Boyfriend doesn't look at me when naked?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes we take showers together and he doesn't even really look at me and if he does he doesn't get turned on. If I wear sexy underwear he only glances and looks away.

Is he not attracted to me?

[Reaperbot666]

• he might be trying to control his ability to get horny or orgasm. because when he looks at you or thinks about you for to long. he is likely to premature ejaculate to some degree.
• could be he is shy or insecure about himself and is ability to pleasure you fully.
• however it is possible he does not find you fully attractive either. depends in your body has chanced in a big way since you started dating.
• could also be a mental, physical or emotional issue on his part.

[Reaperbot666]

relationships tend to chance a bit after the couple has a child together. one or both start to lose a bit of interest in the other. also the longer people live together (cohabitate) the less likely they will engage in sexual interaction together. because their sex life becomes mundane or boring. like they are just repeating the same thing over and over. which is why couples need to spice things up once in a while. or risk their partner outsourcing their needs with adult content or other people.

[Asker]

I try but he prefers adult content

[Asker]

Most of the time its not successful sex.

[Reaperbot666]

try to do some of the things he looks at. in your relationship if your will that is.

[Asker]

I can't change my body nor am i able to do those things. Im not flexible lol

[Asker]

He likes curvy tan women with big boobs and butt. I have none of those things.

[Reaperbot666]

I've noticed from couples I know that once one or both people. gain more then half of their original starting weight. from when they entered the relationship. their partner often starts to find them less attractive over time. yes I know you had a child which can impact your weight and ability to lose it to some degree. because it is 2 or 3 times harder to lose weight then to gain it.

[Asker]

I just thought men would find their wives to be beautiful still because they brought life into the world. But i guess not

[Asker]

Im just to the point where im anrgy and embarrassed

[Reaperbot666]

ok with charges to your diet and/or exercise routine. you can over time gain some curves and define you body a bit more. however naturally adding a size to your chest or butt will take much longer or to gain weight overall. but for tanning you could try doing that a bit once in a while.

[Asker]

Im happy with my body. Im not going to break my back trying to make him believe the same

[Reaperbot666]

sounds like you just need to tell him what a jerk he is being. that he hardly every puts effort into your love life together. but instead goes off and watches adult content.

[Reaperbot666]

personally I don't have a strong preference when it comes to things like a females. height, weight, skin color, ethnic group, nationality. or the size / shape of her butt, hips, bust, waist, etc. even if she has medical reasons which lead to physical and/or mental disabilities. having an enjoyable personality and attitude matter the most. when looking for a female partner to be with. because so long as she is 100% natural, generally healthy and likes how she looks in the mirror. I find a wide range of female forms attractive. people who limit themselves to just one type or race. might miss out on someone who could be ideal for them otherwise. since people can always naturally make changes to their own body over time. with some changes to their own diet and/or exercise routine. in order to reshape their body from the neckline down to some degree.

[JSmith925]

I presume he was attracted to you at the onset of your relationship. What has changed? The likely answer is that you have become familiar and he is bored. For some guys, relationships are like a drug. They always need a new a better dose.

I have seen this a lot, and unfortunately, I know of no cure.

~JSmith

[yucychan]

Try to talk to him, ask him what's wrong.
It's very sad that he doesn't reciprocates when you are trying to get his attention and attract him.

[Asker]

My body has changed thats why

[Red_Arrow]

Your body can return to pretty much the way it was before. And after a few months, he should be thrilled about your body.

[Anonymous]

That seem strange. Why don't you think he is attracted to you?

[OlderAndWiser]

Perhaps he does not feel attracted to you or he may even be worsening his sexual orientation. Does he initiate sex with you and does that go well for you?

[ArrowheadSW]

OK... Well, maybe he is shy to look. Or he still has something in his mind that "you aren't supposed to look at naked women".

[Asker]

We have been together for 3 years , had a baby and lived together for a while

[ArrowheadSW]

Oh gosh... THAT I don't know... Something to be addressed over some talks it sounds like. Sorry to hear you are going through this.

[Asker]

Its probably because I gave birth to our daughter. Its a wonderful thing- but most women are ashamed to admit that their partners tend to lose interest physically afterwards. Im sure men arnt happy about their wives or partners body afterwards. Its not beautiful.

[ArrowheadSW]

Wow OK yes I've heard of this. Sorry to hear that you are going through it. Sounds like it is time for some talks or some counseling to see how you can get the spark back. I wish I was an expert on this but I'm not.

[JackSmy]

Maybe he is GAY?

[Samoht_Sirrom1]

Could be painfully shy and not know exactly what you're looking for him to do. Might be he was raised to be "respectful" of females. Or told that unless he's married he shouldn't even look at a woman's body. The quickest way to find out though is to just ask him since he knows his reasons.

[Nephilim000]

It's quite possible. It maybe he did something and feels guilty

[Browneye57]

Ask HIM.

[Thatsamazing]

Yes it's possible that he's not attracted to you. Have you gained weight or something?

[AmeerX]

He is being a gentleman

[oncpl]

Strange. I believe that nude body is the most attractive beauty of nature.

[Wise4myage]

Sounds like he has lost interest in you, bu you really need to ask him.

[Gedaria]

That is sad...

[Twalli]

I don't get hard EVERY time I am with my girlfriend.

[GreenGold1992]

that's very weird

[asshole_]

yeah and?

[Samuel204]

He respects your privacy

[whybnormal]

That does seem a bit odd. I can’t imagine not looking.

[mrgspoter]

Awe bless you got a closet gay

[Creamernick1]

That's too bad... Not sure what's going on with him

[Anonymous]

He is very shy around you.

[Anonymous]

Just do some training and stop with the I love my body pullshit...