There was a guy from GAG that I sext with, and I really fall in love. but I don't how to cope this feeling. what should I do?

[Anonymous]

he is from different country. a hard working, soft spoken, always compliment me when we sext and even when we didn't do it.. he's busy working, and he doesn't text much and he just talk much through video call. he's 10 years older than me. he looks so mature, and I'm virgin 24yo, and he helped my insecurities.. by the way he never force me to do anything sexual.

and I never met someone like him before. i don't know how to stop liking him. :'(

but since i started to like him, I started to feel hurt..

[Anonymous]

How long have you been talking and have you actually met him face to face? Because it's probably just infatuation and excitement you feel, not "love". Try not to get swept away with the fantasy, and start to focus on reality now. Are you ever going to meet? Is a relationship even possible (never mind how he feels about you yet)? Lets say he likes you also and you're going to give it a try... as time goes on, and your feelings grow, you are definitely going to want to spend/see him more and more. Is that going to be possible? I've been in a similar situation (and the distance wasn't this big), and we ended up breaking up. Not this reason alone, but it was a big issue for sure. She wanted to see more and more of me and it just wasn't possible at the time. But I couldn't make her see that (in her mind, I should've dropped everything to go see her but life doesn't work like that). So just some food for thought here for you. Maybe save you some heartache?

[Asker]

I met him on gag since last year, and then we started to video call quite often. then our timing to video call is always not good plus he works, and I live with family. and we start to do less. ages ago, he ever asked me when I'll visit him, im still a student, I don't have money. and he has a job but he couldn't take off days in a long time.. it's been 2 weeks we didn't communicate and yesterday he only could reply my text once and I feel ignored. :(

[Berethor]

That's why it's usually pointless to sext with a person from other country, but you sound naive.

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/TheIngenue

[Asker]

I don't know what to do now.. I feel sad..

[Berethor]

No much that you can do, and how you was able to sext for him for so long if you are a virgin?

[Asker]

masturbate? we were doing it together in video call

[Berethor]

And you okay with him seeing you naked and seeing you do sexual stuff even though you virgin?

[Asker]

at first I wasn't okay and I was not comfortable seeing his dick.. but then he made me feel comfortable after a few times we doing it..

[Berethor]

You was more uncomfortable about seeing him naked than about him seeing you naked?

[Asker]

both actually. but when I saw him ejaculate, I felt so horny

[Berethor]

I see, well you don't have a phallophobia in that case, you want to have sex in real life?

[Berethor]

I mean you want to have sex with him in real life?

[Asker]

ofc i do want it. I want to do it with him haha. but I still i can't imagine if he's here with me for real

[Berethor]

Yea that what I meant, why you can't imagine if he's there with you for real?

[Asker]

because I don't know if he willing to see me or not.

[Berethor]

Technically he saw you, all of you, but did you ask him to meet you? you are anonymous but he likely like how you looks, guys usually don't sext with girls that they don't find physically attractive.

[Asker]

we video call, and we had some conversation after doing it. by the way we look each other when doing it..

[Berethor]

Of course you look at each other if you seeing each other in video calls. Does it looks like he want to meet you in person or a only relationship fully satisfy him, also you sure that he not married? :)

[Berethor]

I mean or "online relationship fully satisfy him."

[Asker]

he is a divorcee and ages ago he ever asked me when I want to visit him..

[Berethor]

Does he have children from that marriage? and the fact that his previous marriage ended badly don't makes you worried? especially considering that you has a clean past. Maybe his previous marriage made him worried about marrying again, and because you are a virgin he might assume that you would want to wait until marriage, and that's why he not seeing much point in meeting you and why he had settled for sexting. If he was asking you to visit him, would you come to visit him despite the distance and your insecurities?

