Boyfriend wants to cum on my face. Should I let him?

[Anonymous]

We’ve pretty much done everything else together and I am aware that facials are a thing people do. On one hand, I want to do this for him because he seems into it and I love him. On the other, it just seems like something guys do during a random hook up... fuck her and cum in her face to disrespect her. I don’t want him to lose respect for me. For people who have done this in a relationship, how did it go? Does it change anything with how he saw you afterwards? Does he still have respect for you? Any perspectives are welcomed.

[J9inva]

I have done that with my girl. Of course she was hesitant at first. I had always told her that her sucking me and swallowing was the most loving and intimate thing she had done. She asked "even more intimate than sex?" So I told her that cumming on her face was not being disrespectful at all. That on her part it would be even more loving and intimate than her swallowing. I pretty much had to beg her to convince her but she finally agreed to let me do. One time, she said. She was laying in bed and I was inside her mouth, going in and out. As I was about to cum I pulled out and grabbed myself and aimed. It splattered all over her mouth, nose, eyes and hair. We already had a warm washcloth handy and after the feeling of ecstasy died off, I very gently, and with great care cleaned her face and then kissed her all over. She said "One time". LOL. Now that's a regular part of her sex life. Sometime she even initiates it and asks me to cum on her face.

[StinkygirlLover]

I think being hot and dirty together is a sign of closeness but I think everybody's different with that. I love coming on my girl's face and then cuddling her after

[AmandaYVR]

You do not have to do that, enjoy that, put up with that. It's a manipulation, girl. They see it in porn, it has become normalized, but you're right, it is disrespectful. It's about domination. It's about pseudo ownership. They're trying to mark you as their territory, their property.

I'm not even going to read the male responses here. "But it's hot" is not an answer, or reason to do it. Stand up for yourself, and demand more. "No" is all you need to say.

[ragequeen]

When you are in a relationship, nothing sexual you do is to disrespect you, if you truly love each other. It`s about trying new things and making stuff exciting.

[StinkygirlLover]

Well said

[domasphuck]

I do it with my fiance about once a month its just a fun thing to do she's neutral about it and we are happy together i don't think its disrespectful

[Asker]

So it doesn’t change how you look at her at all?

[domasphuck]

Sorry missed your message and not in the slightest

[AustinMan]

It sounds like his respect for you is solid. I suggest trying it a few times.

[Stazz76]

Hell no.
That's nasty to clean up, and you might not be able to undo it entirely.
Look for microscopy video of what sperm do. They swim and when they find an egg, they penetrate. I wouldn't want this in my eyes.

[Daniela1982]

Just another version of "Where do you want the guy to cum?" question. Do you dummies ever ask anything else except the top ten questions on GaG? I swear, if I just had a nickel. . .

[Agonist]

LOL take it easy. Each person just wants their own personal confirmation on what they think is their own unique experience ;P

[Laurs37]

Yes and ask him to do it as he’s about to cum. Guys love hearing the words “cum in my face”.

[ushagomez]

Remind him, with a lovely smile, that life is not a porn movie. If he resists then ask him which toy he would like you to insert in him whilst he tries...

[Andreapuss]

It can feel very good to disrespect someone you love in bed. In the hear of the moment. But when he's done, you're still the one he loves.

[4eyes2mouths]

I personally never liked to do it because I've found it degrading though if she were to ask for it I wouldn't think twice about doing it.

[Levin]

It's not about disrespect.

There's a difference between dominance and disrespecting. He wants to dominate you. Plus it's a naughty thing to do.

[shreya_shiry]

See if you feel it's disrespectful then you shouldn't do it. And I don't think it could affect your relationship. It's just a sexual act. It's not disrespectful if both of you want to do it.

[Asker]

I want to do it for him but I know some guys do it to disrespect a woman. I don’t think he wants to disrespect me but I’m afraid he might see me differently if I allow it. Now that I’m looking at what I wrote, it doesn’t make a lot of sense does it?

