Should I lose my virginity?

I’ve been wanting to do it for awhile but I’m just scared I will regret it. I’m starting college next year so I feel like why not do it. I’m planning to do it with this boy but I’m not sure if I should, we’re basically friends with benefits so we don’t really feel anything for each other and I’m thinking it should be with someone who at least cares about me. I know he’d be nice about it and an overall good experience because I do trust him but still.
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  • It all depends on how you value your virginity and how much value you put into having sex. Some people see it as a sacred thing while others view it as if it's nothing special at all. Just urges people have to fulfill. Given what you have written, I don't think you should. It shouldn't be an act you're hesitating to do, especially because you're not sure how you feel about it. If you believe you should have a better relationship with the person, then you should wait until you have that special someone, because you'll regret it otherwise.

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  • Wait until your married, sweety. You will regret this choice later down the road. Keep your virginity. The legal age to get married is 18 years old. Don't make such a decision that's reckless and think that sex is fun and games. It's not games. And you don't want to do that in an uncommitted relationship such as being married. They ain't about them being nice with you and anything that stuff. Once you have sex outside of marriage, you tie yourself to that individual usually. It's not a rite of passage. It's something that you hold dear to your heart.

  • Hmm.. I guess I’m just like what’s the rush? There’s no need to treat your first time as like a chore or something to get out of the way. Plus, You’ve already made it through high school a virgin, which is awesome considering all the peer pressure around and the stigma that something is wrong with you if you make it to 18 a virgin (at least that’s how it was at my school lol). So why not just wait to share that experience with someone you actually like and likes you back?

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  • From what I understand a major component to the enjoyment of sex for women is knowing that the guy cares about you. I wouldn't suggest taking a pass on insisting you enjoy the sex, whatever that may require - this is true be it your first time or your 50000th time.

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  • i did at 14 and it was nice and i'm fine with it, but everyone is different

  • You can only loose your V card once. Make sure it is with the right guy at the right time in your life. Do you think your friend would be willing to have sex? Is he a virgin also? Maybe just get naked with him and try fingering oral or handjobs to start out. If you do decide to have sex talk about and plan on birth control first... that way you have one less thing to worry about. Your thoughts?

  • Really depends on how you feel, and depends on the friendship you have with him.
    Hmu if you want to discuss

  • when you are ready and not feeling pressured then it's up to you... but personally i would recommend waiting tbf

  • Moral issues aside, why give up your virginity casually? How do you benefit? What do you lose, other than your first time? Your status need not be worn on you sleeve. Should you reserve it for someone that matters?

  • My god, I'm done answering these dumb questions. Have some respect for yourself woman

    • You need help. I know you're afraid of not finding a relationship and men not sharing your views as to what a relationship is, that's why you ask about who's down voting you because you're afraid that if more than one man shares a view, you might have greater difficulty finding love. I see you babe.

    • @Derekk Lmao, is that what you think the "problem" is? I don't need any help hun. But thanks!

  • Most peoples first time can be regretable but I think if you found someone who you can do it with who care for you then I say go for it, weither it's good or bad sex, you can treasure in the thought it was with someone you feel comfortable with rather than some collage dude.

    Jist make sure you use protection, some may say you won't get pregnant or they will pull out but best not to risk it.

    Get some lubricant to help if you do, so yeah get some condoms too, be safe.

  • If you’re in doubt about losing your virginity don’t. It’s not worth losing it just for the sake of it.
    If you rush into things you will probably regret it afterwards.

  • "Losing your virginity" shouldn't be a task or a goal. Virginity is lost when someone who hasn't previously had sex has sex. ... But sex shouldn't be the goal, either. The goal should be love. If you find someone you love, who also loves you, THEN have sex (when you're ready.). It's a special thing, though, so please don't do it lightly.

  • You are under 18, your drive is prolly high but first sex and with friends with benefits? I mean its ok to experience/experiment all other stuffs but intercourse I would think twiçe. It would be better to have sex wit the one you love and care, it will be more special.

    Your call though.

  • I’d wait until marriage.

  • Up to you really.

  • You don't have to do it before college

  • If you have to ask then no.

  • Lose it when you're ready for it

  • I guess you should lose it to someone you love and not with you are friends with benefits.

  • only you know when it is time

  • PM me for advice

  • Take your time and find the right person. You are still young

  • No you should wait until you're married. You could get pregnant, an STD, or betrayed.

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