A guy friend wants me to take his virginity?

Question

There is this guy whom I had crush since childhood but at 16 he was in a relationship and at 17 he broke off.
Now he is 18 and I am 17. Thoigh I have lost my virginity and he has not. During chatting on messenger he asked me to take his virginity , as I could not restrain myself I told him my feelings but he said he does not want any emotional attachment. The next day I told my friend about it and she said to do it with someone who respects me.
But he is a friend since past 12 years.
What should I do?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

How do you feel about it personally?

The thing is when it comes to emotions, you can't control them. Him or you. If they happen, they will whether you want them to or not. So this could potentially change your friendship, either for better or worse. It will be different though if you do it. So I think it's a personal choice and I'd consider all the possible outcomes and if you can live with them if they happen? Or, do you just keep your friendship the way it is? And if so, then you simply tell him that. That you'd like to help him, but you don't want your friendship to change and you think it will if you do it. He should understand that and accept it if you are truly good friends. And I think you're right also, I assume because you are already friends, that he has some respect for you. It's sad that most women assume sex=no respect, because that's not always the case, even though often it is. But you have that basic friendship there already, so I don't think that's an issue here?

TrustOfWorthington · Accepted Answer

"with someone who respects you" means that he is an idiot. he isn't a friend for 12 years if he has no emotional level for you. He didn't want you then and now he'd just use your feelings for his profit because he is to cold to be loved and have awesome sex. Tell him that you won't have sex without emotional attachment and if he suddenly or ever changes his mind and even if not don't do it. There must be a reason why he didn't nake it the first time. don't let a man ude you and manipulate you into thinking he was your friend all throughout that time.

Boromir · Answer

Don’t. Tell him it’s important that he has feelings for the person he’s having his first time with, in both directions. You’re more worth than just being ‘used’ as an easy way to pop his cherry.

Tell him you’re chiming in 20$ for a fund to send him to an escort. As a gift for a friend.

Berethor · Answer

Though you don't risk much as you already lost your virginity to other guy, don't looks like it worth it, also it kinda silly that he is the one who think that he would not get attached.

pierre7i · Answer

Don't do it, he clearly has no genuine respect for you and afterwards you may find your romantic feelings towards him become stronger & deeper, and his nonchelance towards you would undoubtedly hurt you considerablyDon't do it, he clearly has no genuine respect for you and you may find your sexual experience with him may make your romantic feelings towards him become stronger & deeper, and his nonchalance afterwards towards you would undoubtedly hurt you considerably

Kaneki05 · Answer

Really up to you. Sleep with him because he is your friend and your helping him but probably will be hurt when he still don't like you after. Or don't sleep with him he stay's a virgin and your a bit hurt and try to move on.

blutwolfe · Answer

Don't do it, he's literally using your feelings so he can get a ONS

Browneye57 · Answer

A couple of losers. For god's sakes kids are dumb these days.

es20490446e · Answer

No emotional attachment = Crap

mich15smith · Answer

if you want to, do it. If you don't, don't.

scott04sa22 · Answer

That's up to you. friends with benefits always happens

jmf909 · Answer

If your his first then more than likely he will get feelings for you from it and he is just trying to be cool about it it is up to you if your the type to do one night stands but it is totally up to you and it is almost guaranteed he will be back many times so won't be a one nigjt stand maybe he just nervous as you have been friends for so long

AmeerX · Answer

No don't it

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I say don't do it. He's just trying to use your vagina. Friend or not, that's a selfish thing to do.

Wise4myage · Answer

Let me ask you a question. What was your gut feeling right after he asked you? He says he doesn't want any emotional attachment but I think Its gonna be hard to do in his instance for both of you.

Twalli · Answer

Since you already had sex and he is a friend, it should be okay, but you seem to still like him and he doesn't seem like he wants to date you so I would urge caution.