[shreya_shiry]

You said it yourself lol. If you two love each other then there is no point in worrying that his feelings would change. And maybe you can think like this, if you do it for him then maybe he would love you even more for trying this thing🤷. But ultimately decision is yours.

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice. It makes sense.

[TCredo]

To the asker, agreed - @shreya_shiry does give great advice - I'd suggest the best on this thread - very well explained.

[DrippingHoney]

It's entirely up to you just don't get cum in your eyes or hair.

[Yellovv]

Why not on hair?

[Jersey2]

@Yellovv it’s a pain to get out... I have heard the complaint... mine was accidental as it was I shot it from her waist all the way to her hair and face, in the dark lol.

[Yellovv]

What happens if the cum goes to hair, why don't girls like it? Is it because it sticky?

[0112358]

It doesn’t change my perspective in a negative way... in spite of the fact it is disrespectful.
To me it’s a little act of Dom/sub right at my orgasm. That’s fun and hot. But Dom/sub play doesn’t impact in any negative way how if view a partner in reality. Beyond just feeling closer.

[elizamichale1]

Lol who told u that they do it to disrespect us huh
Its not like that darling... guys just love doing it coz this is what they have watched in porn over n over
My boyfriend does it all the times he cums in my mouth on my face on my tits n thats how i love it as well n there hasn't been any disrespect or difference in our relationship

[es20490446e]

https://youtu.be/OvnRs_GWp1c

[KatherineJ]

That’s entirely up to you. My husband knows better than to even ask me. (It’s a no)

[Jman001]

So I take it you don’t swallow either?

[KatherineJ]

@Jman001 I do. There’s a huge difference between swallowing, and having him shoot the stuff in my face.,

[Jman001]

Care to elaborate?

[KatherineJ]

@Jman001 I already did

[Agonist]

This is not a huge turn on for me, but I kind of agree with @jman001... where is the difference and how is a facial disrespectful?

[KatherineJ]

@Agonist how would you like to get cum in your eyes? It’s a porn thing, and I’m not a porn actress. Other women might think differently, but I think it’s demeaning.

[Agonist]

Uhmmm.. there is some logic gap here... but ok

[KatherineJ]

@Agonist no there isn’t. Would you want cum in your face?

[Agonist]

@KatherineJ Facial and swallow are both porn acts. We learn these arousal acts from porn. Cum stings the eyes, but also tastes bad for most girls (apparently). Cum comes out of an organ used most of the time for waste elimination. After all of these similarities, you're still saying that these two acts are DIFFERENT? Sure. That is totally ok. But WHERE is the difference? Why is it okay to ask to put a load in your mouth and down your GI (which is worse since you are consuming potential disease and waste in cum) but not okay to put cum on your face (which is better since the skin is a protective barrier and you can simple wash off)? These are the logic gaps. My theory is that swallowing has become culturally more acceptable from porn and guys find it more satisfying while facials has not YET. again, facial is not a turn on for me, so I don't really care. I am just curious. Why are facials degrading? I don't understand it. But hey, your body, your choices. Enjoy :)

[Agonist]

Made a separate Q for this. Feel free to explain here: //qt/sexual-behavior/q4306451-for-girls-who-enjoy-swallowing-but-not-facials-why-do-you-think-that

[mich15smith]

i don't think he will repect you less after that

[1amcurious]

I dont think its a disrespect if its within a relationship, its just another fantasy, if he so wants to do it, maybe its for his fantasy. Its your call though if you want to do it or not.

[TheFlak38]

if you dont want to do that then break up and let him find someone better.

[COMMODOREII]

First of all it is not a thing to do it is an idea brout on by porn. I've never gave any of my lovers facials in the past. I might if they insisted but most of the girls i have been preferred me to cum inside of them. So it really is up to you if you want to do it then go for it. I took consider it degrading or at least it seems that way. Sex has to be approved by both parties.

[Twalli]

I don't think it's a sign of disrespect.