Is my boyfriend cheating or?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend of many years and I have always had a great sex life. We never struggle with any aspect of it, we’re open minded and comfortable with each other. Unfortunately these past two days I’ve been trying to have sex with him and he tries but cannot stay erected. He even turned me down when we tried again that same night. Every time we have noticed he isn’t staying erected, he says it’s me not being lubricated enough when I know for a fact it is not me because 1 that’s never been an issue and 2 knowing him he’d probably just keep trying until I was lubricated enough. This brings me to the idea of maybe he is cheating on me or is relieving himself other ways or possibly doesn’t think I’m attractive enough... I need an honest opinion please help!

[ShortCircuit]

It could be any number of things besides cheating:
- If you have made any drastic changes to your appearance lately, it's possible that he's less attracted to you.
- He might be watching porn/masturbating if there is something he is interested in, but is afraid to ask you to do, or you've shot it down before.
- He might just be stressed from work, school, family problems, etc.
- If he has changed his diet or started taking new medication lately, that could be responsible for lowering his libido.
- It could simply be that his erections are getting weaker merely as a result of aging. In this case, you might want to look into medication like Viagra.
- If you have had any other problems in your relationship lately, even ones that aren't directly related to your sex life, that could be responsible for it.

[AustinMan]

I feel like you're over thinking this. Try not initiating for a few days and see what happens. What's the usual time interval between sexual encounters?

[Paris13]

He may Have something Pressing on his Mind... Find out. xx

[Paris13]

Thanks, Gag. xx

[dutch69lover]

If he is in his 20's then there shouldn't be a E. D. problem. Is he doing cocaine by chance as this will keep him limp!!

Maybe start watching some porn with him or better yet let him walk in on you watching porn. Then you could always rub your hand across your womanhood and tell him to take it

[kamalravi25]

It is for sure he has lost interest or his fantasies might have changed.

[Thatsamazing]

1) The term "cheating" is erroneous and stupid, and no one should use it.
2) ... Two days? You're seriously asking this stupid shit over two days?

[wondering_guy]

Don't jump the gun just because he can't erect or doesn't want sex, sometimes guys can have off days, he's prob blaming you because he afraid of what happening to him. You got to understand that's probably knackered from work aswell. Talk to him and I mean talk to him.

Plus why is it women jump to the worse when a guy doesn't feel like havi g sex but we have to take it on the nose when we want sex and the woman doesn't

[ActiveSh1tter]

You're too paranoid. He may just be bored with sex and doesn't care about it.

You should celebrate. Finally you don't need to open your legs anymore. You can do more fun things like watch Netflix together.

[Cellestial]

He's just bored of it because you have probably been having a lot of sex. Slow it down and let him feel "the hunger" for it, in other words stop having sex for a week or so and he will be ready to make you moan his name loud

[anewme]

Yep if u think it.. it shall be henceforth past... lok.. go ahead and bend over for me and spread the good love lol

[thrashed3111]

Sounds like he may be depressed or have anxiety about something, doubt its cheating.