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Should I listen to my boyfriend?

we only have sex 1-2 times a month and he says that he wants to stop for a while because he doesn’t trust condoms alone. If we only have sex 1-2 times a month it should be fine right? If the condom breaks I’ll just tell him to buy me some emergency contraceptives that should be fine right? It shouldn’t be dangerous if we only use a condom if we only have sex maximum of twice a month maybe he’s just being paranoid? I can’t take birth control until maybe April or May then I could maybe start because of my strict parents
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He uses lube too and he is very rough at sex
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  • The odds of a condom breaking are really small if you’re using them correctly, but it can definitely happen. Here are a few things you can do that make condoms even less likely to break.

    Check out this video to find out how to put on a condom the right way.

    Store condoms in a cool, dry place (so not in your wallet or very tight pockets for weeks or months).

    Check the expiration date to make sure the condoms you’re using are still good.

    Use water or silicon-based lube. Lube reduces the friction that can lead to breakage.

    Make sure you put the condom on before you start having sex, and keep wearing it until you’ve finished and pulled out.

    It sounds like you don’t want to get pregnant right now. Using condoms is a really good way of preventing pregnancy, and it’s the only way to avoid getting STDs if you’re going to have sex.

    But that’s not all you can do to prevent pregnancy. Using birth control like the IUD, implant, shot, pill, patch, or ring (along with those condoms) is the best way to prevent pregnancy (and STDs).

    • He always uses water based lube and we only have sex like twice a month it should be okay to continue to have sex just with condoms right?

    • Water-based lubricant is the safest option to use with latex condoms, it minimises the chance of the condom splitting and it's also a lot easier to clean up afterwards. I don't see it as risky task. It's totally his wish to indulge in the task. Sending you good luck vibes.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Well first it's my understanding that you can get birth control behind your parents back but that's beside the point having sex one time a year to get you pregnant... to me the only thing I would trust a condom for is to help protect me from a disease... And consider they break every now and then if you're having sex with someone regularly then I wouldn't be worried about getting a disease or I'd be getting rid of them

    And he may really be that concerned about impregnating you and maybe not even approve of the day after pill... I don't know his religious or moral feelings about it if that's part of it or not

    Is there a possibility he's pulling away from you... I hope not but that's just something that you might also consider... Because usually if a guy's okay with it for whatever reason one or two times a month then I'm not sure why he would all of a sudden decide to do something different unless he had some type of a religious or moral enlightenment

    When it pertains to your body you should listen to anybody that's got an opinion I guess but the decisions are yours don't let someone else make your decisions ever

    • He said that he doesn’t trust condoms alone and that he knows that both of our moms could get nasty and both of our dads could get very mad so I think he’s afraid the guy is 23 and I am 19

    • Well parents can be you know parents and then society these days could well make guys very leery of girls to be honest I would hate to be growing up at your age right now as a guy especially if he was looked at as a white guy... Maybe you should just go down and get married... Elope... I'm sure that wouldn't settle very well with both sets of parents but they would get over it actually it might take him a while...

Most Helpful Girl

  • Why if it breaks would he be the one buying the plan b? Why wouldn't u go buy it yourself

    • I’ll see if I can

    • by the way r u really 20? Because u mentioned 2 someone else about your parents. If you're an adult asking for birth control should be normal

    • I am 19 but my parents are very strict

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  • New idea: two condoms at once.

    Other ideas would be to get a birth control shot if he's that worried and whether you want to listen to him well thats on you but I'll just let you know that all that paranoia is pretty abnormal...

    • Two condoms at once is actually bad

  • its fine having sex as u need it... may he he is getting sex from anyother person also... u can have good reputed condomn which hardly got tore.. so u should have it by wearing condom... in case it breaks.. u can take something u want

    • No he’s not a cheater

    • He was going crazy because we didn’t have sex for 3 weeks lol he doesn’t have sex with anyone else

    • its kinda he should want it.. he is getting satisfied

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  • Well, its a personal decision for you to make, but sex twice a month seems lame to me. But it makes sense because you aren't on birth control.

    • It’s not my fault I am only allowed to go to his house every other week and we do it there we only get privacy there.

    • Also if I ask for birth control my parents will get suspicious so I can’t even ask

    • Until March

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