[Asker]

he doesn't have children, he told me it ended badly, and depressed him and which is why he was looking for sext. you're right, maybe he thought I would willing to wait. he ever said that I should have fun with everything before marriage because I'm still young. I would want to travel if I have money. but I'm still a student, I don't have money.. and i told him to see me, and he said he has a job and can't take off days :(

[Berethor]

Well not the picture has got more clear, he didn't meet you not only because he is from different country but also because divorcee who has traumas from his divorce, and now is worried about marriage and serious relationship in general, also while you fall in love for him, he is afraid to get attached, for him that online relationship with you is based mostly on lust, not on love. If guy tell you should have fun with everything before marriage then you can tell for sure that he didn't attached to you, guys are more territorial than girls, if he is okay with letting you be with other guys then he don't care about you. If he loved you then he would had valued your virginity. As for him saying that he can't take off days, it seems like an excuse, and if he is such a hard working guy then he could had payed you for your ticket. Looks like he is interested only in sexting.

[Asker]

thanks for helping me to see it more clear. when we started to sext in a few first month, he ever suggested me to sext with he friend, and he said that I am very horny girl and he said he couldn't satisfy me, which is why he suggested me do it with his friend. but I didn't do it with his friend. last month, I ever asked him to give opinion about my private part. and he compliment me and told me that I should see gynecologist often for safety

[Berethor]

Glad to help, I didn't thought that I would be able to help that situation, but looks like I did in the end. He tried multiple time to whore you, he obviously don't have much love and respect for you if he is doing such things, to be fair when you sext with him you might made the impression of being a very horny girl, but it does not mean that a very horny girl for multiple guys, and not for only for a single guy. If you are a virgin then you don't need to see a gynecologist often, many of the advices that he gave you are questionable.

[Asker]

he knew that I like him. but why he's doing this to me?

[Berethor]

I believe that he is acting disrespectful for you, he is treating you like a slut even though you are a virgin. Instead of feeling honored by being the only guy that saw your private part, he wanted you to show your private part to his friend, good that you refuse that.

[Asker]

is he hating women because of failed in marriage? which is why doing bad things to me?

[Berethor]

Yes his divorce put him on a dark path, looks he was hurt by his ex wife cheating on him and/or leaving him, and by extension he feel hurt by all women, even women who are relatively innocent, a woman who is 10 years younger than him and is a virgin. Looks like in his mind all women are sluts and can't be trusted, so he avoid getting attached to any woman.

[Asker]

and why his profile picture is his mom and him in there? I heard guys won't show off their mom to the girls that they don't like

[Berethor]

Maybe because his mom is the only woman that he respect, and that's why they so close.

tvtropes.org/.../MadonnaWhoreComplex

[Asker]

hmm.. I guess you're right. he ever talk about his mom. and he just replied my message, he didn't text me much because he got a project that he has to finish soon.

[Berethor]

So how you feel about him now that his reasons had become more clear to you?

[Asker]

I'm in between now, your reason and his reasons are making sense

[Berethor]

He is telling you that he has other reasons? even after he told you to sext with his friend?

[Asker]

he told me to do with his friend when we didn't know each other yet. and I already told you the reason why he suggested me do with his friend. so it has been a half year. today I was asking for sext (my planning was do it one last time and he doesn't know my plan) and his reason is he got a project last week. so he need to finish it soon. he'll text me when he's done. the way m you describe, he is a bad guy. every reasons you gave me sounds make sense. but when I saw him in every video call, he doesn't look like a bad guy. he's kind of shy and nice guy, with sad soul.

[Berethor]

If it was when you didn't know each other yet it less bad, but it still bad, because you was already sexting with him and he tried to make you into a group ho for his friend, plus he know that you virgin and have insecurities, so he should known that you are not the kind of girl that sexing with multiple guys, it looks like it for the better that you find out about that though sexting, if you lost your virginity to him and then he would had being his friends to try you out, it would had been worse, it would had set you on a dark path, of whoring for his friends and likely for other guys as well, in fact it's how some formerly innocent girls had start whoring. A love can make a girl blind, and she might not be able to see where the guy is leading her until it's too late, especially if the girl is somewhat naive. Well seems to have a sad soul, the problem is that he was about to make you a sad soul as well, even if he does not do it out of evil, he could had still hurt you. You like sexting with him and that's why you want to sext with him for one last time?

