How to get over my insecurities?

[Anonymous]

I am currently in a friends with benefits situation. We have not done anything yet, but are planning to. The guy is a really skinny guy and I am on the bigger side, I don't think I'm fat, but compared to him I am a lot bigger. I am attracted to him, but it seems like my own insecurities turn me off. I know his type is skinny girls and he says he doesn't mind that I am a little bigger, but I just can't get over my insecurities. I don't want to engage in sexual activity if I am not into it because I mean one can only enjoy it if they feel sexy, but in this situation I can't stop feeling insecure. This has never been a problem for me before because the guys I have been with were bigger and liked thicc girls. I want to do stuff with him, but how do I stop feeling insecure?

[RemoErdosain]

The fact that he's skinnier doesn't mean he isn't into big girls. In fact, opposites attract pretty often. Why do you say that his type is skinny girls? Did he say that, or are you just drawing some conclusions of your own from his previous partners? Looking at previous partners to see what the "type" of someone is isn't really helpful: Just because he liked some girl doesn't mean he wouldn't like a totally different kind of girl also, or maybe even more. He definitely could help by complimenting you, though. It sounds like he's been fucking you without saying a word about your looks

[RemoErdosain]

Sorry, I just reread it, and it said "we haven't done anything yet". If he wants to do it with you, he definitely is physically attracted, and no, clothes can't hide what you think they can hide. If we want to have sex with someone when we see them with clothes, we'll find them even more desirable without clothes

[Asker]

He told me himself he prefers skinnier girls because he is on the skinnier side.

[RemoErdosain]

Well, that's a pretty douchebag move on his part if he intended to have sex with you. When did he say this? Was it a long time ago, or recently?

[RemoErdosain]

And definitely not all guys who are skinny prefer skinny girls. That's not the reason why he likes skinny girls, even if he thinks it is

[Asker]

hm okay thank you that was good advice

[RemoErdosain]

Anytime, I'm glad it helped

[Asker]

Oh no he said it long before we considered being friends with benefits.

[RemoErdosain]

Ah, OK, well, it looks like he changed his mind. I don't really believe people who say they have a "type", precisely because of this: In the end, we're all human, and we feel attracted to a wide range of people

[Anonymous]

Get a boyfriend and if you love each other he will make you feel good about yourself.
This skinny fuck friend is just gonna use you as a pump hole.
What do you care about your appearance?
He just wants your holes.

[Asker]

I don't want a boyfriend, I don't want to be tied down to one person. A relationship is just not what I am looking for.

[Opinion Owner]

Well, fair enough. Like I said, he's just gonna pound your lady parts. He's got other fuck friends that are skinny. Don't worry, just spread em for that guy and be happy.

[Asker]

Haha alright for sure

[AustinMan]

If he thinks you're sexy, accept it and lol your best for him.

[Berethor]

Well it's odd when a girl is bigger than a guy, is he at least much taller than you?

[Asker]

Yea he is like 7 inches taller

[Berethor]

Good, well it's balance some of the size differences between you two. :)

[Avicenna]

It's nothing to worry about and you should relax and enjoy yourself.

[Iron_Man]

Those things never work start over

[Asker]

The thing is we are good friends and like we aren't each other's type so i think it would work, just some temporary fun.

[Iron_Man]

You’re not attracted to each other but yet you have sex. This isn’t right

[Asker]

It is not that we aren't attracted to each other, we are, but like he is not what i would prefer when looking for a significant other and same goes for him. I don't want to be in a relationship, but want to still engage in sexual activity.

[Iron_Man]

Those are bad moral values

[Asker]

whoops sorry bout it

[In_Trance]

leave it to him. if he agrees, he knows what he's getting into. no pun intended

[Asker]

He says im attractive, but like clothes can hide a lot, I don't want to do stuff for the first time and he sees my body and is like yikes.

[In_Trance]

again, leave that to him. you can pass judgement