Is it possible to find true love with a high sex drive?

[denver25]

I’m a 25 year old female and I have to admit my high sex drives always gets the best of me when it comes to guys I actually like.

And no i’m not the type to sleep with just anyone willingly.. it’s only guys that I actually want a relationship with Im always the one pushing for sex right away. My last relationship ended because my ex felt like I only wanted him for sex and he couldn’t keep up with how often I wanted sex due to him being in college and running track.

I guess Im really wondering if i’ll ever find true love having a sex drive out the roof like this... I feel like even if I met my sexual match Id eventually get tired of him and want something else.

[AustinMan]

It is but you'll have to find a guy that wants you as much and as often as you do. Then let him drive.

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I see questions all the time asking if she should text him, reach out to him, tell him she wants more. In a word, the general answer is no. The reason is a bit complicated but once you understand it, I hope you’ll see the wisdom in it.

Relationships at any level, be it friends, friends with benefits, lovers, or a couple is based on each party having an emotional investment in the relationship. This leads to an axiom a friend told me in college that has served me very, very well:

Your commitment to a relationship is proportional to your investment in it and NOT your profit from it.

Think about that. I found this to be both true and profound. It summed up how a huge number of relationships go off the rails. One party gets significantly more invested and therefore more committed than the other and ends up ofttimes getting hurt.

So how do people emotionally invest in a relationship? With their time, energy, attention, and to a lesser degree money. When a woman meets a man she likes, she will often flirt and do other things to encourage him. That’s investment that’s largely one sided. She’s investing and he’s not, hence things are out of balance. To get them back in balance, he needs to invest. Men invest more than any other way through pursuit. Men also invest my doing things for her, be it helping her with something physically a bit beyond her comfort level, like moving a piece of furniture to helping her with her computer to asking her on a date. Yes, asking is an investment. There’s risk in asking early on that she’ll say no so when he asks, he’s investing. Simply put, make him work for it.

Maybe the way the investments get out of balance is early sex. When a couple has sex too early in a relationship, very often she’s much more invested because physical intimacy is much more emotional for women than men. There are lots of exceptions for this but generally it’s true. He’s there for the good time and really enjoys the physical aspects but often times doesn’t invest emotionally. That’s why we see men pursue a woman just enough to get her in bed and then move on. She’s all invested and he’s virtually absent any investment.

Bottom line, take things a bit more slowly and deliberately. Gauge how much you’re invested versus how much they seem to be and if there’s a disparity, fix it before you move on.

I see questions all the time about how long should we wait to have sex. I always reply that it’s not about time. It’s about emotional connection, aka investment. When the connection is strong enough, sex will be on the table but before, the risk of imbalance and failure is very high.

[clampfan101]

Having a high sex drive doesn’t prevent you from feeling anything but lust. Especially if you’re looking for someone to be in a relationship with.
I’m waiting until marriage, but would easily date a girl with a high sex drive if she was able to wait.

[Berethor]

Your last sentence is an considerable induction that a true love is not for you, serial monogamy is not true monogamy. That's why girls with high sex drive are usually not wife material.

[Washere1234]

No.
Sex is an addiction like any other.
You either have it under control or you don't and it takes over your life.
If you honestly can't resist temptation or manage to make the most of your partner you will probably always fuck up and hurt people.
You have to have empathy for others and learn to put them first.
That's what love is.
If you can't do that, then you can't experience what it is to truly love.

[GingerGuy]

If he's your "true love", you won't "get tired of him". If you do, then he's not the one.

[TysonMiller]

A long a the guy you looking for has a high sex drive as well

[Grond21]

I believe it's very possible. Even if he doesn't have as high a one as yours. It takes dedication and the willingness to sacrifice though, for both people. But it absolutely can be done.

How often were you pushing for it?

[FatherJack]

Of course you will !! Men tend to have far higher sex drives than women , on average anyway , that would have been me , say 20 + years back... now , thankfully , as I am a single dad , no longer interested... which is a huge blessing !!

[pocketman]

There has to be a man out there that can match your personality and sex drive. I wouldn't worry about it, just make good choices. good luck

[Agem123]

Here for the comments, lol

[Protein_mate]

Mine his high af too never met anyone as high as mine either but i do believe so of course, plenty of fish in the sea.

[MrEscanor]

I was about to say that you could find true love that can have sex drive as high as yours but If you get tired or bored of that guy too, it will make it very difficult to find him because he would be someone you let it go because you were bored of him even if he was good

[SilverRain92]

It's possible of course. Sex is just one of the relationship aspects. Find a guy whom you would like and whose drive will match yours.

[whybnormal]

Hello, female version of me! LOL

[jirwin7979]

i have a very high sex drive but iam alone because iam to nice and to shy

[B2281]

Certainly hope so because I have a high sex drive too.

[male45]

My ex was the same but I to have a high sex drive

[anewme]

Ok If I please you well like 3 or 4 sessiins then the 5th time I alil tired or gased out do you let me rest or get impatient with me resting a few days or maybe entire week? to refill up?

[thrashed3111]

You'll find one, it's best to make that open between both of you early so it doesn't complicate things later

[travelinghandss]

You have got to find a guy that has a similar drive or very open minded. Keep it spicy switch it up add a female to make him happy. Wear costumes. Role play as his childhood celebrity crush. Hell, be his dominant mistress boss him around tell him he can't orgasm for a week even with you guys having sex and have consequences. You can always make it fun and exciting and new every time. Tie him up and make him watch you play with yourself tortue him so he will be leaking and drooling. You got this!