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My boyfriend wants more sex, but I think I'm just not as physically attracted to him as he wants. How do I express this?

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When I met my boyfriend, I had been dating meat head after meat head, going for the tall, dark, handsome guy always. These relationships tended to be sex-based, with me wanting to tear into these guys all the time and vice versa.

Well, shockingly, this did not result in long lasting, happy relationships. Once I realized this, I trained myself to focus on the stuff that MATTERS, and that's when I met my boyfriend. I thought things were going really well! I think about him constantly and feel like we have a strong connection even though he's shorter, chubbier, balder, and just generally way more "average Joe" than my preceeding parade of Ken dolls.

Well, tonight we told me he wants more sex. He said in kind of a jokey way that he wants me to think about having sex with him all the time, so I guess he must have picked up on the fact that I don't? We have sex probably about 80% of the times we see each other, which is about twice a week, and when we do, even though I don't undress him with my eyes first, the sex is good! I thought we were fine!

I don't know how to tell him that I'm just much more attracted to his personality than his body without hurting his feelings. I'm falling for him, but I can't force myself to lust for the short, chubby guy when I (not to mention thousands of years of reproductive instinct) tend to favor a more fit guy when it comes to the physical.

I'm really sad. I don't want to lose him over sex. What do I do? What do I say?
My boyfriend wants more sex, but I think I'm just not as physically attracted to him as he wants. How do I express this?
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