Should I feel guilty for this? Or is it somewhat normal?

[Isabella1100]

Tonight I found myself crying over how much I miss the sexual part of my relationship with my ex boyfriend. I’m very into being dominated and honestly have a pretty significant rape fantasy.
I am dating someone new now and have been for at least 2 months. My ex and I broke up 7 and a half months ago. Is is completely messed up that I’m crying over how much I miss the sex? I don’t miss HIM I just miss the sexual parts of what we had. He just had the desire to hold me down and hurt me and shit and it turned me on a lot and my current boyfriend doesn’t feel that pull and I don’t even think he’d wanna do what I really want fantasy wise. It makes me really sad.
is it come you fucked that 7 months later I’m dating someone new who I fucking love But
just that sexual part that I crave is missing that I’m crying. I feel so guilty. Im also drunk so sorry if this doesn’t make much sense.

[LandoCalrisiano]

In my opinion there is nothing wrong about missing the sexual part of your previous relationship as you say it's not him what you're missing or crying over.
It's just like your sexual desires are unfulfilled at the moment which can be pretty hard to handle especially if you're dating a new guy you really like who isn't able to fulfill your needs or desires, but still you don't want to loose him about this.
As long as you aren't emotionally involved in the relationship with your ex itself anymore while you're seeing the other guy you absolutley don't have to feel guitly about it.

Nevertheless this is the point where communication should be your go to solution (always should be) to discuss this issue with your new partner as letting your sexual desires unfulfilled will put your relationship to the new guy on risk at long term.
You can try to introduce other, rougher practices slowly due to starting with some dirty talk, spanking or soft choking and stuff like that. Don't do this without communication!
If he has absolutely no interest in at least trying any of the practices you miss that much then i'm afraid that he won't be the guy for a happy ever after.
Or you have to try to find your very special ways to fulfill your fantasies that also work for him. Don't just try to simply replicate the experiences you've already had! As even though it was fulfilling with your former partner it hasn't necessarily to be the same with your new partner and also i think you don't want to get the feeling of just substituting the person you're having sex with if it's also about an emotional component!
Maybe there is even any sexual practices you both really can fall for that are able to fit your needs which both of you haven't even considered yet. Like some kind of roleplays or what so ever.
Creating or having your very special experiences and practices with him might become even more fulfilling than the experiences you've already had.

I wish you all the best and good luck to get your needs and desires fulfilled!

[Anonymous]

I get it. Your boyfriend sounds a bit like me sexually. I had an ex who loved to be dominated and fucked hard, especially in the ass. But I ended up dumping her because she was too unstable and overly dramatic a lot of times and I could deal. But I still miss the sex.

[teamvic]

Your best bet is you're gonna have to ease your new. Boyfriend into what you like and tell him slowly what you're into,

Because if you don't then you're gonna ruin your relationship because of simple communication errors.

[teamvic]

If you don't communicate that relationship will be doomed or you're gonna cheat

[chriscdi]

its messed up to your new dude lol

[SilverRain92]

Why can't you talk about this with your current boyfriend and ask him to dominate you?

[gandolph3]

have you shared how you like to be used to your new boyfriend