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Porn? Is it okay in a relationship?

Has anyone ever broken up with someone with their over usage of porn during your relationship. Is it normal as a female to feel mentally cheated on..

I've had previous boyfriends who have literally asked me for phone calls or images or adult sexting in general and shown me best love an affection in person too... However currently boyfriend in present times is telling me I watch porn to fill the fantasy and sometimes I like different women... Now that was quite hurtful... I said okay so how would you feel about other men jerking off to me if right now I was selling or sending nudes to other men? He couldn't respond when I asked how many times you watch it couldn't give direct response... Could it be an addiction? I said you'd rather get erectile disfunction then give it up he's like yeah fine... I was honestly shocked by a lot of what he had told me.. It made me wonder and thing is he isn't asking me for phone sex or is he asking me for anything and then that makes me feel inadequate for him.

Sound dumb but advice please.
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  • almost every female feels cheated on when her partner looks at porn but they have zero problem mentally fantasizing about things that don’t involve their partner so it’s very hypocritical
    a male looking at visual fantasy is no different than a female having mental fantasy.

    It’s completely different than you putting nudes of yourself out there for other men. Exposing yourself for others isn’t the same as HAVING fantasy.

    As a female, try giving up natural female mental fantasy and tell me how easy it is... because you can’t.

    • That's the thing I don't fantazie of anyone els I literally don't 😂 and sorry but guys watching other women and using sensational gratification, places me no different to me exposing myself and other men being allowed to satisfy over me because partner is doing it also over other women so...

    • It’s the polar opposite. Exposing yourself is YOU making yourself an object. A male having visual fantasy is just the eyes working and the brain doing what it’s programmed to do. Women fantasize mentally no matter what they claim. When you watch a chick flick and think about romance, love, relationships, sex, feelings etc. THAT’s Fantasy. But in a female way.

    • Agree to disagree sorry

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Most Helpful Guy

  • If it makes you uncomfortable then no it is not okay. Some people just really like to watch or have a super high sex drive. It is also possible that he watches porn to scratch a certain itch, some kinks are hard to share with partner's due to how they are viewed. Talk it out with him and let him know how you feel, no one should feel uncomfortable in a relationship. See if you can compromise and come to an understanding after you figure out the real problem. Good luck and i hope everything gets better for you.

Most Helpful Girl

  • I would never let my man watch porn. If we are together I expect that I will be the only woman he wants sexually. If he wants to watch porn or see other women sexually, then he isn’t boyfriend material for me. Obviously I’m willing to give pics/vids of me or do phone sex if he needs it. But the important part for me is that I am the only woman he sexually considers.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • If it bothers you that much, move on. Keep in mind they're just pixels.

  • You use and false analogy, watching an actress is not the same as being an actress and your boyfriend is not bright if he fall for that, anyway most men are watching porn.

    • I mean "You use an false analogy."

  • unless you are both not in aggreance about it then yeah it can be a useful thing in relationships when you are trying to keep things interesting in a sexual nature

  • Usually I would say it isn't a problem because things like this can keep it spicy in the relationship. But overusage causes problems for sure. That shouldn't happen

  • If both couples agree to it

  • Only insecure women feel cheated on.. They aren't capible of separating a picture or video from reality..

  • If he is open and willing for sex whenever you are in the mood, then it isn't a problem

  • Everything is ok in relationship if both parties agree to it

  • it is if you say it is

  • No it’s disgusting and disturbing. In order to have a clean healthy relationship there shouldn’t be any porn of any form.

  • All men watch porn. An no, it's not mentally cheating any more than you watching a chick flick is.

  • If both sides are okay with it that's one thing, but it needs to be talked about. You are not being unreasonable at all.

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