Is it too weird to let/ask my wife to do this?

[Anonymous]

So my wife is a qualified health assistant. She presently has a job with a young man that is paralysed from the neck down.

He has his own place, and has family/friends registered as his carers.

For his morning routine though, he has health assistants help him with getting out of bed, bathing, getting dressed. They also have other duties. My wife and another girl do alternate days with him.

The lad is 19. He got into a bad car accident when he was 16, which left him paralysed.

My wife has been working with him for 3 months now. The other girl has been with him 2 years.

My wife was talking about her routine with him the other day. And she mentioned how the lad always gets embarrassed at bathing time, because he always 100% of the time gets an erection.

My wife pays no bother, and sponges around it.

So I asked her, how does he get off? She shrugged, then said "I guess he doesn't".

Blew my mind! Imagine being 19, and never getting off?

My wife then told me that the other girl 'warned her' a few weeks back, that he will ask her to help him get release (handjob), and he will pay a bonus. The other girl called him a pervert and flatly refused.

My wife hasn't been asked yet.

Here is the thing though, I feel for the guy. I mean at that age, and missing out on even the basic of sexual pleasures.

I am considering 'letting' my wife give him a handjob from time to time to help the guy out. She hasn't asked to be allowed, in fact she seems non-fussed by the whole thing. It goes to show how women don't understand the full balls feeling us guys get. Imagine 3 years of it! She would do it if I asked her, though perhaps she might like the 'bonus' in her pay packet too.

I don't know, is it too weird? And is it weird that I wouldn't mind my wife doing that? If I found out she gave a handjob to any other guy, I would be blowing my stack.

I feel for him. And my wife is pretty, with a cute face. And nice curves, I know he would enjoy it.

What do you guys think?

[TCredo]

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[TCredo]

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[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Yeah anything involving masturbating or hand job automatically goes to you by default 😂

[TCredo]

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[Brainsbeforebeauty]

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[KilledByBees]

I am not sure it would be good to ask her to do it, but it would be cool of you to let her decide if it is something she would want to do, and to let her know you would be ok with it.

She could also get a fleshlight or something like that for him instead of using her hand.

[Apple1996]

Maybe you should pay a hooker for him. Not sure offering your wife is the right thing to do

[Asker]

It's a point, but it seems the lad gets very embarrassed easy. It's why he asks his care assistants after months of bathing him. He doesn't have a lot to hide after that. I think he might freak out if I/we tried to get a hooker for him :/

[Apple1996]

The hooker thing would prob freak him out so like yeah I guess if your really that okay with your wife doing it then sure.

[Apple1996]

It does seem pretty sad that this kid can't get off like I couldnt imagine being in a situation like that

[Asker]

Its freaked me out a bit! Something I have never considered before with disabled people such as him. And it must be worse beings he would have been getting off before his accident. I'd be climbing the walls! Thanks for replying :)

[Apple1996]

Thanks for the update. I can't believe your wifey agreed 😆

[Asker]

She was surprised I was on board! Her words were "why do you care if another guy gets off or not?" I had to explain, 3 days and I am getting worked up. 5 days and I am climbing the walls! 3 years? I can't even imagine it. I feel really bad for the lad. Being paralysed, I can't imagine. With no relief for 3 years as a consequence? Feels like a death sentence to me! She had already decided it was a no if he asked. Mainly out of respect for me. Though with me sympathising so much, and really arguing his case, she said she will do it. But with the same clinical approach she always treats him with. She isn't going to make it sexy. Purely for relief purposes only. Which actually makes me happier to.

[jasco]

I would get someone else to do it not your wife it be rude of you to do so

[Asker]

I certainly wouldn't get her to do it! It of course would be her choice. I would just give my consent if she wanted too if he asks Her. And the lad embarrasses easy. It takes him months to ask his care assistants after months of bathing him. I think my wife would just see it as an extension of his bathing. Its not like any of her clothes will be coming off.

[jasco]

even so it be better if someone other then your wife did it

[Asker]

Ok, thanks for your point of view :)

[CowboyFrank]

Give him the handjob. Let her do it. He poses no threat to your relationship. He needs it for his peace of mind.