Girls, why should a guy pay on the first date if you won't give any moral obligation either?

[Anonymous]

If a guy pays lets say $100 on 3 dates, each being $100 for $300 in total and after the 3rd date your like, "I'm talking to someone better right now forget this guy". I'm giving an example, it doesn't have to be $300 but usually 3 dates will be at least $200 (for an activities, dinner or lunch, gas fair, etc). I am not trying to be cheat by counting every dollar. But if a random dude came up to you and asked you for $100 even if he was homeless, most likely you would say "no". Why is that? Because you say, "I don't want to waste my money on someone I don't know". Therefore if you are dating a guy and could turn around and say, "I'm not going to give this guy a chance because he's someone I don't know or don't care about", why should a guy pay for dinner? Please don't talk about chivalry women, if y'all flaunt your tits or ass on IG to gain more attention don't expect guys to reciprocate with acts of chivalry towards you either.

Let's just keep it real now, stop beating around the bush. If you want a guy who has tattoos, parties and drinks and you have that life style then don't drag a proper nice guy down and ghosting him afterwards because that's what children do. Also, if that's the type of guys you want to date then understand all those guys will look at you as is nothing more then a "fuck thing" and suffer from depression or outbursts of anger or such petty issues. I have seen it happen to many couples so don't deny these facts. The best relationships are the one's where people want to be modest, private, honest and respectful by showing humbleness and appreciation. If everything I said is wrong, umm... What is right then?

[Anonymous]

I’ve never in my life been on a date that has cost anywhere near $100. Not even while in a relationship. And yes, the guy should pay for the first date without expecting anything in return, and mlst importantly not whine or even think twice about it. It’s for the romance and gentleman aspect of it. If he doesn’t want to pay he can go and be cheap with some other girl who don’t mind dating him and I can find a man who is, in my eyes, a real man. Win win. He most likely has a bunch of other qualities, opinions and values that I don’t want in a partner anyway (and vice versa for that matter).

[Asker]

So your fine if you toy with a guys feelings while he pays for you if you have your sights set on other dudes... Yeah no thanks, this is why I don't trust girls nowadays.

[thegirlfromthething]

If he’s the one who asked me out it’s the polite thing to do. After the first date I wouldn’t mind splitting the bill or taking turns paying for each date but the first time you go out together, the asker should pay. If I asked a guy out I would expect to pay for everything.

[Quackthulu]

The person who initiates the date is responsible for paying. Why are you trying to make it more complicated than that? If you can’t afford to take someone out, don’t take them out.

[Asker]

thats pointless then because why would girls ask out guys, y'all are going to not say 1 word and not speak up.

[Quackthulu]

Just because you have never been asked out by a girl doesn’t mean other guys haven’t.

[Asker]

actually other guys dont, majority of the time its guys who ask, im sorry im not a billionaire or look like Brad Pitt or a drunken weed smoking douche bag that girls fall head over heels for.

[Quackthulu]

Not really sure what your point is, or why are you still confused about a simple rule. If you ask someone out you are taking them out, not the other way around. Period.

[Asker]

if a girl asked me out id say lets split it, i owe nothing to her and she owes nothing to me, there is no moral obligation, i consider dating like interviews, girls have made it annoying to date... I know what your going to say, "keep whining bud" or "there ya go assuming"

[Quackthulu]

And many other people who get asked out offer to split too. But they have no obligation to do so.

[DrippingHoney]

If you're so concerned about paying for something and it not working out, just get a hooker. They're a sure thing.

[Asker]

I don't want to catch an STD, then again, what's the difference with the amount of guys that girls sleep around with nowadays.

[DrippingHoney]

Oh great, an aspiring INCEL

[Asker]

u can use all the words you want, i can turn around and say "oh great a feminist extremist"

[Asker]

what a stupid word to, incel, your the one who made a stupid comment about hookers.