Am I wrong for being upset?

[Anonymous]

I have a lot of insecurities when it comes to sex. My first love left me because I wasn’t good in bed. I have had some very regrettable sexual experiences. And I have been sexually assaulted. Despite all this I want to be good at sex. After my first love dumped me because I wasn’t good in bed I decided I wanted to become great at sex. Unfortunately I have a lot of sexual issues. My vagina is very sensitive. Certain positions cause a lot of pain for me and it took me a while to realize that I’m allergic to latex condoms, so I’ve had some horrible allergic reactions in the past. My boyfriend says I’m always killing the mood, but it’s just because sexy talk makes me feel awkward. I tried to confide in my boyfriend about my insecurities, but all he kept saying was “Improve” and that I should fix myself. It hurt a lot cause I was hoping for some sort of reassurance but instead he just confirmed that he also thinks something is wrong with me.

[allaboutyou2]

In my many years I've learned that the pleasure of the sexual experience relies on both partners, if the experience isn't good both are to blame. It's a team effort.
Each of us our different, no one has no issues, part of the success of enjoyable sex is both partners being a team and being in rythm.
So don't be hard on yourself and blame yourself and don't let anyone else blame you.
When both concentrate on the comfort, pleasure and satisfaction of the other, then sex will be a wonderful thing for both involved.
Find the person who thinks you are worth satisfying and your experience will be good.

[Tobi_Lerone]

That's bad... if you talk about issues like that to your boyfriend he should help you and you should find a solution together for this. Just saying "improve" doesn't really help and seems like he doesn't care. To get rid of your issues you need someone you can talk with and you need someone that is willing to find a way with you together

[Mikelaughs]

Seems that you really someone that will encourage you to talk about issues, help you overcome.
I have much to say, hmu if you want to talk

[GreenGold1992]

If I were in your shows, I'd be upset too, so no, I don't think you're wrong, and your boyfriend sounds like an asshole.

[Deku2009]

Just communicate to
Your future boyfriend/sexual partners

[Anonymous]

go get a simp that wants to wait til marriage for sex

[Opinion Owner]

I mean i get it you're a girl so we're all supposed to coddle you and reassure that you're a pretty princess and if he loved you he would sacrifice his happiness for you and all that bullshit, and maybe it really isn't an issue with you. However it just might be an issue with you it's hard to tell

[Asker]

You’re an angry little fella aren’t you? Are you one of those incels?

[Opinion Owner]

Ad hominem because you can't actually discuss the actual point Saw it coming. Don't worry, tons of gals and guys will be here soon to reassure you and tell you how you can do no wrong with regard to sex just because of your gender soon

[Asker]

No one said anything about me being unable to be do/be wrong. You just delivered your message with such negativity.