Guys, what do you think of a 25 year old virgin, would you date her?

Question

If she is attractive, smart, kind and affectionate, was raised Christian and is saving sex for marriage...
How much would you appreciate that as a husband? Is it something that is meaningful to you?

And as a single man would you be interested in dating her? Or would it be to hard to wait for intimacy.

Please, be Honest.

hellionthesagereborn · Accepted Answer

My issue would be the waiting until marriage part. Now that in and of itself isn't exactly bad (statistically those who wait have lower divorce rates and are happier over all), but the issue would be when? That is most women wait quite some time to get married and its rather unfair to expect a man to fullfill his end of things i. e. buying her dinner romancing her, taking her out, protecting her etc. etc. etc. for years with absolutely nothing to show for it except for the possibility of sex years later. That is asking quite a bit. Now it would make sense if your dating to marry and you intend for that to happen within a year, but waiting longer is asking quite a lot.

That aside, I would have no other issue with it and quite honestly it would be a bit of a relief as for me sex matters and knowing that she wasn't just giving it away to anyone is a good sign in my opinion. So it would all depend on that first issue which would have to be discussed first before anything serious develops.

Thatsamazing · Accepted Answer

"and is saving sex for marriage..."

Well, if this is the case, then the only thing I think is "bye." I'm not going to marry a girl without knowing I like fucking her. She may be bad at sex and marriage is, in theory, supposed to be for life. So... no thanks. Now, if she's a virgin when we meet, and she wants to give me her virginity while DATING, then that's a big turn on. But if she's insistent on no-sex-till-I-get-a-ring, then, "bye." I'll marry someone who isn't crazy.

AustinMan · Answer

I wouldn't be interested. I'm not going into a lifetime contract where the very engine that drives the intimate relationship is unknown. That's just not smart at all.

NamerOfStars · Answer

As I understand it, the main concern people have dating someone past their teens who's a virgin is social or mental problems. That concern is lessened if it's a matter of deliberate choice, but lessened is not eliminated; one can choose virginity and still be nuts.

As for myself, while I'd certainly appreciate the commitment (and respect it even if she's not dating me), I'd be worried about being the only sexual experience a person has- what if we're not compatible? She'd be stuck either being miserable with me, or breaking up a marriage (and while I suppose it might theoretically not be the case, every "virgin-till-marriage" person I've talked to about it takes marriage VERY seriously) to get out of it- lousy in either case.

Lionman95 · Answer

I would like that, because I´m the same. Sex isn´t so important to me. Hugging is also some sort of intimacy so we wouldn´t need to wait for so long.

Berethor · Answer

She sounds like a proper lady, it's uncommon nowadays, she not a ho and I respect that. :)

Gerdchen · Answer

I'd have a problem with the saving sex for marriage thing.
What if we wouldn't match sexually?
You can make lots of things work and maybe you are lucky, but some penises and some vaginas are not made for each others.

normalice · Answer

At my age that sort of thing is immature at best and signals a really low sex drive at worst.

hassan9873 · Answer

Honestly it will be hard to wait.. but as a husband I'll appreciate it.. and if there's someone like that, yes I'd date her,  But would you date someone who has already have sex before?

Dargil · Answer

Please, be Honest . Here it is. I am spoken for, but if I weren't: I'd at least date her two or three times to get her story and goals straight and see if I can work with them. Deferring intercourse for marriage is possible but abstaining from advancing sexual intimacy up to that point is not.

Nephilim000 · Answer

I'd date her. I think it would be pretty awesome. I respect someone who values virtue in a world that doesn't

Rexos · Answer

I'm suspicious of any women that promotes herself as "attractive, smart, kind and affectionate", that says something about her personality that I might not like.

StylesbyDR · Answer

I dont care if they are a virgin or not

blutwolfe · Answer

Nope would not date her

Ripper_E · Answer

I'm good with it. Her not being a virgin isn't going to make me want her more.

Browneye57 · Answer

Your virginity isn't a condition or a malady that needs to be fixed or cured.  Just find a quality guy and DATE him. This is what normal people do. The sex will come naturally. You can't cheat this.

genericname85 · Answer

i have no issue with ating a 25 year old virgin. however i have no interest in waiting till marriage. so as soon as i know she's waiting till marriage, i'll move on. i don't have time to waste.