I guess I will try this. :)

[stercor]

I'm interested in what his assessment is.

[johnireland02]

I have never experienced this but from reading your list I think he is starting to have feelings for you. The question is what do you want from him? Just sex or something more?

[Asker]

I honestly do not know. I did want something more but I don't think that's exactly what I am looking for. He shows the signs of liking me, but I don't understand much more from him. We had a conversation regarding this once. It was kind of awkward however and I don't know if I should even try. Why does he like me spending the nights?

[johnireland02]

He likes spending the nights because he likes you and has feelings for you. I think that is obvious now. If you don't feel the same then you should let him know. At least talk about it. Sex does make some people believe that something is there when it mightn't be.

[Asker]

Thanks for help. One more thing though. Even if he likes me, he made it clear that he wasn't ready for a relationship and he hasn't said much since. What do you think of this?

[johnireland02]

Strange, he acts like he wants a relationship or something more but said otherwise. Perhaps he is afraid of rejection? Maybe you should bring up this list with him and see what he has to say about it. He might confess his feelings then.

[Asker]

Yeah, Strange is my thought exactly. And I think I will take your advice as well. Thanks again:)