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Why do some people say they are ok with not being respected in the bedroom (or even want it) ? Is it really healthy?

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Most Helpful Guys

  • primal instinct. Sex is when we are at our most based form weather people like it or not. It's when the animal comes out and those with a dominant personality want to dominate and those that are submissive want to submit. In GENERAL a man has an urge to dominate, it's in his nature. There are exceptions. But given the traditional ways which we breed with success in certain positions it tells you all you need to know about humans during sex. The man penetrates, the woman receives. The man impregnates, the woman is impregnated, the male expels his seed, the woman carries his seed. The dominant party is not better than the submissive party and it says nothing about the parties. It doesn't make one less than the other in any way. It's just our biological nature. For high rates of success at breeding the male must be in the dominant role. This may reveal weather he is alpha or beta as well. Being dominant doesn't mean he's jamming his penis down your throat while you gag and struggle for air or causes harm to you. So being dominant does not mean they are dehumanizing you or disrespecting you.

    • This isn't what I was talking about...

    • credit for trying? :o

    • Lol 😜

  • I would guess because they have low self esteem and believe this is the only way they can get validation

    • I tend to agree with this.

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  • I dont know anyone who says that. But anyone who doesn't care about being respected, has no self respect and that person should work on those issues before getting into any relationship, let alone a sexual one.

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  • It's not a true lack of respect. It's just a game and it's fine if that's what they want. Usually they want the freedom that comes from not having to make any decisions. A lot of women have a submissive streak sexually.

  • It's called masochism, and girls who truly possess high respect should wait until marriage. :)

  • This depends on the people involved, and many details!
    Hmu if you want to discuss

  • it is just a kink and is perfectly health as long as you aren't causing permanate damge and have consent

  • Because some people just want to let go and be as naughty as possible, no one just wants to be the good Angel all the time. They want to be the animal, crazy raw energised. Some want to be handcuffed and used for someone else's pleasure, sometimes the dom and sometimes the sub. It's a release from being a goody good all the time

    • But I don't understand why they need to describe this as "disrespectful". I mean I am a domina, I'm into intense domination and all but I don't want anyone to feel disrespected.

    • It's not but some stuck up people refer to it as that even when it's not. On the other hand some people feel like they want to be degraded in some ways

    • If you're degraded without being respected then it's abuse, not BDSM. all people partaking in BDSM must be very willing and happy to be there. No one should be a victim. Do people really have such problems with the meaning of "abuse" and "rape"? Sex should always be respectful.

  • they are kind of insane.. because something during roleplay kind off or version of sex is different but at the end.. the respect matters.. One can't live without respect

    • I agree. I mean I'm into BDSM but respect is fundamental here.

    • yeah.. thats my point... i too love BDSM but u have to keep the respect where if someone doesn't like anything, u have to respect it.. and do accordingly to the things of mutual consent

    • Exactly.

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  • What does it mean to be respected in the bedroom?

    • Being considered as human beings with the right to dispose of their own body and to tell their desires.

    • I still have no idea what that means.

    • Too bad for your paryners then...

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  • permission is a turn off.

  • Met a lot of girls that want to be degraded

  • As long as it's understood and communicated properly. No problems with it.

  • The reason some people prefer submissive play is probably the thrill of "being at another person's mercy" but yet in a safe environment. In most cases this may be a rather harmless preference, especially if it is only role-play and the physical act is not painful for him/her.
    There is however a significant number of people who believe the bedroom is the right place to therapy their personality disorders. As a rule of thumb I would say the harder it gets the more likely the person indulging in pain has serious mental issues. When women report they enjoy extremely rough penetration in any other than sexual way - that would be not for some kind of physical stimulation but for some "mental kick" even though they feel pain... Biggest red flag I can think of.
    If a person behaves like they are mental the most likely reason would be: They are!

  • If it's only in the bedroom, it's fine.
    I like being dominated by a woman (but only during sex).

    • Well, I do understand the attraction of being submissive during sex but why should it be "disrespectful"? Can't you be dominated without it being disrespectful?

    • Disrespectful is part of the experience of being dominated! At the end of it, we know that this is only role-playing... A lot of what's done during sex is illogical

    • That's the ambiguity of BDSM: this is seen as disrespectful, yet it has to involve respect not to be abusive.

  • completely healthy

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