[Asker]

yea.. I wanted to tell him that I really like him and if he doesn't feel the same way, I want to stop.. but I don't know if my words enough to make him realized that I love him more than sext.

[Berethor]

The fact that you are virgin should made him aware of that, virgin girls don't tend to sext with random guys, it's also one of the main reasons that you got so attached, even though in that case it was "just" sexting and not actual sex, also you overcome your insecurities because you love him and not because nudity and sexuality had become totally trivial for you at that point right? If he wanted to sext with a girl who don't get attached he should had sext with slutty girl, though maybe he did that because he thought that as a virgin you are more likely to be satisfied with just sexting, but it still don't justify all the times that he was pushing you to the hands of other guys, and basically treating you like a slut. So you still going to tell him how your feel about him or you feel like it pointless at this point? the question is not just if he is able to believe you, as he seems to not have have much trust for women, the question is also if he able to love a woman at that point and respect the fact that she is show her private part only to him and not to other guys, because it looks like he has zero respect for all woman, and that the only exception is his mother.

[Asker]

I don't know what to say.. to be honest, sexting start from other guys, I did it because I got rejected by my ex best friend. we had been friends for 5 years. but then I felt so hurt as if I want to eat myself because I waited for a few years. and I felt like I wasted my time for this guy. and I started sexting with random guys to forget him. and when I found this guy, he able to made me forget my ex best friend and that's how i started to love him.. because our relationship is not exclusive, I still did with 2 guys I knew. and since I able to forget my ex best friend, I stopped seeking for sext with random guys.

[Berethor]

So a lot of guys had saw you naked despite the fact that you are virgin? so nudity don't seem like a big deal for you after all, then why at first you was not comfortable seeing his dick, if you saw a lot of other dicks before that? I thought that he is the only guy that you was sexting withing with, and why you didn't agreed to sext with his friend if you was sexting with 2 other guys anyway?

[Asker]

I wasn't comfortable because he was the first guy wanted me to video call. and the other guys before him, I didn't look much their dick pictures and I don't find it's pleasure seeing dicks up until now. and during that time I was only sexting involving with texts only , no video calls, no videos, and teasing pictures only. I was new to this.

[Asker]

and I don't want his friend because it's weird to be agree, and I still have pride. I only want him rather than his friend

[Asker]

what I found pleasure is from writing, on what they want to do (feels like reading erotic novel), and I video call with only him because I love seeing his face, his voice, the way he speak...

[Berethor]

That story is more complected than I thought. So you are not so different with him after all, you also walked on the dark path, he did that because his ex wife, and you did that because your ex best friend, the difference is that he didn't able to forget his ex wife, but of course a failed marriage is more serious than a failed friendship, so it make sense that it effected him more. You regret the time when you was sexting with random guys or you feel like that if you was not sexting with random guys then you would had done worse things, like having sex with random guys, and you consider it a lesser evil? still it's unusual to hear about a virgin girl that done so much sexting with random guys. So you felt that the video call is entirely different level, the closets you got to actual sex, and now dick pictures and writing seem like a downgrade to you. Now you feel ready to take it up to the next level, and you feel like by your current standards you feel like the guy is also wasting your time, almost like your ex best friend did.

[Asker]

well you can say that. we both had dark past. and yes I regretted for what I did in the past. the video call isn't something that I call upgrade. he thought that I might a catfish. and this is why we video call. and to think how i waited for my ex best friend was a big waste time. so I started to get afraid to waste time again..

[Berethor]

I understand his concern about catfishes, it's known risk in sexting, her might feared that you are actually a guy behind the screen, though it might also been mainly an excuse to start video calls, and it's not like he needed to see you nuked in the live stream only to confirm that you are a girl, though he might wanted to confirm that the body parts that he see in the pictures are actually yours. You don't see the video call as an upgrade? does it mean that you prefer if you was just seeing his dick picture and writing with him? the video calls still make you uncomfortable or you saying it in retrospect, and you feel like that the video calls was one of the main reason that you felt so horny about him and fall in love for him, and that it backfired, because it looks like he is only interested in sexting. Looks like you and the guy have a opposite fears, he is afraid of having a serious relationship again , and you are afraid of wasting your time again.

