What makes a girl bad in bed?

[lilsezza101]

Im 26 and lost my virginity at 24. Only had one boyfriend and only slept with 2 people. I feel like im really bad as i can't connect with my body. Feel like no body is going to want me now

[MrOracle]

You'd have to explain what "can't connect with my body" means - it seems like a relevant piece of information here, but I'm not sure exactly what you mean by that.

To answer your original question: what makes a girl GOOD in bed is mostly enthusiasm and open-mindedness, so what would make a girl bad in bed is a lack of those things.

[lilsezza101]

I mean that like i don't really understand what turns me on. I can't turn myself on and whenever i try i just give up after about 2 minutes because i feel stupid. Its embarrassing, i wish i could be this person that oozes confidence but im scared of my own shadow 😂

[MrOracle]

Then, in my opinion, it sounds like you need a man who is confident and patient, and you need to tell him this, so that he can spend some time getting you turned on. In my obviously limited experience, if you can break through a girl's walls and release her sexuality, it's like a dam breaking, and she goes wild. But a lot of it is that she needs trust and an emotional connection with the man. You really need to look for a man who has feelings for you, who is confident, and who is patient. And don't be so hard on yourself.

[magiusX26]

to connect to your body its easier if you keep your mind open (sexually) and do not feel ashamed or guilty about pleasuring yourself.

to me, things that can make a partner bad at it are

being boring (only a few positions or always the same few things)

being closed minded instead of open minded about fetishes/kinks. (see above issue)

not really participating (lays there like a dead fish kind of stuff)

always expects me to initiate and do all the work

having a bad attitude about sex (things like treating it like its just some chore they can't wait to get over with)

[katiesmuff]

Generally if your lady parts are hygienically clean and fresh, you do more than just lay there like a dead fish your not considered bad in bed.
Some action on your part is required

[Anonymous]

Being passive in bed makes you bad in bed (not in a sexy bad way).

[AustinMan]

I'm so sorry you feel that way. What's it about? Shame? Guilt? Disappointment?

[DrippingHoney]

Lack of effort

[hornyafbi69]

Just laying there like a board no eye contact things like that

[boggboss]

Laying down doing nothing

[TadCurious]

If she doesn't have an open attitude about physical intimacy and can't be comfortable in her own skin and just lies there unresponsive and inhibited.

[RHK36]

Just in general laziness, lack of emotion and tensing up.

[Thatsamazing]

What makes a girl bad at sex:
Laying there like a fish rather than getting involved; refusing various positions and only doing "missionary"; not sucking dick, not swallowing; never initiating sex herself, and waiting for the male to do it all the time; refusing to consider anal; having a loose pussy.

[wondering_guy]

I don't know, I don't have much experiemce

[Wise4myage]

Don't be silly, lots of guys would love to date you. Laying their like a dead fish is never good, and being open minded and spontaneous is good. Have you tried exploring your own body to find out what turns you on?

[COMMODOREII]

You just need more practice. Don't you have a partner who can help you learn your body as you explore your sexuality?

[Twalli]

My girlfriend lost her's at 33

[GreenGold1992]

Sounds like no one is giving you a chance to practice and improve, which I feel isn't very fair to you.

[allaboutyou2]

The secret of fulfilling intimacy is connecting with your partner not connecting with your own body.
If you work on the mental and emotional connection then completely satisfying intimacy will follow.

[iFarted]

When she just lays there and doesn't put any effort it's bad. Or any teeth during oral, flat boney booty and riding too hard up and down.. shit hurts after a while.

[TrustOfWorthington]

If a girl is very picky of what she will do or won't do and is demanding qnd stressing before any action even started... you are great and you will be great. the most important feature is: You do want ypu want to do sexually. be nice but clear about it. You deserve to be happy like any other human being so don't think too much about how you will be in bed. every partner is a fresh start and should be treated as such. Loving is more important so focus on that first, the rest comes all by itself :)

[In_Trance]

Confidence enthusiasm passion and being open-minded

[lilsezza101]

So a lack of the above makes them bad in bed?

[In_Trance]

I suppose that depends how you quantify the term good. If you eliminate those four terms from the definition what else is left?

[whybnormal]

The right guy will help you grow, improve and lear what you enjoy and how to move. You just haven’t been with that guy yet. He will still want you!

[male45]

I think it takes two to be good in bed

[bassinguy76]

Just laying there... it's boring

[Gripper1970]

I am sure you are not bad, it was your first time, You will learn things to make yourself better. Do not sweat it.