Girls, what would be your reaction if a guy would want to talk about kinks?

[idontknowwhattowrite]

[SueShe]

Red alert!

"A" guy means that you are not intimate or close. Therefore, this is an absolute no go and a warning site that this person is into something no good.

He is testing you to see how far he can go with you and if you are worth to bother at all for something that he is into. To me, it is a sign that he is into weird things while being intimate and that he is checking your reaction to assess whether you could satisfy his vile kinks or fantasies..

That is a toxic behavior, mainly in view of the fact that you don't know this person intimately. It is also a sign of a possible psychological issue with his sexuality.

[idontknowwhattowrite]

I didn't meant just a random guy, I used "a" in the sense of a person that you are close enough or intimate to talk about kinks. Of course, always be safe and careful with these thigs! I meant it in a romantical/intimate way, I think it is important to have a good communication and to be able to talk about all the things that are on your mind.

[SueShe]

To me, that is again a warning. Sure communication is the most important thing in a relation. However, as soon as someone starts talking about kinks/fantasies, there is a subtle pressure onto the other person/partner to try this kink. A very unhealthy situation because you are progressively putting the other person under constant pressure to give the kink (s) a try even though the other person is not interested in those kinks.

[idontknowwhattowrite]

So you think it is better to hide the kinks and things one would like to try or is into when one is in a relationship? And how can one know if the other person is not also into that kink?

[SueShe]

You can talk about it but if the other person is rejecting the idea of those kinks, people should be intelligent enough not to try to impose them onto the partner. You mentioned your fantasies to your partner, he/she did not agree with them or rejected them. In that case, the topic is closed. End of conversation. No need to try to rehash it over and over again.

[idontknowwhattowrite]

I fully agree with you that nobody should ever pressure their partner into something they don't want/are uncomfortable with. And yes, bringing up the topic again and again should also not be done. But this wasn't really my poin/question, I'm sorry if I wrote my question in an unclear way, English isn't my first language.

[SueShe]

No problem. The question was clear enough though. Regards to beautiful Switzerland :-)

[idontknowwhattowrite]

Thanks

[idontknowwhattowrite]

Sorry I have a little question, how did you know that I am from Switzerland?

[SueShe]

It is written on your profile. But it does not say whether you are from Geneva, Zurich or Lugano. Just the country.

[idontknowwhattowrite]

Ah, okay. Would you recommend hiding the country? I don't want people to assume things just based on my country... Can one even hide the country?

[SueShe]

There are two ways to block your country. 1. You set your profile to "Private" and nobody can see your country 2. You put in a different country than the one you live in.

[idontknowwhattowrite]

Thanks a lot!

[SueShe]

No problem and uf wiederluege, au revoir and ciao

[elizamichale1]

I would love talking about it and see what can be tried

[idontknowwhattowrite]

In what kind of way would you want to talk about it? Should it be a special kind of talk or something more casual?

[elizamichale1]

Thanks for MHO honey

[elizamichale1]

Any kind of kinkiness

[idontknowwhattowrite]

And how should such a talk be approached? How would you start such a conversation?

[elizamichale1]

usually they start it with me

[idontknowwhattowrite]

May I ask what such a conversation felt like? Or how it started?

[Zannika02]

Depends on if we have already been physical or not... this is a fun topic to get to know eachother, since u guys are sexin eachother

[idontknowwhattowrite]

Would you prefer talking about it before or after having been physical?

[Zannika02]

After

[idontknowwhattowrite]

Why do you prefer after and in which way would you want to talk about it?

[Zannika02]

Bc after that first time I can tell if we have potential for more sex. If it was bland then most likely i won't be coming back for more but if we enjoyed eachother then we can work towards our kinks and maybe trying things... or if taking it not so quickly set like I'm open to this but this is a hard pass!

[idontknowwhattowrite]

Thank you very much for your answer!