I want more than friends with benefits?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been dating this guy for a month or so we went on so many dates it went so well and I know he likes being with me we’d stay with each other the whole night. On the 5th date we had sex and it was really good. Since then he’s been distant still messaging but just less and less so I just asked him what he wants and what this is since I’ve been dying to ask him for agies. He just told me were having fun and that he’s not ready for anything serious but if he wasn’t busy he would be. I agreed and said yeah let’s have fun and he said that’s fine by him but this isn’t what I want. I want to go on dates to change his mind, how do I change his mind please help. I really like him and I know deep down he loves being around me.

[On_the_other_hand]

Give him space to miss and pursue you. We chase what we feel we might lose. You don't need to date others. Dating others is a powerful thing but it can powerfully backfire if he isn't the type to fight for you. Many guys just walk away and many times rightly so.

[Asker]

Okay. I’m just not gonna text him for a while

[On_the_other_hand]

Perfect. He's used to your routine of messaging him, so he never has the space to miss you. You don't have to be mean or calculating. If he asks what is up just let him know you like to reach out to him but you also like to be reached out to and wanted to give him the space to take turns.

[AustinMan]

So be a little less available. Let him pursue you. That's how men get attache.

[Paris13]

Take his word for it. Not ready. Don't give him any more sex or he will never come around.

[Paris13]

Thanks, Gag. xx

[Apope16]

You can't change his mind. Maybe after s few months of sex and you being cool and not weird. Maybe if you gave him space and freedom hed choose you. But the chances are rare. A pussy is not magic girls think their pussy is but its not.

[Asker]

Yeah that’s what I’m doing I’m just being patient not texting him and giving him space.

[Nephilim000]

By being the coolest girl he has ever known

[Asker]

I think I am one of the coolest girls he ever known. Well he always says I’m so funny and good to be around and I’m just very laid back

[Nephilim000]

Well if you want to change his mind than either be cooler or be patient and hope he changes his mind on his own

[reptocarl2]

You’re an idiot and he’s full of shit. “I’m not ready because I’m too busy” is a lie and and really means “I’m not interested in you and never will be unless you just want to fuck”

[AmeerX]

Tell him you will leave him if he doesn't want to be serious about relationship next time you meet

[Cellestial]

Bad news but I suggest you to move on right now before you get more attached to him.

[yabbadabbadoo]

You can't force someone to love you. Find someone who does want to be with you.

[SuccessfulHornDog]

If you don't want Friends with Benefits then stand fast and don't have sex with him. This new society is not good for most people and there will be a lot of sad lonely people as they age.

[REDHOTLINE]

you wants so many. This should be enought for you.

[CharlieDMX]

Stop lying to yourself and be honest. You want more

[clinteas]

a little hard to get will work wonders

[Asker]

Okay, shall I not text him for a while then until he messages me

[clinteas]

id say so

[anewme]

Where am I on the list lol

[Anonymous]

You put out and told him you were ok with just being a fuck toy.
You will never be anything else to him.
You should have bailed long before the sex.

[Asker]

It’s a hard situation since on tinder he put ‘not for serious relationships’ but I didn’t realise until the middle of us getting to know each other and thought I can change his mind. I’m worth more than a toy to him and I want to show him that

[Opinion Owner]

You are doing what most women do... you believe he will start to care for you because you are “special”... he will never grow feelings for you. You put out without the need for him to get to know you. You lost all value as a long term partner. We don’t buy the cow when the milk is free.

[Asker]

I know I sound so naive but I know he likes spending time with me we would go out on dates wns get to know each other and stay out till 7am everytime he said he loved being around me and he’d ask to see me again and again. Is it just not possible to change his mind

[Opinion Owner]

It is very rare. You are literally doing what almost all women do. They all believe they can change him and make him fall for her. It isn’t going to happen. The best way yo make a guy fall for you is to hold out, build you value, make him see that you don’t just fuck random guys. The second you put out without effort, you show that you have a history of doing that and therefore lose all value.