Do I have a problem? couldn’t t get hard first time having sex?

[elite665]

So it’s simple me and my girlfriend tried having sex yesterday for the first time and I couldn’t stay hard enough for the condom which is super odd cause I can jerk off fine and it’s not that she’s ugly cause when she’s in a bathing suit I get a Boner and even randomly when I’m with her. But for some reason when her vagina is right I. Front of me I couldn’t hold a boner do I have a problem with my dick?

[tofamous]

We have lot of personal pressures going on it's hard to maintain an erection however something wasn't right at the time move that attempt of intercourse Then ever us exercise and a good diet will increase that

[OlderAndWiser]

Your dick was nervous. Have you had a previous sexual relationship or is this your first?

[elite665]

My first

[OlderAndWiser]

You don't need to do this all at once. You and your partner can agree to get naked and just give each other a hand job. No pressure to have PIV sex. Next time, it could just be oral sex. You will learn to relax with her and then you can reenact the big bang theory.

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO and congratulations on your success!

[AustinMan]

Sounds like performance anxiety to me.

[ManWithThePlan123]

You are probably insecure about yourself and/or scared that you were gonna fuck up.

[elite665]

I mean I don't know I was little nervous but like it’s just sex I want to do it and I’m not insecure about my dick I mean it’s a dick

[ManWithThePlan123]

Then why else would you have had that problem?

[elite665]

Nah your right

[Gerdchen]

You are just nervous before your first time. That's a totally normal thing.

Oh, and check if the condom fits. Condoms can be too tight and also too wide. Buy a few sizes and try them on your own. It should be wide enough to put it on without too much hassle, but you should be able to masturbate quite a while without it sliding off. You don't want to need 5 minutes to put it on and you also don't want to have to search her vagina for the condom afterwards.

[Kabluie]

"cause I can jerk off fine" is your issue, you are beating your meat by yourself too much and need to desensitize because your hand is not a pussy. Stop it for a few days and then you might notice the drive get better, and anxious to get inside that vagina.

[elite665]

Yeah that’s what I though too

[mich15smith]

Probably anxiety

[elite665]

I suppose I do have anxiety just never thought it would effect sex

[Shamalien]

Condoms kill boners so fast it’s no way to have sex in my opinion. If u dont trust her enough to do it raw u shudnt b having sex in my opinion. When the time is right u won't have any issues y'all rnt rd yet

[elite665]

It’s not that I don’t trust her but she doesn’t want any chance to get pregnant And tbh I’m not the one who can get pregnant so it’s not my call to make

[Shamalien]

if you aren't prepared to have a child with someone don't have sex with them That's called nature and common sense. Our modern culture since the advent of contraception has somehow forgotten this biological reality. Having sex with a condom is like having sex with a mask, you are not having real sex and you are not fully expressing yourself. Consider the symbolism. Just give these things some thought, maybe it's worth thinking about your future and where this is going? Should you even be having sex with this person?

[legalboxers]

stress.. insecurity, spanking the monkey too much...

[In_Trance]

That's very common

[Anonymous]

First time anxiety don't stress to much. As long as she is willing to try again your fine.

Take things slow, play with each others private parts only using your hands, than mouths, then try with the condom. Foreplay isn't just for the chicks.