Would you date a girl who had sent nudes before?

[Anonymous]

As a very lonely and socially isolated person, I've always resorted to internet relationships. I must've gotten intimate with at least 5 people met online in the course of 7 years, 2 were long term (6 month and a year), the three others around a month.
I've also sometimes sent censored pictures of my body in underwears so that I could get some advices in my body, to know if I need to gain weight and such. I didn't keep count but must be around 10 people.

I simply don't really care about showing my body (as long as it's not my private parts such as my nipples and vulva) to people even tho they might get aroused by it.

I try to do it the least possible, but sometimes the loneliness and validation cravings get too intense and I end up doing it. I'll usually go a few months to a year then I'll lose my motivation to be pure.

Besides this slutty side of my person, I am a very loyal person, I've never had sex or let anyone touch me before. Hell I've never even dated.

Do you think I'm still a whore? Would you date a girl like that? I don't want the feminist "your body your choice" bullshit, I want to know if genuinely you would care.

Also most of the pictures were faceless and don't show my private parts. I must've sent like three pictures that include my face in total.

[RingOfFire]

I don't think your problem is sending out scantily clad pictures, I think it's your social choices. I think you are worrying about the wrong thing.

Of course I could date, fall for and be crazy in love with a girl who once sent out that kind of picture, even naked pictures, even worse. But I don't think it's the pictures that are going to keep you from having a relationship. It's something else.

Internet relationships will never be fulfilling. All people have a need for personal and PHYSICAL interaction. It's in our DNA and there is no substitute. The only path to relieving your loneliness is to make real, in person relationships with people. And you cannot even know a person unless you have been with them in person because there is so much about communication that the Internet cannot convey. Internet relationships are a very thin form of communication missing some of the most important things that humans do to communicate.

Try to look into yourself. Look into your own heart. What are you afraid of? Are you afraid that you're not good enough? Not pretty enough? Not sexy enough? Are you afraid that in real life you will be rejected? This is what it sounds like to me. It's not an uncommon fear, but when it reaches a point that it makes you engage in behavior that is painful and scary to you, as you seem to be experiencing now, it's time to make a change in your life.

Why do you believe that you are any less worthy of love than anyone else? You are not less worthy. You can find in yourself the courage to get out there and meet someone who really cares about you, who finds you irresistibly attractive, who LOVES the person that you are with all of your faults and beautiful parts combined. This is an experience we ALL have to go through. We ALL have our faults and beautiful parts (except me, I'm fearless and perfect) ;). We ALL have fears of rejection and sometimes want to curl up in bed in the fetal position and retreat from the world. This is normal. Don't fear trying to change yourself. You deserve REAL love, and you are no less worthy of it than anyone else. Be brave, face the world. You will not be sorry. You might just find out that you are far more attractive than you think you are.

[t-8900]

One of the major issues facing the modern woman is that nowadays she's always seeking validation from external sources. When you are in this place you are not ready for a relationship. You must be in a state of mind where you value yourself first. Weather you are a man or a woman your mate will not want to stay with you in the long run and they may lose their respect for you. Online dating is one of the worst ways to date. If you need to resort to such platforms it may say something about how you project yourself to the world. What's more people irregardless of gender are judging you at face value first and not for your merits or who you are.

Online dating has really messed up the dating scene and is going a lot of damage to men and women. Couple that with the rise of MGTOW and the War for and against Feminism and it's a recipe for disaster. Also if you are not able to find dates consider this, less men overall are interested and statistics prove it. Men no longer have an interest in the institution of marriage because for the last 3-4 generations it's been a really raw deal for them. A lot of me, myself included have experienced bitter divorce battles between their parents and watched their families fall apart at a young age. I was 11 when this happened to me and my future was largely shaped by the events that unfolded from 4 years prior all the way up into my mid 20's. I've had long term depression, abandonment issues (my mom walked out of my life and started a new and even less functional family unit), panic disorder, and suicidal thoughts in the past (I'm now over these struggles thankfully).

