we do some bdsm scenes. role play. spanking/choking. it is very tame, any recommendations?
To give that, I would need a little more detail. Do you both enjoy a power imbalance in sex? And if so, who gets the power?With you mentioning choking, that is usually a signal your man has the power over you, which you willingly surrender to him. Is that correct? Are you open to being more dominated, and do you believe he would be willing to dominate you further?
Oh, and is this just restricted to the bedroom?
yes! i love being dominated. completely dominated. he is always in power. not restricted to the bedroom no.
Alright, this could be a lengthy answer lol.I am a real life Dom. In a 24/7 D/s lifestyle with my wife. Her typical day involves being naked all day (standard). She is locked in the flat while I go out to work. She has a phone with only me as a contact. She spends the day doing her housework. She is also required to masturbate at exactly 12pm for 30 minutes without cumming. She is NEVER allowed to orgasm without my explicit permission. When I get home she makes me a coffee, which she presents to me while kneeling. I usually like to take 10 minutes running her through her various poses, which I have commands for. She must offer me sexual release (blow job) when I get home.She will cook me dinner. What we eat is my choice. She generally isn't allowed on the furniture, unless I am feeling generous. She sits at my feet. She will give me a foot massage.She will submit to inspections - stands naked before me, hands on head, legs apart. I will inspect/feel parts of her body, and she will remain silent while I do it.For my viewing pleasure I usually have her laying on the floor in front of me. On her back with her legs as wide open as possible .If she has done anything, the slightest thing not to standard (dinner being 3 minutes late/or early) she will be punished.This can be anything from a spanking with her hairbrush, to whipping her tits with my belt. I have also whipped her pussy at times. Though this is usually restricted for something bad.
If Inhave had a stress day, it is part of her requirements to let me take out the stress on her.So I could restrain her, and flog her back, tits, ass and pussy. I do reassure her though that she didn't do anything wrong. I just needed her to take that for me.Bed time is my choice. Sex, blowjob, handjob, anal. Whatever I desire from her. Again the rule stands she doesn't cum unless I want her too. The D/s lifestyle is very much mental. I love her very deeply, and she is at the forefront of my mind. And I am her only focus in life. She chooses to give me her power, and I take it to provide her with the secure and safe life she desperately craves. She is my girl, and I am her Sir (she calls me sir at all times).I have given here a very small overview of what a 24/7 D/s lifestyle is like. I of course take my power and degrade her, or get her to degrade herself for my pleasure. And my pleasure is her 100% focus. It takes discipline on both parts to make this work.Perhaps I have gone far too ahead as to what you are looking for. Perhaps you only wanted some sex acts to play out. I did give some.I hope I helped :)
oh you have very much helped, and successfully turned me on. thank you.
ha ha, well that's good. Try telling your man you are turned on, and would like his permission for you to masturbate. If he is not with you right now, you asking for his permission to touch yourself could give him a nice hard on ;)
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