[Asker]

at first wasn't comfortable, then after a few times video call, I no longer feel uncomfortable and I got horny after he ejaculate , but then I started to fall in love because we had some conversation non sexual.

[Berethor]

So you fall in love because of the non-sexual conversations, I thought that you fall in love because of how much you like seeing him ejaculate. Maybe having a non-sexual conversations was more risky in your case?

tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/LoveHurts

[Asker]

yes. I fell in love with him in that way. and I love when having conversation with him. I love watching him singing, sighing, chuckle, humming, his expression.

[Berethor]

I see, well I am not sure why he was doing that stuff if he didn't wanted you to get attached.

[Asker]

oh. I just remembered, when he tried me to do with his friend, he admitted that he doesn't want me to get hurt and he doesn't want me to fall in love with him. but then I kept telling him that I only want him and doesn't want his friend. after that moment, we stopped contact for a month. then he came back.

[Berethor]

Well looks like he gave you an warning, though the part with his friend was fairly nasty.

tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/ResistTheBeast

[Asker]

and I ever made some jokes that we should get marry and he was like let's marry. a first joke was same, but he just silent. then when I tried again some other time, he responded. after that I no longer do that

[Berethor]

I think that it was half-joke, and looks like he noticed that too, you want to marry him, and as a virgin you has a full right to tell him that you would have sex only after marriage, if he was to marry you he take a risk, but you also take a risk if you was to have sex with him, a girl's first time is meaningful, and you don't want to risk being used, and is one of the best guarantee that the guy would not leave you after sex, though it's not a 100% guarantee because divorces are a thing but still. Yea maybe you should go big or go home with him, only if you would be able to convince him to marry you then you can be sure that he is not wasting your time.

[Asker]

I ever tell him that I won't sex before marriage and he supports that. he even said do not shove anything inside me

[Berethor]

Interesting but didn't it contradict with him saying you that you should have fun with everything before marriage?

[Asker]

yea... maybe he means by have fun with friends, enjoy life before marriage as long as stay being virgin? he has a faith in religion even tho he is not religious. so.. he knew sex outside marriage is a sin

[Berethor]

Then good thing that you found a loophole with sexting, it's almost like you had sex but you still virgin.

[Asker]

hmm. sex imagination..

[Berethor]

Sexting more than imagination, and more than movies and books, but it still less than actual sex.

[Asker]

yeah..

[Asker]

other than that, I love him because he's kind of willing to give me advice about future career, my brother school path.. I rarely told him my problems because my ex best friend couldn't hear/no longer willing to stay around me because of my personal problem.. so it was a lesson for me to hide my problems.

[Berethor]

I see, well at least you got something from that relationship beside sexting, his advices in that area might be useful, though his advice to sext with his friend was not useful. How your ex best friend was your best friend if he was not willing to hear about your problems?

[Asker]

after a few years friendship he started to get fed up being around with me. he said that I'm full of negative.

[Berethor]

You don't sound negative to me, but maybe I am missing something, well except for the time when you was sexting with multiple guys, but that happen after your friendship with him has ended.

[Asker]

yeah. I thought sext and talking to multiple guys would made me forget him.

[Asker]

I need you to reply..

[Berethor]

What the urgency? there is two ways to interpret the fact that he is having less video calls with you, he might be doing it for your own good, because feels like it would be bad for you if you get attached to him too much, considering that he is a guy who is not interested in a serious relationship, or he is having less video calls with you because he don't like the fact that you are not satisfied with sexting, and that you want more from him, or maybe both reasons are true, also when he was giving you advices about your future career he might been not only doing it to help you, but also to make you focus more on career instead of focusing on him and on your wishes to get married. He basically make you choice career over relationship, just like he did in the end. Guys usually don't care about girls career, so there is likely a catch. He prefer for you to focus on your career rather then focus on him and on children, and he is 10 years older than you, yes he don't want you to think further than about having fun and studies.

