Girls, Girlfriend said she's going to give me a bj, how do I ask if she's going to swallow or not?

I've just started having sex with my new girlfriend. She is very inexperienced but while texting last night she said she is going to give me a blowjob next time she comes over.

Blowjobs are a weakness of mine and if she does it, there is a 100% chance ill cum in less than 5min.
Last night i couldnt find a nice way of asking if she swallows or intends to swallow. I just dont know how to ask someone if she will swallow my cum.

But obviously i dont want to surprise her with a mouthful if she's not expecting it?

How do i raise this issue in a way thats not weird?
Is it common for girls to swallow or not?
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  • Nobody starts off swallowing! Give me a break! Let me address your question, that no it's not common for girls to swallow. Real life isn't a porno. As you get more experienced with oral service, as your skill set improves, combined with the length of time your sexual relationship with this person proceeds, then swallowing becomes more likely - or more of a thing to consider.
    If she's new at BJs I highly doubt she's gonna be ready to guzzle your load. She probably is gonna suck at BJs because 95% of girls do -- And you don't 'ask' someone to swallow it, putting that expectation on it. All your responsibility is to do, is to give a head's up when you're cumming, period. Let her/him know, that's the bare minimum - there should be no surprises. Then you just roll with it, whether your dick is in her mouth, next to her mouth, or whatever the case is. I would give her the 'out' or permission to feel free to spit it out should you ejaculate while its in her mouth, after you tell her that you'll tell her when you're cumming.
    PS) For the record, guys give FAR SUPERIOR blowjobs, naturally, because they have the 'owners manual' so if she really sucks at it, politely suggest she head over to pornhub to watch gay blowjob cumshots compilations to get tips and pointers, (or maybe you can watch with her!) -- but by providing an example of exactly HOW to GIVE a proper BJ, you ultimately will benefit. THEY know how to work a dick, trust me.

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  • i would say don't ask let it happen as it happens remember if she gave blowjobs before she's going to know when your about to cum so there's no need to tell her either that your going to cum but most guys do tell you but i think it's mostly for me to stay on the groove so they can have a good orgasm... girls know if you take it out of your mouth you'll fuck up their orgasm... but it's a turn off to force her to swallow i'd say your better off not asking or telling her to swallow... i think most girls are swallowers but i can only speak for myself as i'm a swallower... remember this is only the 1st blowjob so make it pleasant for her to enjoy as well.

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  • When you are getting ready to cum just say so and she will stop sucking if she doesn't want your cum but if she doesn't then just keep going.

    Many girls want to see what it tastes like and if they don't like it, they will spit it out, so have a towel nearby... lol

    Girls, Girlfriend said she's going to give me a bj, how do I ask if she's going to swallow or not?
  • Just be direct tabs straight to the point. Whilst you’re in your zone just ask her if you could cum in her mouth. It’s not weird it’s a simple yes or no. Not everyone is comfortable swallowing and bear in mind that the taste also varies from guy to guy depending on many factors. It’s not uncommon for girls to swallow but it took me years to get used to it without gagging. It’s a lot less sticker than getting it on your face or anywhere else as it’s a nightmare when some of it gets in your hair.

  • Just wait and find out.

    • Do you mean like wait until im almost done and say something like "im going to cum" and just let her choose what to do about it?

    • Yeah 🤷🏻‍♀️She will do what she wants. Don’t ask her something crazy like that.

  • Be a gentleman and warn her and try to pull her off, if she "forces" u in her mouth, then she wants to taste

  • Just wait and see how it goes. Obviously make sure she knows when you’re getting close so she can either carry on or aim it somewhere else.

  • I don't think you ask.

  • Wait till you together & she starts. Then calmly ask can I cum in your mouth? If she agrees just let her do what she wants.

  • If she’s inexperienced, don’t ask or she’ll feel pressured. Just let her know when you’re about to cum so she can decide for herself what to do with your cum.