Is being Groped by a friend a bad thing?

i have been thinking all time about an incident when a male friend of mine groped my boobs while we were standing in the school bus
he is a good friend of mine and i respect him that's why i didn't react all the time when he was doing it. i didn't feel harrased as well as pleasured but i fear he might start doing it often frequently.
what should i do?
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  • Am I correct in thinking this wasn't just a quick brushing- that is, something that could've been an accident? If what he did bothers you, tell him to stop. Or to not do it again, rather. If you didn't say or do anything at the time, he may not know that it's a problem. That doesn't make it okay if it bothers you, but if he did and you didn't let him know, you can't expect him to. Sit him down privately and talk to him about it. "Don't grope me" is not a complicated idea to get across.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Well... if it was a crowded bus, and/or an accident on his part, it would hardly class as anything more than an accident. You would also need witnesses and evidence before making any claims against him

Most Helpful Girls

  • Just privately tell him that you don't like when he does that. Say you didn't want to call him out in the moment but it isn't okay, and tell him that if he does that again you're going to have to do something about it.

    • look being honest it wasn't that i felt bad cause i had experienced that for the first time and he is even a good friend of mine but i just worry that he might get too far and im not even 18..

    • If you want things to happen with him then just tell him that you liked it, but want that kind of thing to only happen in private, not in public. It's awkward for him to put you in that position in public, you know. Just be clear about what you're comfortable with and in what settings

    • got it.. thanks sis

  • Personally I’d welcome it, but if it makes you uncomfortable then it’s totally unacceptable.

    • nope i wasn't uncomfortable.. it was my first time of anything like that and it just felt like playing with myself in bed... I'm confused

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • If he is a friend just tell him what you are thinking. Just be kind about it.

  • How about telling him that you don't like it and that he has to stop doing it?

  • Just say "Well, excuse me who gave you permission to touch them" Sometimes embarrassing him in front of other people will let him know that it is wrong to touch a female friend's breast?

  • tell him to not do that

  • If you felt comfortable maybe it is your subconscious mind thought that he is not a predator. Is he a good person to you?

    • yaa he is a good friend of mine..

    • Then why don't you let him? I mean I think he will not do anything bad to you. I do have a concern that he might think of it as open invitation to sleep eith you

  • using the word groped and posting about it kind of says that he crossed your boundaries and you are not comfortable with it, Tell him straight do that again and your not my pal anymore and mean it. Claim your power

  • You need to talk to him about it and express your concerns.

  • How did you feel when it happened?

  • He will grope you ass next.

    • * your ass

  • Yes. Seeking secular pleasures sexually hurts your spirituality.

  • confront him privately and tell him how it made you feel

  • Yes, it's called sexual harassment

  • If he didn't get your permission it is a bad thing. You should forcefully tell him to stop if he tries it again. And consider reporting him to the authorities.

  • Tell him to stop doing that and if he doesn't then you should tell you mom or local chaplain