Would u date a single mom?

[Anonymous]

[sammy1537]

Dating is not a problem unless the guy is looking for a long term/deep relationship. Then he has to decide if he wants to be a father to your children. There's no greater honor to be a father but it is also a greatest source of fear. Fear of failing as a father. Usually, the process of becoming a father is long and involves getting married, consumption, pregnancy. All these events help men adjust to the pressure of fatherhood. Being with a woman who already has children can make it more stressful for men. Stressful because once you become a man, fatherhood is essential part of manhood. Men WILL love children, even if they're not the biological father purely because they children are you.

[MCheetah]

Unlikely, but not impossible. Honestly, being raised by a bad single mom, I just think most single moms (the ones who aren't widows, that is) have just made poor life choices and slept around too much. Plus, who needs all that extra baggage of having to please a woman AND her kid? Unless you love kids or have some yourself, there is literally no benefit to dating a single mother and a lot of extra downsides and baggage. No, I'm not going to be cucked into buying diapers for someone else's kid. The one exception is if this woman was otherwise my soulmate and we were perfect together. Other than that, it's too much extra crap I don't need to deal with.

[MCheetah]

Thanks for the MHO.

[EmoKate97]

Dam, i wish i was a single mom with a mixed kid. Something about being a single mom is sexy and independent lol. But i'm sure if i actually did have kids i wouldn't be thinking stupid shit like that.

[Jersey2]

They are mostly poor on one income, overwhelmed with work and childcare on their own while the world whirls around them. Go for it.

[Asker]

Stupid shit like wanting a mix kid? Or looking for a boyfriend

[Asker]

I got money son. my house is paid for and so is my car. I work 8 to 5 and still get home and feed my kids

[Jersey2]

@asker what are you going in about? You okay?

[Asker]

You saying they mostly poor on one income. I ain't poor

[Jersey2]

Mostly mean most, not all. So your point is? That you want to crow about having some money? “Most” don’t.

[Asker]

Smh kid.

[Kelly6]

@Jersey2 🤫🤫🤫🤫

[EmoKate97]

"Stupid shit like wanting a mix kid? Or looking for a boyfriend" dude i'm just weird and kinky, like its just the idea of going out there, getting pregnant and living your life without giving a fuck that a man came inside me and i'm raising his kid. also the girl in the OP is really pretty and independent.

[Asker]

Well thank u emokate. My kids are mixed

[hannahde97]

There's nothing wrong with wanting a mixed kid. I've wanted one for the longest time. Live your best life and don't limit yourself. Much love!

[EmoKate97]

>my kids are mixed ok before i start i'll just say that again, i'm wired differently and i'm weird. but the girl in the OP is (unironically) kinda how i'd see an ideal version of myself. She's so sexy in a subtle way, presenting herself while it seems like her mind is paying attention to her sexual appeal as a secondary objective which seems alpha to me for some reason, its like ""i have a baby and that's my numba 1, if you want some of this sweet ass you gotta earn it" and there's something so honest and real about how single moms approach realtionships that i admire, like i know most women play the "please chase me" game but single moms are upfront and will go up to guys and tell them they're interested while making it upfront that their baby comes first, while making the guy prove his self-worth to her, to be so attractive physically or personality wise that you make a guy chase you and play by your rules so they get a chance to breed with you is so fucking cool in my opinion, something about that is appealing to me I don't know if i explained it correctly. I had no idea that was you and i admire your confidence and a little part of me is jealous i haven't reproduced / passed on my genes which is kinda my life goal. That said, i'm curious what race you are and what race you child is, you seem to be in a sort of genetic soup but very pretty which is ideal af, like dude i want to race mix so i can have a daughter that looks like OP lol!

[Asker]

My mom is form the Philippines my dad is white. So I'm mixed white Filipina. My two daughters are mixed white Filipina and black.

[EmoKate97]

Dam i wouldn't have guessed your race, i would've thought you were half black half japanese lol, your genetics mixed well, little jelly that you have your shit together, look fine and got to have a child all on your own, i wish i could do that, f But like, fr how do you handle relationships? like does being a mom increase your confidence to approach guys, do you get together with guys that are like your baby daddy? do you still hook up?