[Asker]

I don't know what to do now...

[Berethor]

No much that you can do, even sending him a nude would likely not change much, considering the situation. You also already told him that you want to marry him, and he rejected that idea.

[Asker]

:( how to make him change his mind?

[Berethor]

I am not sure if it's possible, if it's a million-to-one chance would you take it? or you afraid to waste time? talking with him about sex is unlikely to be enough to change his mind, you can step back and tell him that you okay with just sexting or you can tell him that you love him and that you want have children with him, and see if those words has moved him.

tvtropes.org/.../MillionToOneChance

[Asker]

i want to take that chance but I'm afraid to waste my time.

[Berethor]

So what you going to do? you need to make the call, but he also need to make a call from his own side, and by the way you technically already invested quite a lot of time in him, didn't you?

[Asker]

yea. but not really. I don't spent time for him like 24h a day is a no. just an hour for a day. and we met at the end of last year... should I wait until he wants to make a call

[Berethor]

Yea you don't spend much actual hours on him, not that you needed to especially when it comes to sexting, but it still a year in which you might been looking for a relationship with other guy. No I don't think that you should wait, playing games would just make you waste more time. Make the call and tell him what you need to tell him, and see what would be his response.

[Asker]

but I don't know how to make it works if he wants the relationship.. Im still a student. :(

[Berethor]

Well you can offer to leave your studies and become a housewife for him.

tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/Housewife

tvtropes.org/.../CareerVersusMan

[Asker]

:) I wish.. but end of this year, I'll be done with studies. next year graduate.

[Berethor]

That's not so far away, so you can tell him that you want to marry him by the end of this year. :)

[Asker]

yea. I will. I will confess to him when im about to graduate. I hope our feelings are mutual :(

[Berethor]

I hope that he would at least respect your feelings for him even if he is not feeling the same.

[Asker]

yesss. I hope he won't treat me like my ex best friend did.

[Berethor]

He won't, as your ex best friend fully rejected you, while he liked to sext with you at the very least.

[Asker]

:) you made me feel better.

[Berethor]

Glad to hear that, so get really to make your confession to him when you about to graduate. :)

[Asker]

yeah. :) I will try to bait him with inviting him to my graduation.

[Berethor]

Interesting bait, when baiting a guy with sex don't work, try to bait him with graduation. :)

[Asker]

if you're in his position, would you want to visit me for my graduation?

[Berethor]

I think so, but out of politeness rather than actual bait, though is seems like he is interested in your career, also I don't know how far away he lives from you, how much kilometers are his house far from there?

[Asker]

he live in diff country. I think I ever mentioned that before. :/

[Berethor]

Yes you did, but you didn't mentioned how far away is his country, how many flight hours?

[Asker]

11 hours flight..

[Berethor]

Wow, not wonder that it's hard for him to visit you, but you can still move to his country.

[Asker]

he moved to better company which is near to his home , so he lives with his mom. and I don't know where I would love if I move. hmm maybe I should save some money, and travel while forgetting harsh life in my country xd

[Berethor]

Anyway a long distance relationship with him not gonna work, the only chance is if you live close to him.

[Asker]

means I have to be a student again? what a pain. i hate study...

[Berethor]

Your diploma would be useless in his country? and you have the option of becoming a housewife.

[Asker]

I don't know if my degree would be a waste in his country or not. I meant continued my studies in his country. but I don't want to study again. it's pain to be a student. :/

[Berethor]

So your degree is more important to you than marrying him? well then sexting is the only option. :)

[Asker]

both is important. if God will, it would be amazing. but yeah.. we don't know with whom God set us up. by the way thanks for advice. you made me want to be careful and realized that he may not love me. :)

[Berethor]

Sometimes you have to choose, but yea you should be more careful, and more aware of his intentions. :)

[Asker]

yea.. I think he doesn't want to do bad things anymore , and I honestly don't want too because it's a sin... time to remember God first than him. 😅

[Berethor]

Yea it might be the reason, I don't think that God approve sexting, though it less bad than casual sex.

