Why does it depend on guy to make sex "great"?

inspired by Friends, Chandler doing it for the first time with Kathy. Why is he blamed for the "lacking" experience?
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I can't let a man take over me in bed. I think my performance solely depends on me. Leaving it all on him is just sick.
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  • In the past, it was probably true that the guy had to take the lead and make sure it lasted long and certain positions were tried and the women would just follow along. Even with all the changes in society and culture through the years, there are still many men and women that believe this and so when the act fails to deliver, the man gets blamed. Things have started to change but I don’t think we’re to the point yet where both sides get equal credit or blame. Each side needs to pull their weight. Women need to try to take the lead more and the man should be ok with this. It takes two to tango so if it doesn’t work, each side should shoulder some blame.

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  • I've never heard that. I just know that The guy has to make it great for the girl and the girl has to make it great for the guy. But a lot of people are too busy focused on pleasuring themselves rather than their partner. I personally prefer to pleasure myself while pleasuring my partner.
    👏 MULTI-TASK 👏 PEOPLE 👏

  • I agree 100%!!! You can’t just lay there.

    For the record your writing (and you) definitely have a certain raw sexuality, but even more importantly a sense of romance.

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  • We need to be lovers then because i feel the same way i think only one time a girl got me tured on ,, I don't mean it like it sounds all girls do but for me if I make it all about her and the more turned on I can get her then that's the more turned on I get and I think to be fair and honest if I control it kinda of then I last longer and I like marathon sex

  • Because of the power dynamic. And I ain't talking about physical strength. Usually, the woman lets the guy hit it. So since the man is usually chasing the woman, a lot will feel like "he better put in the work" because they could easily replace him with someone more competent.

  • I NEED her to be there, and participate, ACTIVELY with what SHE LIKES and NEEDS!! If she isn't there, then I won't be either, and it will be over. . .
    So many just assume he will know what she wants and likes, and every woman is different!!

  • Of course it doesn't, both partners have to be enthusiastic, creative and responsive to the other's desires.

  • The whole atmosphere depends in people's mind on guys , that is correct not wrong but not all times.

  • It should always be mutual and never put on the guys shoulders entirely. The world needs more girls In it who think like you, lol.

  • The guy needs to last, women don't.

    • Double standard? Lol

    • Yeah but the thing is, for a lot of guys if they cum, they're done for awhile. Women can cum over and over without causing any real delays. inb4 some guy comes in here claiming to have a refractory period of 5 seconds.

  • Yes your right, when the girl not getting what she needs to have orgasms, she must communicate that to her sex partner so he can do what he needs to, to satisfy her. It's not right for her to get all angry and storm out & blame the man! The man wants to try again, try again.

  • yes thank you can you tell that to my ex?

    • Gimme her number and I will.

  • It is up to the woman and man to make fucking great.

  • It depends on both people.

  • I don't like lazy women do I don't know

    • I don't either! Laziness at least during sex is an instant turn off. PS. I'm kinda bi so yes I can agree with that.

  • a lot of people seem to think it's all about the man. It's all about them. But if people actually started to use that brain of theirs. They would realise that it's not. It's about the chemistry and connection between the two that makes it good.

  • that's the feminist ideology that gets projected on to females to have unrealistic requirements for guys

    • Dragging feminism everywhere are we

  • My perception is totally opposite😅