Why does it take so long for him to finish?

When we have sex, sometimes he is not able to come at all or take a very long time. Sometimes he will stop and say "I don't know if i can babe.".

Guys, is this pretty common to happen or is somthing wrong?
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Superb Opinion

  • It's not that uncommon but he should probably see a good urologist and get checked out. I've had he issue once in a great while and I have found that if we take a short break and then I focus on just being fully present in the moment and how dominant I feel, things do fine. Are you doing his favorite thing when you two are trying for him to cum?

Most Helpful Guy

  • Happens to me a lot. Maybe because I am too focussed on pleasuring her.
    If he stops, would you rather have him go on, even if he wouldn't be able to come?
    If so, then tell him. Maybe he stops because he thinks you expect him to come. Then it would be reasonable to stop if he is convinced that he won't be able to.
    If he knew that you'd still enjoy the sex even after he knows he won't come, I believe he would go on. I often just stop because I don't want the girl to become sore.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Maybe he needs to not jack off before getting with you

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  • Some days we are just tired or dehydrated I've had it happen im sure many other guys have also. Good foreplay and lots of liquids usually solves the problem hope it helps

  • At your age, only if he is ejaculating several times a day or there is something physically or psychologically wrong with him.
    ~JSmith

  • It's common for me, and it's highly related to my Adhd.

  • Seems like you expect guys to just get off based upon the bs you’ve been fed. Each man is different. Everything isn’t always just visual for all of us.

    • I assume its normal every once in a while. But its often

    • It’s him... My wife doesn’t complain about my time and knows what to expect. Count your blessings it isn’t a climb on top and 30 seconds later, sleeping 😴 💤

    • I wouldn't complain if he didn't reject and stop due to these things. Im not expecting fast- im expecting successful at least half of the time

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  • Not sure i can cum easily if i wanted

  • Because your pussy isn't tight enough or he isn't sufficiently turned on, or something.

    • Not true

    • @jgibsonian1986 Yes, it is.

    • @thatsamazing always gives a bs answer. Every time I see his stupid ass comments i laugh lol 😂 don't take him seriously

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  • He’s probably addicted to porn

    • He says he's not into that stuff. He doesn't like it

    • He’s a liar

    • Do you believe everything you hear?

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  • sometimes i have to do things to cum slower like jerk off before sex or have her give me a blowjob first. i've never had trouble taking too long to finish, unless she wants it to go on longer

  • Why is it a race?

  • just depends

    just like it depends for you

    i try to go as long as i can, which usually isn't long

  • It can happen. Kinda like premature ejac. Just know you make him hard. All that matters.

  • Not completely uncommon if you are drinking but if not he might want to have a little chat with a doctor to make sure it isn’t something physical. If that isn’t the case, it could be in his head.

  • I suffer the same. Brain meds are to blame. Also stress can be a factor

  • He's probably desensitized himself through copius masturbation.

  • I’m like that too sometimes. Don’t worry about it because it dii I want mean he doesn’t like it

  • Mental and physical exhaustion does that to me sometimes. Also lack of attraction

  • Does he masturbate a lot? Or rough?

  • Clearly the stimulation isn't there. No i've never had that problem.

  • Is he on anxiety or depression meds?

  • Any medication or recreational drugs involved? Such a antidepressants or MDMA? Failure to climax would be a common issue then.
    Also he might have secretly "wasted his first shot" some time before doing it with you, so he can last longer... quite a few young men apparently do that.

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