Are most people’s sexual expectations unrealistic due to porn?

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Like gagging, hair pulling, some men refusing to give oral or perform any kind Of foreplay and just going straight for penetration etc

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Nothing sexual is unrealistic. Anything is possible and realistic if both partners want to, and/or are motivated to do it. And that is the beauty of porn.

Porn, and the sexual revolution, have conspired to push the envelope of what is considered "realistic", and it has been a boon for men (and many women).

Women have historically controlled access to sex, and men were considered "lucky to get any at all". That has aaaaaalllllllll changed with the advent of modern porn because both men and women see what happens in porn and realize that anyone can have it if they want it and have a willing partner. Men have come to expect those things (e. g., anal, gagging, hair pulling, etc.) and women realize that men expect them now, and women feel pressured to perform in ways they never did in the past because they recognize that if they don't, other women will. And they do!

In the past it was always men who were expected to perform in bed, and women felt entitled to that. But today, women are now the ones who are expected to perform sexually, and that is a beautiful thing. It has leveled the playing field, so to speak.

It's a brave new world, ladies, and you created it all. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

finallylettinggo · Accepted Answer

A lot of people's expectations are. Not all men are packing a meat club and want to be a kinky dom, not all women want choking and anal or can swallow swords. I think porn has opened up some doors and let people be more free in their sexuality but it needs to be taken with a grain of salt and not be what is expected as reality. As long as you both are happy and reach orgasm, that is all that should matter. Porn has an unrealistic approach to sex in many ways but hopefully it will make people learn to be more open and communicative with their partners while letting them explore their depths of sexual prowess. I think porn is great, but like anything you see on TV, the real thing takes a lot more work and communication.

DrippingHoney · Accepted Answer

I think just about everyone with even a little sexual experience realizes porn is fantasyland. I think it makes people want to try things they see in porn but not really expect it to play out like they see on the screen.