It might not be you, it might be, but things are changing for men and women and not for the better. I would say you need to find validation in yourself and find security in the person you are. This cannot be done through money or education, or anything else. You need to enter a spiritual journey on your own. Meditation and self reflection can help. Maybe consider going out on hikes alone, maybe bring a dog or carry something for protection if you are scared. Start reading more, dive deeper into books that give proper mental stimulation. These things help out.

[MrOracle]

That wouldn't impact my decision at all.

[Red_Arrow]

Sending nudes does not make you a slut or a whore. For some people it fulfills a need to be admired physically. For some it brings sexual enjoyment. When you get into a relationship it will be time to save that kind of activity for your partner only, although with many couples it is still okay then. And I am including picture that include the privates and nipples. If you enjoy that, then do not feel guilty. I would date a girl who has done that. And if things developed, I could marry her. (Of course I am referring back to when I was younger.)

[ohshee]

Yes I would to be honest I think ur cool there's not to many people that would be as honest as you were cough cough LMAO I'm teasing and it was about the number you said I'm teasing settle down lol the thing I like about you is,, mmm well everything except for we haven't done it chatted that is ,, I continually care about the pictures ,,, but as an Empath I felt every word you said ,, your a very deep person and I would say u are either an Empath or gifted I'm searching for something and I need all the input that I can get from other Empaths so if you would could orvwants to please SEND me a PM. So I can ask you a few things if you don't mind

[Sonorous]

Well, I don't think I'll ever want to be in a relationship, but I will entertain the thought.

It really would depend on who she sent it to & why.

If a girl was too easy and many people had been with her or seen her naked, me seeing her that way would lose the thrill. It would be exciting for me to be with someone that nobody has ever seen before. So if people had seen her, it would be very hard for me to see her in a deeper way/relationship material. It's an ego thing.

I'm trying to get rid of this view though because even I have sent things to people before. Granted, most were probably gay dudes pretending to be girls, but my point is that I'm no saint. 😂 I was desperate and young and I wouldn't like to be judged like that on my past.

[Truthatanycost]

I wouldn't because that behavior is incompatible with mine. I'm sure a lot of guys wouldn't mind, because so few of them even look beneath the surface to see behavior or look beyond their desire to notice redflags.

[Gerdchen]

It's my genuine opinion that it's your body and therefore your choice.
As long as you don't send nudes to minors, it's non of anyones business.
Even if the whole world was full of nudes of my spouse that she had given away, I wouldn't mind. Ok, maybe I'd be a little proud because if I'm with her I'd surely find her very attractive and all the other men would envy me.

[MrTuxedo]

Yeah, of course. As long as she doesn't post them on social media, I'm cool with it.

[wankiam]

wouldn't bother me in the slightest

[Apope16]

Date? No. Fuck? Yes. And I have. I'VE HAD friends with benefits with those girls too. I sext and send nudes too. It's just when a girl does that I see her purely through a fuck buddy lenses. Not romantic. However, if I go on a date with you first. And we establish things on a normal basis... and after say date 2 or 3 you send nudes? Then id date you.

[Nephilim000]

I've dated a girl like that. It doesn't make you a white. It might even excite some guys

[Browneye57]

"As a very lonely and socially isolated person, I've always resorted to internet relationships."

I quit reading here. You start out your Q with a claim that you're socially inept and a victim. What a giant FAIL.

[Massageman]

As long as the pictures only went to me :- )

[mich15smith]

yes i don't see how that behavior is that bad.

[Asker]

Some guys find it very slutty

[mich15smith]

yea but you didn't show your face and you know most guys (except me) have probably had sex before so that seems way more slutty than risky pictures but whatever.

[Titanic1912]

Yes I would. I think it only fair to meet in person if we’ve seen each other’s naked body pictures.

[AmeerX]

I think you are a better person than some girls who feigned innocence but in reality have extra marital sex and sell their body and lie.

I pray you find a good person :)

[Lottifan]

It wouldn’t bother me at all and stop thinking that you’re a whore because you’re not.

[Libarena]

I've dated guys who would.

[clampfan101]

Not a red flag, but close to it. It’d make it more difficult to take her seriously.

[Dchrls78104]

Probably not. I'm not sure how I would feel about the publicity occasioned by nudes.

[Quidthonian]

Yes, I would. I don't see that as an issue. I would have accepted you even if you'd show a bit more.