My boyfriend kissed my ear and said “I’m trying to make love to you”?

Question

Had sex with my man last night and he slowed down and kissed my ear & said “I’m trying to make love to you” What does that mean

Lliam · Accepted Answer

It might be kind of an odd thing to say, but I think I understand what he meant.

Saying "I want to make love you" or "Let me make love to you" would mean something completely different. "Make love" usually means intercourse.

"I'm trying to make love you" implies that he was asking you to relax and go with the flow as he takes you on a journey of sensation. He wanted to stimulate all your erogenous zones and bring you to the height of ecstasy.

Ears, for example, are very erogenous. Kissing them, whispering or breathing into them, gently sucking on the lobes, running the tip of the tongue around their shells can drive a person crazy.

There are other areas: The jaw line, neck, collar bone, chest, breasts, ribs, stomach, inner thighs, back, shoulders, butt, even inner elbows and feet - basically your entire body. Allowing your partner to "make love" to you slowly, tenderly and skillfully by kissing, licking, touching, teasing and caressing all the parts of your body can take you to amazing heights of ecstasy. It's the art of making love, rather than just fucking.

I've brought women to orgasm and beg to be fucked by doing that. But continuing to stimulate and tease them can be fun. It turns them into ravenous beasts when it's finally time to fuck. I've had women do the same thing to me.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Most likely there is not much to it and he just thought that showing himself from a soft and emotional side would turn you on.
But men can also be sensitive beings for real: Maybe he wanted a less steamy, more tender and emotional interlude before finishing? Any chance you were trying to dirty-talk him into harder, faster, deeper or something?
I actually quite sure there is no significant meaning at all. If however so there would certainly be some context lacking.
I might guess that, since he told you he was "trying" something, that attempt apparently had not yet succeeded at that moment... but that may already be stretching words too far...

Dazed0N0Confused · Accepted Answer

It sounds like he wants more meaningful sex.
I call it plain sex when I'm not trying to get emotionally involved or the relationship is new.
Making love has more of a emotional connotation and involves more feelings and usually takes me about a year to start calling sex "making love", but even then it's weird calling it that, for me.

girlzruleboyzdrool · Accepted Answer

It mans he’s trying to show you more on an emotional level and saying you are not just having sex but making love there's a huge difference when you have an emotional connection

MrOracle · Answer

He's saying "this, right now, is more than 'just sex' to me - I'm trying to create a shared emotional experience with you."

AustinMan · Answer

I suspect it means instead of or in addition to just fucking you.

purplepoppy · Answer

The key word in the sentence is "trying". He means he can't find the hole.

Quackthulu · Answer

It means you are dating an idiot.

Petra150 · Answer

He love you

ArrRenn · Answer

Sounds to me like he wants you to know that he is trying to do more than bang-bang.

MrKinktastic · Answer

He’s just trying to be romantic/is feeling lovey. I’d just go with it unless it’s turning you off.

Marcuslrh · Answer

It means what he said he is trying to make love to you and has probably said this based off what your actions where or if you have said harder or faster at any point that was his response

FreyaRed · Answer

lack of stamina

Finchie40 · Answer

That he wants to fuck you

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

He wanted it slow and romantic

Nephilim000 · Answer

He doesn't know what he is doing? Nah he wants you to know it's more than physical for him I guess

Prof_Don · Answer

He wants to be more than just a fuck-buddy

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

It sounds like he wants more than sex from you?

JosyJosy · Answer

Answer me this What does 'trying' mean?

Browneye57 · Answer

Ask him. Don't try to read a lot into what a guy says. Either you were distracted, in a hurry, weren't paying attention to him, or some other interruption.

Massageman · Answer

That this time meant for than a "slam-bang-thank you, ma'am" to him. He's at the point that- at least in his mind- he believes that he has a more intimate attachment to you. I'm just kind of puzzled why he thought he had to announce it. You weren't trying to tease him and fight him off a bit, were you? ;- )