[Asker]

you're right

[Asker]

I tried to talk to him.. but he just gave me short reply. and I asked him if he's busy.. and I asked him if he doesn't want to talk to me anymore.. but he just replied that he's quite busy. he didn't answer me if he doesn't want to talk to me or not... is that means he's not ready to see me disappear in his life?

[Berethor]

Hard to tell, he might just want to avoid being brutally honest with you, even though guys tend to be more honest than girls in those matters. He might be just very busy or he might be losing interest, that said the fact that he don't ghosting you is an induction that he is not ready to see you disappear from his life.

tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/BrutalHonesty

[Asker]

he was being brutal honest when I told him that I like him and I had a doubt when he said he was busy. so his respond was like that's he's a divorcee, and he told me that he has no time with text since he really couldn't sleep well because of work..

[Berethor]

Yea he tell you that he divorcee as a way of showing you why a serious relationship between you is not likely to work, did you ask him what the reason that his previous marriage had ended? as for not having time, it might be the real reason but usually it's an excuse, he likely can find some time for you if he really wanted.

[Asker]

he said his ex no longer want him

[Berethor]

He was not more specific about why? and he believe that the same gonna happen with you.

[Asker]

she no longer want to have intimacy with him. so sounds like she found other man cheat behind him?

[Berethor]

Yes sounds like she was cheating or she was frigid and she lied about it until after their marriage.

[Asker]

marriage won't happen if she's frigid. so most likely she was cheating. most wife asked for divorce because of cheating.

[Berethor]

How he know if they waited until marriage? also she might faked not being frigid at first, but yea she might cheated on him which is worse, a man get very hurt if he get cucked by his women.

[Asker]

I don't know.. it just our assumsion.. but yeah. most women who asked for it a cheater.

[Berethor]

True, and she might been worried that he would find out about it soon.

[Asker]

sad. he better should try with me

[Berethor]

If he trust you, his wife was a virgin? maybe she had a slutty past and that's why she cheated.

[Asker]

he didn't tell me that. and I didn't ask him in detail. and my last question for him, I asked if he has children. and he said he doesn't have. then i changed topic because he looked depressed.

[Berethor]

But he knows that you are virgin no? and finding out if his wife was virgin would helped you to estimate how much different you are from her, if she was virgin it's more problematic because it means that it hard for him to trust even women who seems innocent, but if she was not virgin then you can use your virginity to convince him that he should try a relationship with you before he give up on all women, also how much years was they married? you know why didn't they had children?

[Asker]

when I found about him, my mind was empty. I couldn't think what questions I should ask. I was only curious if he has children or not. and when he said no. I felt like "phew. everything is done" and what I knew he said divorcing process took a long time to be done and it was so tough. when we just met, he thought that I wasn't virgin because I acted like a female dog in heat.. but some days later.. he knew that I'm virgin.

[Berethor]

Yea it make sense for him to be surprised by you being a virgin, most virgin girls are not so horny.

tvtropes.org/.../UnexpectedVirgin

[Asker]

maybe his ex wasn't a virgin.. because their marriage only last in a short time. I don't know how short it was. and I heard the divorcing process took more than a year.. by the way women nowadays are wild. and some even dare telling everyone they are no longer virgin and even shame being virgin

[Asker]

virgin girls doesn't look like horny girls because we still know how to handle our sexual frustration. we still able to hide our frustration. we just express our kinky or sexual stuff when we met someone we trust.

[Berethor]

I know that women nowadays are wild, that's why virgin women are so rare nowadays, and yes some of those wild women are doing a virgin-shaming on virgin women, I heard about that. Virgin girls doesn't look like horny girls because we still know how to handle our sexual frustration? more like are used to handling sexual frustration because virgin girls have experience with that, especially virgin girls who stayed virgin for many years, if they was not able to control it then they was likely not virgin anymore. Actually girls who are less sexual are more likely to stay virgin for longer, as it's harder for a girl who is horny to stay virgin, especially considering the fact that it usually easier for girls to find sex, because guys tend to be more sexual and less choosy than girls, when it comes to casual sex, when it comes to serious relationship guys can actually be more choosy than girls, and that why smart guys don't see slutty girls as wife material. Yes maybe his ex wife was not virgin, and that's why she had possible cheated on him, as she was already used to jump from on guy to another, so it was not hard for her to cheat and leave.

