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Would you consider me a "slut" for having sex with 30 people? I'm 30 now?

Hi!

Do you really think that im a "slut" for sleeping with 30 people, i'm 30 years old now, when i was young, I had resorted to being a "hooker" as a kid and for other personal issues, once i turned 16 I stopped, yeah i have kissed people when drunk, fooled around, but i didn't just straight up sleep with them right away, did some kinky shit mostly, i'm a bdsm/s&m kinda person, and yeah i experimented with that shit from 18-26 years old, maybe that might be classified as slutty, i did have a few one night stands when drunk when i was single after i broke up with 4 of my most serious relationships since i was 18, i have been engaged 3 times, I have had "homeless" guys come to my place and not gonna lie, did pay for them for there company to sleep over, get high drunk and yeah we cuddled, kissed, but not hardcore sex mostly in my "dark and depressed days" I would say im a "cuddle" whore lol as i use to call myself.
maybe that could be classified as acting slutty, my relative started saying personal things to random people who come over to my our place about this when she was pissed and angry, now i feel i have this "street" reputation that i come across as a "slut/whore" cuz of different drunk homeless guys coming over and the neighbours seeing, now, cuz she does know a lot of people, so it has appeared I had sleep with lots of people cuz i invite them to my room, which truth be told no, I had my ex's homeless friends stay in the same room as me too, and didn't do anything, just party and joke around too. I would say im kinda a "Tom Boy" and do have guy friends and liked to party alone with them. Some person seen me with my ex fiance, we had sex in a car and we accidentally got caught, and a other time somebody caught me making out with him in public hardcore, but nothing like taking my clothes off or anything, that time in a car makes me feel like I was a slut for it, but we were hammered, it was awhile and we were homeless. What do you people think?
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Superb Opinion

  • I don't know if I woukd say sluty or not i think you have been through a lot and you feel better when with someone I think you like the feeling of being high and touching fucking having sex I think you like the feeling of someone's energy fucking u slow and deep to be honest is I believe your van Empath and don't know it or understand it and when someone comes around you that you can really feel it's by chance they can get you high and you feeling you had now is 5 times greater and so you think that it's the getting high part that is making you feel what your feeling ,, it's not hey if you ever get a few min to chat send me a message please I'm an Empath and if you are as I think you are then it might just explaine things, of what is really going on in your life

Most Helpful Guy

  • I don't know how to answer this question.

    I will say that you asking us what we would call you tells me you don't value what you think of YOURSELF.

    I think you need to heal and focus on yourself as a person, because people are going to call you something in this life no matter what you do.

    That's my take on this.

    • Thank you! I understand just cuz somebody "sleeps around" doesn't make them a bad person, but i do feel bad about cuz of other people views on this, i was a teeanger "whore" for personal reasons, it wasn't how i was in my 20's thou.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Since you are asking for opinions, then you must also accept the fact that people will judge you for your extreme sexual activity over such a short period of time.

    I have my opinion about people that have excessive number if sexual partners and 30 are definitely an extreme number.

    But if a high body count and a massive trophy list is what rocks your boat, then by all means, continue your quest.

    As long as I don't have to shake your hands or kiss you, I am okay with it.

    • No, a high number of people is not what i want, most of these people i slept with was when i was a "street" hooker as a kid, I just liked the physical intimacy closeness, cuddling etc before,

    • it doesn't make it better, but i think i only actually slept with 20 people.

    • 20 people are actually an overwhelmingly large number by my standards but if that is what you needed or wanted, then who am I to tell you how to live your life. Just hope for you that you did not pick up nasty things on the way.

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  • You use sex to get close and read it as being loved.

    I don't see you as a slut but just someone who needs proper love in their life.

    • Thanks! I'm in a committed relationship, and I wouldn't ever cheat on him, just cuz i know whats it like, and even thou if somebody did cheat on you, what good would it do to "hurt" them back, I think you hurt yourself doing that!!!

    • You are welcome, 🙂 I'm happy you found someone and I agree cheating is bad.

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  • Whoa whoa.. You were a hooker BEFORE 16? Did these guys know they were fucking a kid? Jesus... and anyone who judges YOU isn’t someone who’s opinion matters

  • well if you have ever cheated then yes. But sleeping with 30 people not really who cares about that longs if your still clean of stds. Then what you described sounds more like rough life, druggie, sexual abuse done to you kinda fell into all that shit, and kinda gone through the self destructive street life thing. Which i don't know what i would call that. But i wouldn't really judge you badly for it. Life is shit sometimes and people live in weird bad situations.

    • Thank you! :) I did have a rough life, i did end sleeping on the streets when i was a kid, teenager, etc.

  • Lol, no you're fine.

  • No, that is not many at all for a 30-year-old.

  • It seems like you feel regret over your actions.
    You did develop a bad repute. And I think the stigma is enough to keep enforcing slutty behavior.
    What you need to do is break up with this behaviour you have learned over time
    It will be hard but I think you will have to stop keeping males company

    • Thank you! I don't believe this is "me", i'm done being flirty, touchy feeling, i understand some people might call me a "slut" for this, but i do have a boyfriend and dont this shit now.

    • I think it will die down but it will be hard. I hope you have a happy purposeful life ahead of you:)

    • Thanks! i have had random people think Im a hooker and try to pick me up, just cuz i assume when i was a kid/teeanger, people knew what i was doing, soo maybe now thats why people say that shit, but even some past hookers are good people, or have seen me with my ex making out, doing "lewd" behavior towards me when drunk, i swear somebody called me a " tramp" the other day, but a tramp is actually not a person that sleeps around in my eyes, its a type of person who travels from place to place on foot in search of work or as a vagrant or beggar. I have been homeless and know some terms, I was homeless with my ex fiance for 3 years! I have seen many different types of homeless people, its especially not easy for homeless women, they have to survive hardcore and its even harder when your alone.

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  • No. You're not

  • Yes, more than 15 is a slut in my opinion, you clearly have had a lot of casual sex and don’t value deeper relationships very much

    • yeah once i was younger i acted like a "skeptical" slut, but i was more of a "Whore" growing up for personal issues, but its not who i'm today, im in a relationship with somebody and i do value what we have, i love him with all my heart.

  • Your fine sweetheart sounds normal for girls☺

    • That taunt wasn't necessary

  • Yeah, 30 not a number I can work with.

    • How many women have you had sex with

  • I would say "used up" is a better term.

  • You're not a slight you just sexually active I'm 46 and have had sex with over a 150 women but I still wanna find that 1 and how my gonna do that without banging her 1st so you gotta try before you buy

    • How did you get that many women

    • @Warmapplecrumble I have been a rock drummer for 43 years played in a few really good bands and played a lot of different venues and had a lot of groupies

    • Why does that make any difference to anything, I wouldn't sleep with a guy just cause he's in entertainment

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  • No. I’m not really sure what slut means. What’s the minimum count of a non slut?

  • You sound experienced!

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    Nah you barely had it out of the garage

  • No, you just had a tough life

  • Not at all. What's good for the goose is good for the gander. Meaning if its okay for guys to have that kind of body count then my not for girls.

  • i do not think you a slut, but my opinion should not matter. how do you feel about yourself, how do you want to feel about yourself

  • My rule of thumb... what and who I did before I meet someone is none of their business. And vise versa. Personally, I want a woman who has experience and experimented before. This way both are comfortable sexually. Plus it tends to be more fun

  • Not at all. I don't think women can be sluts


  • Like sex and has high sex drive

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