I see so much about white men having yellow fever, but is it normal for an Asian man to have white fever? Such as yours truly?

[Anonymous]

Unlike most Asian men who prefer Asian women, I (a Korean American) do not find Asian women attractive. I find them often too short (I'm 6'2") and bearing resemblance to 13-year-old boys.

The thing is, I noticed a lot of Asian women are more likely to date outside their race than us men do. I also noticed that a lot of them prefer the white or Jewish men who come off as rather nebbish. My hunch is that this "yellow fever" comes from the fact that these nerdy white and Jewish men couldn't impress the white women, so they have to take the second best: the Asian women.

Truth be told, I am far from the stereotypical model minority. I listen to a lot of heavy metal and electro-industrial, have long hair, got bad grades in school, and glorify delinquency (because school doesn't teach common sense).

For me, I find white women attractive since I am into European culture and I also cannot shake the fact that their assortment of eye and hair colors, taller height, and beautiful voices. I tried to deny it, but it's true. I am only attracted to Caucasian women. Tuscans, Italians, Sardinians, French, Flemish, Basque, Russians, etc.

It's like looking into a fire and seeing a forbidden fruit within. Then I look in the mirror at my skin and I see myself being banned because I also have a penis. It's easier for Asian women to hook up with white men than Asian men to hook up with white women. A 5'7" Mexican guy with man boobs has a better chance than a slim 6'2" Korean guy such as myself.

What's your take on this?

[Curmudgeon]

There was an interesting essay on this phenomenon: "Is Love Colorblind?" by Steve Sailer. He noticed BM/WF relationships are about three times more likely than WM/boyfriend ones. And that WM/AF relationships are ALSO about three times more likely than AM/WF ones.

The author concluded that the following factors were at play:
1. Height
2. Perceived femininity (for men) or masculinity (for women)

But let's focus more specifically on "The Asian Persuasion":

Q: Where do young men meet young women often?
A: Campuses.

Q: And what ethnics are disproportionately (compared to the general population in a place) concentrated on campuses?
A: Asians.

That said, my own experiences on the matter: On the all too often warped campus environment, the "Asian persuasion" were MUCH less likely to be:
1. Stuck up sorority bitch types,
2. Communist or otherwise Leftist indoctrinated (indeed, all too often the Asian ladies or their parents were refugees from Communist lands),
3. Man-hating lesbians (a lot of Venn Diagram overlap with #2 above here)

If that made me one of the "nerdy (W) hite and Jewish men (who) couldn't impress the white women, so they have to take the second best: the Asian women", so be it.

That said, if you can find the White girl of your dreams, more power to you.

[Asker]

If I can't find one, I will stay single forever. I am not attracted to other races of women. Even my own.

[Curmudgeon]

Ugh, autocorrect: " He noticed BM/WF relationships are about three times more likely than WM/B. F. ones."

[Asker]

In my experience, I have found Asian women to be materialistic. And when they score a white or Jewish man, they belittle us Asian men. I decided that I cannot deal with their ilk any further and if I am denied of a white woman, I will stay single until I die. Maybe in the next life, I can get one if I am born in better circumstances.

[Curmudgeon]

Yes, they can be that.

[Curmudgeon]

Materialistic that is. But as for your other claim that "And when they score a white or Jewish man, they belittle us Asian men," don't they just ignore you?

[Asker]

I have heard them saying stuff like "I'm Asian, I'll never date an Asian guy", "small penis", etc. I cannot take it, plus their thin eyebrows and their annoying voices are not endearing to me. I think white women's thick eyebrows and beautiful voices are attractive.

[Curmudgeon]

Fair enough, and if I could help you (beyond the usual dating advice an oldster can give), I would. I was just explaining the appeal of the Asian Persuasion to certain White men, namely: 1. Much less Leftist, man-hating, or both, and 2. More tolerant of "the dork factor"

[StylesbyDR]

What the hell. There are plenty of bombshell Asian women out there. You can't exclude or dismiss an entire race of people.

[Asker]

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Personally, I don't find monolids, thin eyebrows, and annoying voices attractive.

[alice55]

I don't see anything wrong with it and there's plenty of White women who date Asian guys (at least where I live). I see more often AMWF than WMAF (the WMAF I see are old couple and the AMWF I see are young couple).

[Asker]

You live in France. I live in the United States of America, big difference.

[alice55]

I never been to American so I don't know, I would say try online dating but I guess you already tried or just don't like it. Maybe try to date a White girl that has the same interest as you?

[Asker]

It doesn't work that way, too much hypergamy.

[HOAAH]

Just date a white woman. Do what makes you happy.

[Asker]

It's not that easy. They are very hard to please.