[Asker]

yeah. you're right. but here slightly diff. in my country , the girls who tend to be virgin for many years because it's hard to get relationship. the guys are less population. the girls tend to chase any guy they found. and the guys rarely known as single because the girls chase them like crazy even tho they are not good looking. so girls like me , as a shy person in real life, is hard to get a boyfriend. we have to compete with other girls. sigh.. and weirdly.. most women still want to cheat even tho they are already in 50s and have child either.. :/

[Berethor]

Country that has much more girls that guys? that's odd, it's like china but the other way around.

[Asker]

yea. odd 🙂

[laPrincesitaRoxi]

Girl honestly are you even gonna be able to meet this person? I mean it doesn’t matter if you can’t but It does Kinda you know don’t waste your time is what I’m trying to say, but if you must I mean it’s fine a long distance relationship could work but just make sure you really are working towards something and put it out there that you like this person more than a sexting buddy

[DavidFox]

Omg chica you are actually bringing wisdom and common sense to G@G.. do they allow that here?

[laPrincesitaRoxi]

Awe thank you lol 🤍✨

[DavidFox]

De nada

[Asker]

I don't know if I able to or not to meet him. I'm still a student. I don't have money to travel. but he has a job, so I just wish he would come to meet me.

[Anonymous]

Long distance relationship works sometimes. Why don’t you tell him you like him?

[Asker]

I ever told him that I like him in the video call.. and he chuckled and said "ldr?" so I just being silent and didn't answer him. then we talk about something else

[Asker]

it's been 2 weeks we didn't talk. and yesterday he could reply my text only once.

[Apope16]

That was probably me. And I would say PM me or another guy who is good at sexting. You are a special lady.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Tell him you like him

[Asker]

I will tell him today

[Asker]

or maybe some other day. my skin condition isn't good -_-

[Gwenhwyfar]

Wait till your skin looks better

[Asker]

yes 🙂

[Gwenhwyfar]

That might be what it means

[Asker]

so I no longer attractive?

[Gwenhwyfar]

No. You are. Guys just lose interest sometimes.

[Asker]

means he only wants to stop the benefits and want to be friends only?

[Gwenhwyfar]

Yes. Probably.

[Nephilim000]

It's time to move on. Stay busy it will help you not think about it and in time you will think about him less and less

[CasaNorba]

find another dude, I'm pretty sure there are plenty of these type of thirsty dudes in this site. but I must warn you that they could be catfishes

[tofamous]

Why feel that the attraction was the sexual chance to see shared visually in there so much more to the relationship than just that

[Asker]

I don't get it...

[tofamous]

Well because the soft spoken words made you feel good and you are probably physically attracted to him by his appearance and the things that he was doing

[Asker]

yea...

[wondering_guy]

Yeah even if you both did like each other a lot you still live far apart so won't work in the long run, it's good he helped you with your insecurities, I'd say talk to him and if you have to break it off then it's good in the long run otherwise you will get hurt more, if you still want to sext with him then do but it won't work relationship wise.

I was really drawn to a girl I was sexting that was from her for awhile but we ended it after awhile, if you want to chat message me, I'm not gonna ask to sext, unless you want to do that, just to chat about our experiences

[ashish804]

jt happens hunn.. but the time kf truth is to accept it baby

[AmeerX]

It is love. Give it time

[AmeerX]

I think he find someone else

[Asker]

he is not active in social media

[AmeerX]

Maybe in person then?

[Asker]

maybe , If so he would be online to talk to her? so I believe he's still single plus his job surrounding with men.

[AmeerX]

You do have full information on him. Are you sure you are not holding him in too tight?

