Would you Please Share your coming out stories?

Question

How did you know if you are gay or bi? How was your coming out experience? What problems do you face? Any advises? I'm totally confused about my sexuality!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I came out a couple times before I figured it out. Initiately I actually came out as a lesbian (I'm a trans guy, but this was back when I hadn't figured that out yet and was still living as a girl). This was a premature coming out when I was like 12-13, mostly because at the time I had no interest in guys or girls, but I felt pressure to figure myself out. Everyone else my age was talking about who they liked, and I felt weird for not liking anyone. I was pretty scared of and intimidated by guys at the time, so I figured that must mean I was into girls. So I came out as a lesbian.
When I was 15, I started to notice guys and I came out as bi. No one I came out to really cared either way so I didn't have to really worry about that.
At 16 I met a trans guy and everything started making sense. I realized I wasn't a girl. A few months later I came out as a trans guy and for a while that was it. My family had more of an issue with that, and it caused tension between me and my mom until I was 21. Me and one of my brothers still have some issues to sort out, and I avoid my grandpa when I can because he's actively rude to me about it.
Now I'm 22 and if people ask I tell them I'm gay or queer. I haven't bothered telling people that I'm not bi because I don't see the point. They've seen me date girls and guys so I don't feel the need to try and explain that I'm not adverse to dating girls but I'll probably be sticking with guys.
Coming out can complicated and scary and confusing, even with accepting family and friends. My only advice is not to be afraid to experiment with labels and change them if they don't fit. You don't have to be 100% sure about your sexuality, and it's normal for it to change through your teens and 20s. Please don't stress about it too much because eventually you will figure it out. Also, don't feel like you HAVE to come out if you realize you aren't straight. If you don't feel safe, or jus don't want to for any reason, it's fine to keep it to yourself until you're in a better place to deal with it.

NorthwestRider · Accepted Answer

I came out as bi like a year or two years ago. Not many problems I faced Love my men how I love my women Someone who is dominant, a biker, ride horses and wears leather