[EmoKate97]

dude, i'm actually kinda considering taking out my IUD, finding a cute black man with some good genes and having a baby just so i have something to motivate me to get my shit together, i see a lot of single moms go from being lazy to full on getting their shit straighten out, at my work all the single moms are hustling it

[Asker]

It's because you kinda have to. you're kids became your number 1 priority. And I hook up but i want a relationship now I'm tired of these one night things. I wanna feel love every day and night. but it's hard because I have to make sure they ain't creppy

[Asker]

And most people think I'm Mexican they always speak to me in Spanish and then get upset when i said i understood nothing.

[MrOracle]

I don't want children and never have, so, no.

[Goforit1010]

Oh yeah! Already did AND married her too. Done that over 22 years ago. One of the better decisions I've made.

[AustinMan]

Absolutely. Have dated many.

[teamvic]

Only if she was hella fine and I got along with her really well

[JSmith925]

Yes, and I have. More than once. Why not?
~JSmith

[OlderAndWiser]

I have dated single moms. They can be good companions but a guy needs to be aware of signs that she is not available because of her momma commitment. You should also be on guard for drama with the father of the children.

[centerline]

yes... there is a lot of single moms out there in the world who would make a great life partner for the right man... and without dating them, one will never find her...

[Pasiton5]

If she looks did can cook and is down to earth and her child and I gel yes I can single kind need love to to replenish all they give to their child

[Fatherhere901]

Absolutely, without a doubt, and as soon as I meet one that's willing to go on a date

[ohshee]

Mmmm I hope thst answers for you ! Thst single mom OMG YES

[Sonorous]

Hell no

[Asker]

Why not?

[Sonorous]

dayum u fast as heeeelllll but it's cause I really don't like the thought of having kids and raising a f- *pauses to almost throw up* famileeeeehh *puts fist to mouth* "oh god" nahh fuk dis shit I'm out

[Asker]

Nothing bad with having a family.

[Sonorous]

I don't like the thought of it. It reminds me of my certain limitations as a human. But hey, kudos to anyone that does want one. From certain perspectives, they can be very beautiful things 🙃

[JackSmy]

I have, but it is SUPER TOUGH!! The kids MUST COME FIRST!!! ALWAYS!! But that cuts into your time, and it's hard to manage, and you end up torn, and HATING that you are KNOWING that the KIDS are MOST IMPORTANT, but still wanting personal time, and depending on the kids ages, they interrupt.
I REALLY tried, but it got too frustrating, as their father had NO INTERACTION, at ALL!!

[-sshOle]

It is a big hurdle to get passed, it is not just you he needs to accept but also the kids and extra baggage like the father. For a guy this is difficult to get passed, I mean will the guy be the priority in your life?
I am less likely to start dating a single mom but if I feel a strong attraction sure I would not rule it out.

[Berethor]

No, not even if she is good looking, I don't want that baggage.

[Gerdchen]

Would I have to decide between dating a single mom or multiple moms? If I decide on multiple moms, would this decision be binding? Like I could never again just enjoy a twosome?
So, dating a single mom, definitely a yes. Multiple moms every now and then might be nice, but only if it would be ok for the one I'd be currently dating.

[TruthBringer]

Alpha fucks and beta bucks. You must be a special cuck to voluntairly take care of another man's offspring. Every dude I've talked to and has taken that path has advised me not to do it. So my answer is no and I'll let this man do the explaining:

https://www.youtube.com/embed/MdzLfiLCkrc

[MCheetah]

I agree with you, but Coach Red Pill is a POS. I'd never listen to this phony.

[TruthBringer]

@MCheetah Plenty of others who preach what he says. Simply listen to the same message, but from a different source.

[Asker]

I'm not asking for someone to take care of my baby

[Heiniken]

Nope, and I tried.

She was talking about her ex "I don't need him physically or emotionally, but I need him FINANCIALLY".

[AaronKrieger]

If I was in my mid 20's or older and felt like it sure, although I'd make sure in that situation that there is no way in hell I'm meeting the kid unless I genuinely love the woman/mother and if we've been together for a good amount of time.

[SjE78]

If we clicked and got on then yeah i would, after all it wouldn't be fair of me to ask any woman to not have kids and expect them to accept the fact i do...

[slatyb]

I have three times. As a childless 20-something guy, no.