Guys, how do I get used to not having sex after years of amazing & steady sex?

[Hey_Pixies]

& how do I forgive my friend with benefits (of 10+ years, who I love), for ending things out of the blue.. via text?
Its been more than a month now & I'm still so fucking crushed. I haven't had sex in 6 weeks which may not seem like much, but I need that physical connection. It's been an eternity of fucking hell. I can't concentrate for shit, I'm clumsier, I feel dumber & I'm just so fucking sexually frustrated.
I had everything & was so lucky for so long, & now it's just gone. What's worse is realizing that I just gave my power & happiness away like that & I don't know how to get it back.
I'm not interested in finding someone else, so I know there's a pretty good chance that I'll never sleep with anyone again.
& I just don't know how I'll ever be happy or fulfilled again.

[PrudentGuy]

I don't think its possible to "get used to" celibacy after 10 years of active sex life.

Personally, I had experienced short-term (couple of months) celibacy after more than a decade of sex-filled lifestyle. Hence I think I can understand what you're going through now.

While respecting your choice to avoid entering new relationships, still, I think having a SO is the best way to solve your "problem".

Otherwise the next best I can think of is to get yourself an adult toy. It really helps.

Finally, while keeping busy with work and charity may help, try go running and do aerobic exercises. They help too.

All in all, good luck and stay healthy, in body and more importantly in mind.

[Berethor]

That's what happen when a girl don't wait until marriage, though he stayed with you for more than 10 years, and it's more than most friend with benefits relationships tend to last.

[Hey_Pixies]

I'm married for 20 years, but we don't have a physical relationship anymore (for a long time). The last 14 years have been open ones for our marriage.

[Berethor]

So he is your husband just for show basically, your friend with benefits was like your husband.

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[ashish804]

its kinda same with me... for the time being... the frustration is being released somehow with some sexting with the strangers as don't have anyone to get into friends with benefits zone. and further masturbation is only option... till then tryna find someone.. he had surely met someone another whom he has start fucking for sure thats y he had ended

[Iron_Man]

Deal with it suck it up

[FriendlyEnigma]

Honestly 😂 i try to be more empathetic but this ^^^

[Iron_Man]

@FriendlyEnigma I’m speaking from personal experience

[Hey_Pixies]

Thanks for reminding me how simple men's minds are

[Wise4myage]

You just need to get laid, so why not go for one night stand or look for another guy who's into friends with benefits.

[Cryptic-Game]

Just have a strong commitment not to.

[Anonymous]

"haven't had sex in 6 weeks which may not seem like much, but I need that physical connection. It's been an eternity of fucking hell. I can't concentrate for shit, I'm clumsier, I feel dumber & I'm just so fucking sexually frustrated."

"I know there's a pretty good chance that I'll never sleep with anyone again"

Yeah, right