[Asker]

I don't understand

[AmeerX]

I feel you are watching his life closely

[Wise4myage]

Then why stop liking him? Continue and have keep having fun?

[Wise4myage]

Sounds like he was out to have fun and moved on to the next girl.

[Asker]

if so.. why he does not online much?

[Wise4myage]

Maybe he is online and he's just hiding from you?

[Asker]

I saw his last seen.

[Wise4myage]

Then he's just ignoring you.

[Gedaria]

I know what you mean. Nearly every time bi came on here she would have sent some replies. Even some links to some naughty pictures. I quite miss her...

[Twalli]

Does he feel the same?

[Fuentes]

Sounds weird but u can hit me up instead

[TienShenhan]

How would he force you sexually through the internet?

[Tstrbrainer]

Try talking to others too

[Asker]

I tried... it's not helping..

[Tstrbrainer]

Let's try 😉

[hamadazopry]

Find another guy to help you to forget h 👌👌🤨

[male45]

Maybe you should try to not talk so much. Try to leave longer periods between chatting

[Asker]

how long? a month?

[male45]

That depends on you

[male45]

But if you like the feeling there is no harm in what you are doing

[Asker]

I started to hate the feeling. I feel like I'm being delusional, obsess or only likes the guy and the guy perhaps doesn't like me..

[male45]

Then maybe you should try not to chat it don't matter if its days or weeks thats completely up to you

[Asker]

I tried to not chat, and it's been 2 weeks we didn't communicate. and yesterday he only could reply my text only once. :(

[Asker]

I miss the old time...

[male45]

That tells me you like it

[male45]

You probably just miss the sexting

[male45]

Was it the first time you have sext

[Asker]

yes. first time video call someone xd

[male45]

Thats probably it then I remember my first time i didn't want it to end either lol

[Asker]

😂😂😂🤣 could you please tell me , how was it like?

[male45]

Not in public i won't you can pm me if you want

[Asker]

hmm.. someday I might pm you. :)

[Asker]

i don't know what to do now..

[male45]

Ok when you are ready

[Asker]

may I know that thing ended?

[male45]

Yes it did

[male45]

But we still talk

[Asker]

up until now?

[male45]

Yes from time to time but just normally no sexting

[Asker]

why you stopped sexting?

[male45]

Not saying no more sorry

[Asker]

would you tell me more if I pm?

[male45]

Yes i would

[Asker]

I couldn't pm you. but I already follow you

[male45]

Try now i needed to follow you

[A_Nihilist]

Must have been some damn good sexting.

[maxflame]

PM me I can help you out

[Asker]

how?

[maxflame]

Advice tips anything

[maxflame]

Or to just talk

[Asker]

here., please

[maxflame]

No pms only

[Anonymous]

It okay love will find a way I met my wife on GaG

[Asker]

seriously?

[Opinion Owner]

Nope This in all likelihood isn't going to work out

[inb0x908]

Hey seriously! That's awesome dude. Happy for you. I had many relationships on here and all ended the same way. I am talking to a girl right now. Let's see what will happen this time

[inb0x908]

Wait? It didn't work? Haha I should have read it all

[Opinion Owner]

@inb0x908 Muah ha ha

[inb0x908]

Smh..

[Opinion Owner]

@inb0x908 Hey man you probably think i'm full of shit, but i honestly have a fiance, and today she just randomly had on a GirlsAskGuy's shirt that she got when she was a member of this site years ago. So actually while i didn't meet my wife on here, turns out she was a member in the past

[Anonymous]

Why do you feel hurt?

[Opinion Owner]

Oh no. I am sorry to hear that. I hope that the next guy you meet is better than him.

[Asker]

I'm tired searching for new guy

[Opinion Owner]

I know it is difficult to find someone else. I have been looking for someone else unsuccessfully for years now. I am so very tired of looking; but if I stopped I worry that I would be alone forever. Which scares me to keep going; I adopted Dory's motto from Finding Nemo, "Just keep swimming." As it inspires me to keep moving forward.

[Asker]

:') your advice is meaningful... it's pain but you're right keep moving..

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks.